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| Author: | Direct [ Thu Mar 04, 2010 3:14 am ] |
| Post subject: | Girl at School,flaked, what do i do now? |
hey guys ive talked to this girl twice at university and we really seem to vibe great and when i asked her out the second time we talked she said she may have been going home for reading break (she did) but she would let me know... i never heard from her. I still see her at school and ive talked to her once, like should i keep trying? If so, how should i continue? |
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| Author: | Direct [ Fri Mar 05, 2010 5:15 am ] |
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seriously? nothing? |
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| Author: | MickCoffee [ Fri Mar 05, 2010 9:17 am ] |
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Hey Direct Just a reference for future posts, add more detail it sure does helps us out more in making an evaluation. Ok so you and your target have great vibe together, that's good but what do you mean by vibe? Do you mean you are similar in personalities or have a great conversation and you both have fun whilst speaking to each other? Give us a little more detail on the 'talks' that you had mate then we'll give our best advice. Happy Gaming  AFCcoffee |
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| Author: | Direct [ Fri Mar 05, 2010 3:14 pm ] |
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My bad man... OK so, when ive gone and talked to her its really fun conversations and theres no awkward silences and kino, just really good chemistry, her body language shouts interested. The second time i talked to her i asked her out and she said that she really would definately be down to party (i asked if she wanted to party with me and my friends i didnt want to be boring and say dinner or movie) and she said she would get back to me because she may have been going home early for reading break. Never heard from her, i still see her around and i talked to her once buti kept it brief and didnt ask her out or anything. My question is, should i keep on trying? im reading a book by mystery and he basically says that being shot down by a girl is not game over as long as i can shrug it off and keep going, normally i would have just said f*** it. I still see her all the time in the library because she goes to the section i study in, hardly ever alone tho. P.S. my opener was a facebook message that told her she had something in her teeth, she thought it was funny. |
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| Author: | whattttttt [ Fri Mar 05, 2010 5:08 pm ] |
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well this definitely is not rejection, you didnt plan anything specific. Next time you see her in the library, open one of her friends, make sure you laugh/ make the other person laugh, target will probably see that, wave to her and say hey, continue talking to the first person. target will either join your convo or not, if not open her up and shoot the shit. then say your doing [something]/ going [somewhere] and that she should tag along. if she flakes on that, then maybe this would be a problem... but this situation your in is a total non-issue. you hardly know the girl, dont put too much thought into it. if you see her approach and invite/ close, get her number. |
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| Author: | Direct [ Fri Mar 05, 2010 10:11 pm ] |
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Thanks, I guess i just gotta suck it up and go in there... OK BOYS I NEED A PEP TALK, LETS GET PUMPED!!!!! MOTIVATE ME!!!!! |
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| Author: | pogox [ Sat Mar 06, 2010 6:28 am ] |
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I think i kind of understand whats happening. When you invited her to go party with your friends. In her mind she probably thought "awkward" meaning your inviting her to go party with people she doesn't even know. So it says something about her personality. She won't do something someone else is coming along. Because for all she knows your friends can be weird? Or she isn't the type that parties? and prefers small social gatherings? So that can be whats happening on her side. Now what you can do is just be direct about it ask her to go out for coffee, or go for a walk. Something.... ANYTHING!!! And go for it. If she rejects you then well game over for this girl. If she doesn't then the game continues. Because not knowing anything, being stuck in between can drive a person insane. |
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| Author: | Rune [ Sat Mar 06, 2010 7:00 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl at School,flaked, what do i do now? |
Quote: hey guys ive talked to this girl twice at university and we really seem to vibe great and when i asked her out the second time we talked she said she may have been going home for reading break (she did) but she would let me know... i never heard from her. I still see her at school and ive talked to her once, like should i keep trying? If so, how should i continue?
Easy answer.Forget the past, and talk to her like nothing happened. Seriously. It's not WHAT you say, it's HOW you say it. |
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| Author: | JackNimble [ Sat Mar 06, 2010 12:08 pm ] |
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Start Kino, escalate as appropriate. It sounds like you have built comfort/rapport with her. However if you are doing MM, remember not to skip comfort. Look back at your time with her and try to determine if you did that. Throw another party, say place, say time. Be specific. I usually say something like... "There's a party/I'm having a party this _____. Why don't you and your friends stop by?" Let her know its ok to bring her friends or else she won't come. As you know, girls don't go partying unless they are in a pack. |
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| Author: | MickCoffee [ Sun Mar 07, 2010 11:08 pm ] |
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Direct Apologies for the late reply, apparently, on my computer anyway this forum was broken and the link was replaced by some other website.. Anyways, that's far better info now man I can at least work on that. You said you have some fun conversations, this is good do not lose this it's one of the prime factors that portrays yourself. Quote: her body language shouts interested.
Quote: she really would definately be down to party
Great, these can be taken as an IOI especially if she said "definately down to party" and I agree, parties are far better to do the pick up as the mind is in more of a quicker mindset and everything flows a little quicker than daytime. However, don't exclude the movies as a dating location, think about it.. Tim Burtons alice & wonderland has just came out, if she hasn't seen it then I'm sure she'd be more than happy to go and see it with you. Though, afterwards I would recommend a coffee shop because the movies can lack communication. I took my date to see it yesterday, we enjoyed the movie whilst stealing each others 3d glasses which escalated to a k-close.Anyways, lets get to your situation.. she said she would get back to you, fair enough. Most hot girls have the confidence to say no so it's a good sign, don't bust yourself just yet. Though what I'm failing to see is some sort of kino which you need to do if you want to k-close without any awkwardness. Kino brings the kiss along more naturally. If I did have to give you anything to follow on it would be your own personality, your personality can excel everything.. by hiding behind canned material you are creating a sort of mask for your personality which you don't want. I'm not saying it doesn't work I just wouldn't call someone a master PUA without naturally conveying their personality in the pickup. It's your most powerful weapon. So next time you see her, kino escalate ok! and get her to invest in you, ask her to meet you somewhere instead of the other way round. The question on mystery.. I agree, even if you get shot down it doesn't mean an eternal no. You'll always have a second chance. Happy Gaming bro AFCcoffee |
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