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Author:  Noz03 [ Thu Jan 21, 2010 4:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Dealing with rejection?
This is relating to a current situation and also something I would like to, or rather need to know about in general.

Baiscally, what is the best reaction to have when you get rejected for things such as suggesting a new location, kino escelation, a future date, ect.?

The current situation I guess would be the last. The whole story would be a long one but basically I am currently seeing a girl who is a bit younger than me and is still a virgin. So far we've been on 3 dates and a 4th was being considered but I guess got a mail from her saying shed rather not meet. Its not such a terrible rejection as her reason she gave was because Ill be joining her and her friends on a little trip early the next day and she thinks she wont get enough sleep if I stay there. But what would be the best way to reply to this without loosing too much face?

Another sitauation with the same girl would be that because she has almost no experience with men before every time I try to kino escelate she always tells me she feels uncomfortable doing it.

So yeah, how should I react in these situations??

Thanks.
Author:  Jnthn20 [ Thu Jan 21, 2010 5:07 pm ]
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The first thing that pops in to my head is just to say, "that's ok, I need to finish some stuff for school anyway" or something like that, make sure she gets the part that it is ok. You don't want her to think you feel bad about it, or else it'll be considerd as a DLV
Author:  Ezo [ Thu Jan 21, 2010 6:52 pm ]
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PUA: Ok, your loss. :) Have a good night.
Author:  Noz03 [ Fri Jan 22, 2010 4:31 am ]
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Well I ended going with the I don't care reply as I been doing a little bit too much cocky funny comments with her. But how about when I get rejected for say trying to make a kino escelation?
Author:  Johnny 5 Star [ Sat Jan 23, 2010 8:17 pm ]
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well since she is a virgin i wouldnt think you would need to be cocky funny so much? just get her comfortable with touching you or being close to you. I dunno but Ezo has always good ideas, i got great tips from him.

EZO i put a post on the feild and gave a shout out to you haha thanks for all your advice.
Author:  0rion [ Sat Jan 23, 2010 8:42 pm ]
Post subject:  You never get rejected.
You never get rejected you simply are finding out if the target has good taste.

As a HVM (High value male) your looking for a HVF (High value female) If a high value male approaches a low value female she will feel intimidated and what to cover her insecurity.

In the feild this is know as:
Incompatibility - the relation between propositions that cannot both be true at the same time.

If there are strong levels of this factor going on in the background it becomes difficult for a set to run smoothly.

In regards to your questions:

But what would be the best way to reply to this without loosing too much face?

Don't respond don't call back don't write back don't text back don't email back don't answer her calls if you see her in real life be polite but also be a little too "busy" to stop and talk to her.

One woman one chance one life time - this is reality.

But the rejection isn't really the big deal here is just a conclusion to a sequence of events.

Keep hunting, get numbers, get others women in the picture. Her actions aren't reflecting a women with high interest level.

How do you raise OTHER WOMEN'S interest level in you might be lacking on the 3 C's around her:

Confidence - Have other women in the background that are better looking then her will provide a whole lot of this. Personally I like to have 6 numbers on hand and be dating a least 2 women. That way if the number one starts acting wrong you can pull pack and focus your attention on the good girls.

Control: Self-control, discipline, self-respect patience. "I will go this far for you and no further. I like my self 2 much to be you your play thing. If you have a problem with that there is the door. Let me help you pack."

Challenge: I don't text message ever. I want to see her body language as often as possible. I have found women speak the truth more with there body then there mouth The phone is used to get to her front door only. Be elusive DON"T CALL HER AGAIN. See how long it takes for her to pick up the phone and get in touch with you. This will answer your question to crystal clarity what her interest level in you REALLY is not what she says it is.

Good luck. Remember your trying to RAISE her interest level higher then yours.

Play on,

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Author:  RockyD [ Sat Jan 23, 2010 8:55 pm ]
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shes clearly nervous, shes a virgin its expected. all it needs its.

" Sure have fun " just say anything that makes you look like you dont really care, and you got better things to do
Author:  redroooster [ Sat Jan 23, 2010 10:41 pm ]
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from having female friends. All girls "know" when it is time.

You just got you find out what is going to make her "know"?

Asking is alway good. "How did you imagin loosing your virginity?" or "what's your most romantic fantasy?"
Author:  Ezo [ Sun Jan 24, 2010 2:41 am ]
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Quote:
EZO i put a post on the feild and gave a shout out to you haha thanks for all your advice.
He he, just give me the link and Im dying to check it out! :)
Author:  Noz03 [ Mon Jan 25, 2010 11:16 am ]
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Ok well lets forget about that girl and talk more in general, is interesting to hear peoples different opinions and techniques. But how about when you get rejected for a kino escelation or kiss close? Or even worse when your actually dating a girl and she rejects you for a kiss ect. I think it's one of my problems that I get too touchy feely once I feel like I already got the girl.
Author:  0rion [ Mon Jan 25, 2010 5:44 pm ]
Post subject:  How many dates?
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Or even worse when your actually dating a girl and she rejects you for a kiss ect.
Personal if the woman makes the jump from target to dating material I feel very conformable that we are both in to each other physically. I find in the beginning its helpful to let the woman control the pace of Kino

1) she knows when she wants to be touched
2) This is a good gauge of interest level

Let her stand / sit too close to you, let her tap your arm, brush you leg under the table these are "buying signs" depending on where you are in the set they can mean different things like "please kiss me" or "lets get out here and be alone together".

I would say if your not kissing after the end of the second date, I would say 2 things are going on:

1) Your dealing with a mercenary who like to be taken out to dinner
2) You have been placed in the "just friends" zone

In conclusion its all about practice, timing and intuition the more sets, dates, and closes you experience the more the "feeling" will be sharpened.
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