hey guys,
im fairly new to all this. ive been using gamblers natural method and i like it a lot. i can open fairly easily and get into a conversation. its just finding things to say that i find hard. especially if the girl isnt giving me many hooks(ie info for me to elaborate on by connecting on her in a positive way).
ill give ye an eg im a uni student and i met this italian chick who is in my uni to study english briefly in a pub who i also met around uni last night in the student bar. she was walking past and said hello. it went like this.
her;hi
me;oh hi hows it going, valeria right(and i point at her)
her;ya thats right
me;(she was with italians so i said, triying to use this as a hook) you are with all your italian friends. i remember when i was doing my foreign year in spain, i was with people from ireland and england a lot of the time. its not good for learning the langauge but when you are feeling lazy its easy to just hang out with people from your own country.
her:ya (and she continued smiling), well there a lot of other nationalities in my group too
then it kinda flaked out and she said well by then.
we were both smiling a lot at each other during the conversation. im guessing thats a good sign.
what i want to ask you guys is how do you find thing to say when you are put on the spot with out talking about boring things like the weather etc.
how could i have extended the converstaion etc.
also she is friends with people who are in my spanish class. so i am going to try and make a good impression on them.
What do you advise guys. your help is much appreciated.
Jon Recovering AFC
