What do you do when you DHV too much and the girl starts to feel bad. I naturally have a lot of things that I can DHV (hobbies, interests, some pre-selection) with but the girl doesn’t. I was out and when I start asking her questions about herself she said “your making me feel like a total loser!!” (just because I wanted to know her hobbies – her’s was texting and eating
). How do you bring yourself down without looking like a loser yourself?My whole logic behind the DHV’s (as you probably know) was to qualify and reward but that kinda backfired. I may be in damage control idk. Should I just start incorporating me being interested because of her personality and nothing else.
Next time I see her I was thinking I could say something like this:
(laughter about something)
“You know, you’re a really cool person, and you make me laugh *high five* I knew it was a good idea to keep you around (c&f)”
Im not sure about that last part but any other suggestions?
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