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| Author: | abstracted [ Tue Jun 02, 2009 9:07 pm ] |
| Post subject: | "I have a girlfriend" - automatic comfort? |
I was at a club with my friend on Saturday night. I opened several sets and had some fun, but I think many of them started wondering, “Why is this guy here,” and I started getting lines like, “We have boyfriends.” I used time constraints initially of course but I think I need a reminder on what to do to get around this… During the night my friend has been busy chatting with one of the female friends that arrived as part of our group. She knows he has a girlfriend, but they end up sharing a cab home. Apparently she was completely ready to ignore the fact he had a GF, though he did not. I tried to get her interest a few times throughout the night, but couldn’t manage to. I am thinking she knew I was single and there was automatic comfort with my friend since he has a GF. Does that make sense? Does anybody take advantage of this by telling a set you have a GF and 'accidentally' letting something happen later? |
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| Author: | DuKoo [ Thu Jun 04, 2009 12:49 am ] |
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personally i think that's a bad idea because it disqualifies yourself when you should be trying to neg and disqualify her as a potential mate. This builds comfort. The girlfriend thing is good because the girl will know that you are not trying to hit on her, but by saying you have a girlfriend you are going straight into the friend zone by disqualifying yourself as a potential suitor. Neg her with smart and funny comments about her that will make her feel discomfort and cause her to be thrown off her game, and the negs will also make her feel that you are not interested and she will take down those walls that are meant for guys who try to get straight into her pants. |
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| Author: | Cornflake [ Thu Jun 04, 2009 1:49 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: "I have a girlfriend" - automatic comfort? |
Quote: I was at a club with my friend on Saturday night. I opened several sets and had some fun, but I think many of them started wondering, “Why is this guy here,” and I started getting lines like, “We have boyfriends.” I used time constraints initially of course but I think I need a reminder on what to do to get around this…
Don't disqualify yourself by saying you have a girlfriend. Also if you end up getting into a relationship with the girl she will know your not honest and think you may have insecurities about being single. At the clubs its very common for girls to have the attitude of "why is he here?" you really need to be careful on how you approach and don't seem overly interested in any particular girl in a group. I for example would go in with an opinion opener, but when they asked why I was asking them or I got the impression of that I would explain I had a bet with my mate and point to a buddy of mine somewhere in the club. Once the replied to my opinion opener I would pretend to be pleased with their thoughts and used it as rapport by saying "omg your soo right, thank you soo much" then give a friendly hug or kiss on the cheek. Stay in the conversation by pretending to be deeply interested in her due to her response and not because you had other motives, then just ask a bit about her but always try and relate it back to yourself ... Hope this helps?
During the night my friend has been busy chatting with one of the female friends that arrived as part of our group. She knows he has a girlfriend, but they end up sharing a cab home. Apparently she was completely ready to ignore the fact he had a GF, though he did not. I tried to get her interest a few times throughout the night, but couldn’t manage to. I am thinking she knew I was single and there was automatic comfort with my friend since he has a GF. Does that make sense? Does anybody take advantage of this by telling a set you have a GF and 'accidentally' letting something happen later? |
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| Author: | Mystical [ Tue Jun 16, 2009 4:22 am ] |
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Wait, what if you mention that you met this one girl but aren't sure if you're as much into her as she is into you, but you're still going out for a coffee with her and stuff to try and know her better. Would that work? Maybe she'd find it weird that you hesitate so much with a certain girl but are ready to have sex at the end of the night. Maybe that's good for people who aren't looking for one-night stands? |
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| Author: | deancasino [ Thu Jun 18, 2009 8:08 am ] |
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If you announce that you have a girlfriend, the build up is going to be a slow one. Comfort wise though, this will give her a chance to get to know you. Chick's love the saying, "All the good ones are either gay or taken" and she'll be walking down that road if you handle it right. |
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| Author: | bucknast [ Fri Jun 19, 2009 6:47 am ] |
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Wait, what if you mention that you met this one girl but aren't sure if you're as much into her as she is into you, but you're still going out for a coffee with her and stuff to try and know her better. Would that work?
depending on the way you said it, it could come off as bragging. it would need to be done carefully. i feel like it could even be used as a good opinion opener, however, with the wrong type of girl she could take your DHV the opposite way and blow you out because you're a cheater. you want girls to think you're getting tons of ass on the side, this creates attraction, but you don't want them to flat out know it because then they're socially obligated to turn the cold shoulder or else risk falling into the slut category. in regards to the original question, i think saying you have a g/f is great to build comfort with girls who you don't want to bang. having pivots is PRICELESS in the field, so making friends who are girls just for the sake of being friends can be very valuable. and you can always magically "break up" with your girlfriend on any given night after that. |
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| Author: | 16394 [ Sat Jun 20, 2009 7:29 am ] |
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Quote: Quote:
in regards to the original question, i think saying you have a g/f is great to build comfort with girls who you don't want to bang. having pivots is PRICELESS in the field, so making friends who are girls just for the sake of being friends can be very valuable. and you can always magically "break up" with your girlfriend on any given night after that. If she thinks that you have a gf, she give herself a chance to be ur friend, to know you better and maybe that makes her interested in you.... and after sometime you can pretend that you broke up and that's when your in! Actually, I currently have a GF... Recently, I realized that she wasn't interested in me at first and wanted me just as a FRIEND but after sometime she got to know me better became interested in me and now, she's my GF .... Based to my true story I think that idea is golden... |
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| Author: | tickle [ Sat Jun 20, 2009 5:53 pm ] |
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When they tell you "I got a bf" just creatively work your way around it. But you already made some mistake that caused this situation so I wouldn't focus on this. |
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