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| Author: | slickred [ Tue Feb 10, 2009 10:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Recovering from a cocky-funny fuckup |
I'm wondering how I'd attempt a recovery or if it's even worth trying for. In our first meeting I was perfect in the cocky-funny approach and got her number. Playful-teasing via mostly text-message (and a short call) every day over the next week ended up with her enamored and us meeting up Sunday among a small group. Somehow that day the dynamic was altered and I didn't realize it fast enough. She took my playful-teasing literally and got really pissed, then made a show of how much she was ignoring me while talking to the rest of the group. I backed off her completely and won-over the rest but it was too late for her. I ducked out early to avoid making it worse (the original plan was for the two of us to split from the group). Apparently she nicknamed me David Ortiz for my homerun/homerun/big strike-out pattern. If I don't contact her, I'm 90% sure that's the end of it, which is ok. But that means a lot of wasted effort. I'm considering sending a text message tomorrow to attempt a recovery. Is this even a normal practice, or should you just move on? Here are my considered approached. 1) Open with a neutral nice-message, then if she responds (which is the biggest risk here) say "hey, I feel like a jerk for Sunday. Didn't mean to pick on you like that" 2) Blame shift her with something like "hey, your dog isn't ugly, can't you take a little playful teasing?" 3) Write "man, Sunday was a train wreck" to throw her off guard, and make a joke over how bad it was for all of us So the approaches differ between "it's all me" to "it's all you" to "it was bad all around, haha". Any advice on which will work and allow me to keep attracting her? I think #1 has the best short-term chances but think it'll fuck up forward progress because I'll be the beta then. |
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| Author: | Game L-Over [ Tue Feb 10, 2009 1:30 pm ] |
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i think you should cut it away but also i guess u dont have anything to lose by 1 more text, so u would blame her but not directly and then suggest that you dont want to see her again something like " ive decided maybe we shouldnt see each other again, when i first met you i thought u wre fun but sunday sucked (what ever day u fucked up on). good luck with your (insert her interest or passion here) and ill c u round" but i dont really know what type of girl this is, this is presuming (sp?) that she is hb 9 and she will think wtf y would he not want to see me and then try and impress u ect dont know if this helps its just what i think laters |
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| Author: | paradiseracing [ Tue Feb 10, 2009 6:16 pm ] |
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It seems like you have nothing to lose by sending one last text message and tell her that you meant it in a joking manner. She's probably had enough time to vent to her friends, which btw you said that you already won over. What's the worst that could happen? Good luck bro!!!! |
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| Author: | catalyst1 [ Tue Feb 10, 2009 6:25 pm ] |
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i would go with 3 as it means that your not grovelling or anything like that and you are lightening up on your negs as you seem to have gone too far. you may as well take some action to see what happens. |
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| Author: | The Rev [ Tue Feb 10, 2009 9:41 pm ] |
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dude this happens to me too every once in a while...i honestly dont know if im just turning it up the next time i see them and they have a right to be upset or if they just switch but ive been being a lot more observant lately and havent had this problem in a while so it was probably me...not to say its for sure you im just puttin it out there |
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| Author: | slickred [ Wed Feb 11, 2009 4:13 am ] |
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Awesome, thanks a lot to all you guys. I took the advice and went with #3-- the insight from game, paradiseracing, and catalyst1 really helped me with the angle. jw003 -- it's good to know you've seen it too! I've gotten myself into this situation before and you make sense that, whatever the cause, it's probably fixable by just being more observant. I've had great game this week (been keeping 5 HBs warm) and this is probably the first larger mistake in a while. I feel it's really good practice to recognize missteps, reduce their frequency, and try overcoming them so I'm better prepared for harder tests in the field. All your support is golden! |
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