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Author:  manman [ Thu Nov 27, 2008 5:45 am ]
Post subject:  End Awkward silences.
My take on awkward silences is this: It happens when you say something to her, yall both laugh, and ...... nothing, and you just don't know what to say, and she doesnt either. It happens because we are worried about what to say To Her, We aren't being ourselves, and not enough experience conversating with women.(meaning you haven't done it in a few days ,or weeks/months)

Ok, i have ended ANY awkward silence, I've solved the problem on my half. It should work for All of you too. It was about 2 weeks ago. I was in front of a beautiful cashier, i talked about how great the prices were over there, she was friendly, and it ALMOST.. got to a point of silence.

When i said in my head...NO, theres no reason to get silent, i am free and i don't care what people think, and boom i said a joke, and everything that came to mind. I would say she enjoyed me. Relaxing and not giving a Fuck what she will think, or WHAT to say, be yourself remind yourself that you DONT give a damn, and say what is on your mind, even if you gotta make something up.you will get so good at it, you shouldnt ever have to run out of words. Iknow i havent since.

Also, i thought up a few good questions to ask just incase this shit happens, andi never ended up using them. good luck guys!
Author:  Mithos [ Fri Nov 28, 2008 2:27 pm ]
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When akward silence approaches I usually say something random like "so how bout them Yankees" or a have you ever question and then it usually leads to another discussion. I agree with you on akward silence beingba result from us not being ourselves because I noticed that when I or other people are around their friends it isn't much of a problem.
Author:  Guest [ Fri Nov 28, 2008 8:57 pm ]
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Are there any other lines or topics you have saved in your mind that you use to break the awkward silence?
Author:  Swoop [ Fri Nov 28, 2008 10:00 pm ]
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I agree with manman, Its always best to be relaxed and not give a fuck what she is going to think. Solid advice.
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Are there any other lines or topics you have saved in your mind that you use to break the awkward silence?
"So anyways, this is kind of random but..."

This is a good transitioning phrase. This preemptively disarms her from thinking "WTF?" Trust me, its a relief for her that the awkwardness is going to go away.

Also, it is better to have something GOOD to say. You should have a handful of stories that lead to topics that are funny. I've mentioned this on another post, but if you write out stories for every letter of the alphabet, or at least the first few letters, you can default to one of those topics quite easily. For example, on my list (which goes to letter D or so, lol) My B is about a bunny (B=Bunny) that fell in my pool. I had to skim him out, but I joke about him running away from the skimmer because I was interrupting his tanning session, yatta yat. Stupid? Hell ya, but its funny and it actually happened (to an extent of course). Plus what girl doesn't like bunnies, pools, tanning? It a topic they can relate to and smile about.

Remember, girls don't think logically, they are emotional, so it doesn't matter if the story is silly. Be careful not to enter "dancing monkey" frame whose only there to entertain tho. After a funny story you can neg or cold read them to shift the interaction back on them for a while. Now she has to come up with something of equal or better value to add to the conversation, otherwise she may come off as boring, and you and your great personality will go off to find a cooler chick.
Author:  sorin93 [ Sat Nov 29, 2008 2:21 am ]
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good advice manman
Author:  thelegend808 [ Sat Nov 29, 2008 3:35 am ]
Post subject:  Re: End Awkward silences.
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say what is on your mind, even if you gotta make something up.
it easier SAID then DONE.

this is teh problem that i'm having, and i dont know how to go pass it. its so frustrating it not even funny bro, i totally know what ur talkin about, the awkward silent, I HATE IT.
Author:  manman [ Sat Nov 29, 2008 4:51 am ]
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Thanks guys. good feedback, and another random thing i learned.. asa with knowing what to say. I tried the mystery method, i've tried neil strauss, and i've tried memorising routines/stories/Dhv spikes, i feel like thats a bunch of bullshit. Its great, and it does help, but there are alot of guys on this website having freakin problems.

Trying to remember 'what opener do i use on her walking by/ 'what should i say next to Dhv, oh shit, i forgot to lead her into the comphort phase after i make her qualify so that i can show interest to her, and then take it back, this way, i can see if she passes the hoops so i can move into the comfort phase and then i can use my connection routine. AWE MAN! i forgot to..fuck! nevermind its not working :x

I wanna try and let ya'll know something. If you want to master all of these things step by step, you can, but it will take a few years. And most lkeley you will see very little progress.These guys, myself included(in past) are not getting anywhere with women because they are fooled by Mystery or Neil strauss into thinking you MUST to do all of these things in order to get the woman. Or atleast some ppl THINK they have to do all that stuff. POint is...IF neil strauss or Mystery isn't your twin brother, or if you arent comfortable doing some of their stuff, or your having problems and feel like you arent really getting anywhere, Throw -the- shit out, its NOT FOR YOU. and it won't work for you. Find a pick up guru that is simple, and is YOUR STYLE. Your style is the only WAY you will get girls.
Hince you arent EXACTLY like Mystery or Neil strauss. If you are...follow their program and proceed to get laid like a rock star
Author:  xfman [ Sat Nov 29, 2008 5:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: End Awkward silences.
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My take on awkward silences is this: It happens when you say something to her, yall both laugh, and ...... nothing, and you just don't know what to say, and she doesnt either. It happens because we are worried about what to say To Her, We aren't being ourselves, and not enough experience conversating with women.(meaning you haven't done it in a few days ,or weeks/months)

Ok, i have ended ANY awkward silence, I've solved the problem on my half. It should work for All of you too. It was about 2 weeks ago. I was in front of a beautiful cashier, i talked about how great the prices were over there, she was friendly, and it ALMOST.. got to a point of silence.

When i said in my head...NO, theres no reason to get silent, i am free and i don't care what people think, and boom i said a joke, and everything that came to mind. I would say she enjoyed me. Relaxing and not giving a Fuck what she will think, or WHAT to say, be yourself remind yourself that you DONT give a damn, and say what is on your mind, even if you gotta make something up.you will get so good at it, you shouldnt ever have to run out of words. Iknow i havent since.

Also, i thought up a few good questions to ask just incase this shit happens, andi never ended up using them. good luck guys!

Most of the guys have a problem with silence in a conversation, and they are focused on making all the talk, but they are wrong.

At the beginning of a conversation you should be the one talking, since you opened the set, you can follow the 90 - 10 rule, you talk 90% of the time BUT ONLY DURING THE OPENER.

Silence create tension, and if you know how to handle this tension then you can create sexual tension.

In the other hand when guys are focused on talking talking and asking asking, the conversation becomes an interview, you don't need to make question after question. Take a break once in a while, talk about what you like, and then if a silence come, let her show that she is interested, remain calm and wait for her to reestablish the conversation. Most of the time this can show you if she is interested or not.

If she doesn't say a word then you can go with this simple line:

"Let's play a game... " And tell what game you want to play. If you are in a club you can play the "Sex, Kill or Marry game" and there are a lot of games that will make the interaction more fluid.

So that's my advice....

"Learn when to shut up and learn when to talk."


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FOR YOU,

XFMAN
Author:  Foreplay [ Sat Nov 29, 2008 8:39 pm ]
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sometimes when you're in this situation, it works to just state the perfectly obvious. you say "well, this is the awkward part of the conversation, i'm gonna sit here and wait for you to think of something to say". this puts the pressure on the girl, puts you in control, and makes it so you don't have to think of anything to say.

WARNING:
Make sure you get one or two IOI's before you say this because otherwise she might just say she has to be somewhere, so know the situation you're in
Author:  Nightynight [ Sat Nov 29, 2008 9:45 pm ]
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You can use a gambit, like a game or a secret handshake and while you're doing it you can think over the next steps
Author:  Juniper [ Sun Nov 30, 2008 11:03 am ]
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don't hate the awkward silences embrace them!
run the a,b,c,d,e,f method
have a funny interesting topic for each letter
i had for e, riding elephants to work!
which leads into travel and voila! conversation jumpstarted if you want to look at it in that way....
Author:  Mr.Two-Wrongs [ Sun Nov 30, 2008 7:11 pm ]
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just remember that in every awkward silence there is at least one person thinking of Abraham Lincoln!

you may think I'm crazy or other things, but when an awkwawrd silence happens, this has a good chance of sticking out in your head, and if it does, just tell her "did you know that in every silence in a conversation..."
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