Read this site for a while but similar happened to me.
You need to be careful that she doesn't see you as an escape route and someone who after she leaves uses you to build her confidence back up then move on. You cannot allow yourself to be available to her on demand as you will just end up as that escape route.
Women that have suffered violence will take time to feel comfortable, it can take months. Once she's away from him, she will need to nice guy SPAM for confidence and comfort until a point she's ready for the alpha. Don't be the nice guy.
My advice is if you want her as yours then you need to stop chasing her. Let her get herself sorted. Being the nice guy and saving her will mean you will fail.
DV victims are often isolated. Someone else ideally needs to do the work to build her confidence, then when she is at a point move in for the kill. As bad as it sounds let someone else do the hero work and be the nice guy, then snatch her away from him. Sounds horrible but it works and I learnt a lesson from it.
I got her out of it, from broken woman to the point we slept together and did it, then I went away with work and she found her alpha and I was friendzoned but I moved on fairly fast. Never again will I waste that amount of time, let another guy do that.
Good luck though thought I'd share
Fk bro this is some serious sh#t. That last paragraph resonates with me.
She isn't subject to DV well not physically. Apparently, he torments her mentally and emotionally. She told me can't go out with him much because he puts her down while they are out.
In a way, she sees me as "alpha" because I beat her up, yes literally. I wrestle with her and friendly spar with her, which results in leg kicks and rib punches [don't worry, she loves it] which further results in some serious bruising which she has to awkwardly explain to her bf. I apologise for the bruises but she says she has so much fun that she doesn't care. I rough her up...stuff that doesn't happen at home but she enjoys.
However...again, that last paragraph gets me because she does think I am a really nice guy and I could actually believe what you said could happen; in that she has me save her and then goes and finds her next "alpha".
I can hear the..."I know I left him and said I would be with you but I think I want to be single for a little while now and just do my own thing." .....which basically means "thanks for saving me but now I am going to go find someone who was just like the guy I left."
Thanks for the post bro.