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Dude, I can't help but think that while you seem like you may have, and I actually feel you would have, a lot of useful insight and experience on the matter, that you belittle my question. Your SIG says you are a "coach" yet I can't say I am feeling the whole coaching side, more so a "I am better at you and I am telling you why you suck" approach. I have actually taken your advice on board, but cannot say I am on board with your delivery of said information.
It also looks like there is a small language barrier, which is cool.
In big cities in the U.S., when you become successful, you learn to be very direct and honest with people and not waste their time. This is know as "shocking honesty" and "not wasting time". It is an excellent attitude for game as well as business.
My direct approach is not meant to belittle or insult, it is an honest feedback of what is in my mind as I read your mistakes. So please do not take offense, I am respecting your time, and mine with direct, brutal feedback.
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This girl, bro, is something different - for me, anyway. Why? Because I actually care if I win or lose here. Most of girls, the ones that are "out of my league" and yet I have been able to seduce - I always went in with confidence, but I was always understood that failure was possible; it took the emotions out of it.
This is called "Oneitis".
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This girl, I do not want to fail and I don't think I am prepared to fail. Bro, straight up, she talks about a fantasy of being forced to have sex. Yet, when I mauled her the other night; ripping at her clothes; she was breathing heaving; she stopped me; really, actually, stopped me. Not a play stop, but wanted me to stop. Again, this comes down to her having a boyfriend - one who doesn't maul her or fulfil this fantasy but who she feels bad about doing things behind his back. Iggz, above, said it right; she feels bad yet continues to see me pretty much at my demand.
Alright, well, set up another meet.
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I don't ask. I tell her to come now. She makes lies and twists the truth to leave the house and come and see me. Yet, she doesn't want to have sex with me...yet, apparently.
Sounds like a waste of time for you, IMHO. Game other women, or show her you're going on dates.
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I have steps I follow; a series of processes to seduce women. Maybe you do as well, or maybe you don't. I am not a facially attractive guy so I am required to use these steps and processes to win over a beautiful woman. Some of them can take a while, again, for me.
Makes sense. It is true, that the less classically "handsome" men need more early game.
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I want this girl. Yet, I want her to want me without a thought of anyone else.
That comes with time, once you are in a relationship most of the time.
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Do I want to sleep with this woman and claim victory? Not really, no. I want this woman to be mine
You make women "yours" (if women can be owned, which they never truly can), you do so by being really, really good in bed and staying emotionally-centered.
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and, if she really won't leave her boyfriend, I want to be her best friend and -judge me all you want- her affair.
That's a very weak frame.