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| Author: | Tarcisious [ Mon Nov 21, 2016 10:20 am ] |
| Post subject: | I can't even socialise |
I can't even socialise properly how the hell am I gonna be able to attract women |
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| Author: | R.C [ Mon Nov 21, 2016 12:30 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can't even socialise |
You're not. |
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| Author: | Black Phantom [ Wed Nov 23, 2016 1:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can't even socialise |
Getting good with women works in STAGES. One of those stages is to become good with people in general, and able to hold a normal conversation. So if you feel like you can't socialise, then focus on that area for some time. Learn how to start and keep a conversation going with ANYONE. Go to a coffee place, order some coffee and sit there. Strike up a conversation with the waitress about how her day is going. If there's somebody sitting a table next to you, comment on the size of their coffee. If it's big, say, "wow you must be really tired today, that's a huge cup of coffee..."[/i] and strike up a conversation. Usual conversation topics are: > What do you do? How did you get into it? > What do you study? What intrigued you about it? > Do you have any hobbies? What do you like most about it? Make a 30 day plan to go to a public place 3x per week and just talk to people. You'll see your social skills will improve immensely. And one of the best pieces of advice for becoming good at socialising is find 3 people who are really good at it (men or women) and hang out with them. Just observe how relaxed they are around people, how easy it is for them to strike up a conversation - and LEARN. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Wed Nov 23, 2016 5:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can't even socialise |
Lazy post will get you lazy responses man. It doesn't even sound like you're interested in detailing exactly what your problems are for people to help you. You can google general answers if you want them. You come to a forum for specifics, so if you're not getting specific in your post you're wasting your time. |
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| Author: | Charity_ [ Wed Nov 23, 2016 6:02 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can't even socialise |
Be the first one to jump into the pool naked. You'll be the center of attention after that. |
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| Author: | Tarcisious [ Thu Nov 24, 2016 1:59 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can't even socialise |
Quote: Lazy post will get you lazy responses man.
The other guy was more helpful but I do understand the more you put in the more you will get out It doesn't even sound like you're interested in detailing exactly what your problems are for people to help you. You can google general answers if you want them. You come to a forum for specifics, so if you're not getting specific in your post you're wasting your time. Thankyou |
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| Author: | Autoregressive [ Tue Nov 29, 2016 6:21 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can't even socialise |
Black Phantom's conversation topics are a good starting point to having a conversation with just about anyone you meet. Can you elaborate on your issues with socializing? |
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| Author: | Tarcisious [ Sun Dec 04, 2016 9:01 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can't even socialise |
Quote: Can you elaborate on your issues with socializing? |
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| Author: | kidfromcro [ Sun Dec 04, 2016 11:37 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can't even socialise |
go 30 day challenge |
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| Author: | Autoregressive [ Tue Dec 06, 2016 6:52 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can't even socialise |
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I think my sticking points mainly reside with...
I'm giving some of these with the assumption that you've got some time to spend with the girl (at least 15 - 20 minutes). Quote:
Listening truly,
You mean sincerely? You have to have a sincere interest in getting to know a specific girl, or girls in general. It's hard to fake this, so you have to really know what you want from girls. Quote:
Knowing what to actually talk about
Getting harder here. It's best if you can find common threads. Ask her about herself - see if anything resonates with you. Find things you'll both find interesting to talk about. Worst case... if you have nothing to go on ... start with the basics (where's she from, what does she do, where does she see herself in the future, etc.) and go from there. Ultimately, being a well read and worldly individual is going to be a massive asset here. Quote:
and showing that i'm sexually interested.
If you get any indicators of interest from her (do a search for more or less obvious ones - tons of stuff you can find on Google) - then start by giving her some sincere and specific compliments. Talk about her legs, the shape of her butt and why you like them/it, etc. If you like her smile or eyes, tell her that and use some strong adjectives to describe why. Quote:
generating attraction in conversation,
This is the hardest one and there's a number of options here. You can show her that you can have a level headed conversation with her about something she understands or cares about. Don't be afraid to challenge her and her beliefs in a positive way. Also, you can impress her with sophisticated banter or teasing, once you get to know what kind of humor she likes and her personality. Being bold and maintaining a level headed / intelligent, fun conversation, in a nutshell. Again, it helps to be well read and worldly for this, and there's entire books written on banter, humor, etc.
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| Author: | Pbblade3 [ Sun Dec 18, 2016 8:43 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can't even socialise |
Quote: Quote: Can you elaborate on your issues with socializing? I have always been a good person when it came down to conversations, but somehow never managed to keep them alive for long. I knew what questions to ask etc.. It took me a couple of weeks to truly understand what it was, that I was doing wrong and it was my body language, super stiff, very boring voice. Since ive become more energetic, using a ton of body language, ive been able to hold conversations for multiple hours. The way you execute is actually much more important then context. You know those people you just cannot hate/disrespect? Study them closely, and youll immediately understand, its because of the way they express theirselves. |
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