It's my belief that a lot of the problem lies in a guy having a weak self-image.
I've said this so many times, that I jokingly refer to this phrase as the only mantra worth saying:
"Be attractive to YOU"
If you feel sexy to yourself, if you feel appealing to yourself irrespective of anyone else, you will exude abundance. You will be like the Last Mohican.
This is all well and good, I mean if it were so easy to do forums like this wouldn't exist, right?
So how do you actually do this without making it sound like an abstraction or spewing forth cliches such as "love yourself", "have a 'don't give a fuck' attitude"?
I've said it before. Guys look at other guys who are successful with women and see it as an event. In other words, they just assume the dude was born that way, like they're some natural Don Juan. They don't see the PROCESS that it took for that guy to get to where he is today. They don't see all the failures, mishaps, fumbling that happened along the way. Getting good at anything isn't a linear process, otherwise we'd all be perfect. On your ascent you will always encounter the occasional pothole; what separates the people who succeed from those who don't is perseverance. They continue on in spite of experiencing the occasional bump, and let me tell you the road of life is full of them.
But I digress.
So if you read this far, here's your reward. You become 'attractive to yourself' by DOING (note I use an action term) things that feed you, your spirit.
Possible things may be:
-going to the gym
-dressing nicely
-creative outlets (e.g., playing an instrument, writing, photography, etc)
-pursuing other passions (maybe its a business idea you've put on the back burner - DO IT, and DO IT NOW!)
-connecting with friends and family
-doing things out in nature
-reading
etc..etc..
None of this is new to you guys, but the reasons for doing them may be.
You do these things for you, not for anyone else. You're developing and feeding a sense of purpose and through that comes inspiration and new avenues.
Nothing's to be put off for another day. You create your own circumstances, and that's what being attractive is all about. There is never any balance in life, that's just an excuse to put things on layaway or foreclose on dreams and ambitions.
In addition, being attractive to yourself means also to honestly re-evaluate your life and the people in it. Anyone in your life who is a headwind you'd be well served in cutting off (Napoleon Hill talks about this). Holding onto such people will drain your energy, and over time erode your sense of self - its like willingly taking poison. Choose your allies wisely, these people will be part of your army to help you succeed.
And ya, if it helps imagine you're the Last of the Mohicans and just fake it till you become it.
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