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Author:  horologist [ Mon Mar 14, 2016 12:53 pm ]
Post subject:  This is How to Fail
I just wanted to give a quick write up on a failure I had last night to hopefully inspire a few.

I go to this vape shop with friends. Two people were working behind the counter, a fat guy, and a very cute HB7.

Talk to the fat guy for a minute about tattoos, notice tattoos on the girl. Start talking to her about tattoos.

The conversation was hitting on all 8 cylinders. We talked about tattoos, partying, where she lives, where we like to travel, travel stories, a few jokes from both of us, it was a great conversation. I sexualized twice. The first while we were talking about tattoos I asked her if she saw the video of that girl getting her butthole tattooed, we both laughed at that. She then said she wanted to get totally covered, so I asked "are you gonna get your hoo-ha tattooed?" she laughed and said no. I told her I had considered getting my dick tattooed but decided not to. Talked about priapism from tattooing, and how I value the performance of my dick too much to take that chance. We were both very into this conversation. Exchanged numbers, talked a little more, texted her right there on the spot, talked more, told her I didn't believe in the 3-day rule, made a joke that we all know our phones are sewed to our hands.

So! Here's where the failure took place (during texting). This is the real good part.

Me: Hey cutie, Dustin
sent this while in the store. She giggled and blushed
Me: Damn that crunchberry juice was good! Thanks for selling me that shit
Sent this at 11am
Waited 12 hours
Me: Hmmmm maybe our conversation wasn't nearly as good as I thought it was, flakey texter! :p
Her: Oh I'm sorry!!! My friend got in a car wreck so I'm keeping him company. My bad!!
She sent this back immediately
Me: It's cool I was teasing anyway hottie. Oh damn! Hope your friend is okay!
Her: Okay. I know we just met each other but I would appreciate it if you DON'T call me things like that!
Oh? No wonder you're single
Me: This isn't going to work. I enjoyed our conversation earlier. Take care ma'am
Her: What? Okay...

I really want to emphasize on the fact that this girl was really cool in person. There's any multitude of reasons why being called hottie offended her, any reason of which I could give a shit about.

Maybe feeling desired makes her uncomfortable? I don't give a shit.

Maybe she likes to move super slow? I don't give a shit.

Maybe her stressful day with her friend being in a car wreck makes her treat other people like shit? I don't give a shit.

Maybe she told her girlfriends about this guy who got her number, and her friends "advised" her on how to have good "game"? I. Don't. Give. A. Shit!

What I do give a shit about is my time. This girl was pretty cute, and nice in person. I was interested in that girl for the time being. But she very quickly let me know that she is easily offended by something that literally 99% of girls have no issue with. My response: I'm not going to let you waste my time, negative nancy.

Finally, the effect this is having on her. Guaranteed a guy has gotten her number before. Also guaranteed she's had her phone BLOWN UP by needy little AFCs begging for her attention. She's a modern girl with a cell phone; she's had every which way of boys blowing her phone up, asking her what's wrong, boyfriends asking where she's been who she's with. New guys who get her number that she pulls the same shit with trying to conform to insane standard of comfort, only to get friend zoned.

So what effect is this having on her? Most likely (and ask girls this shit, they will tell you), her mind fucking exploded. I showed her tons of interested, told her she was cute, got her number, had her gut laughing with me. She decided to play a game she's used to playing with AFCs, and this is most likely the first time a real man has ever completely rejected her.

Girls reject all the time. They're used to it. It's second nature for them. But when you reject a cute girl so clearly and so nicely, they honestly don't get it. It's never happened to them before.

Even if you don't get the girl, you can still win the game with the losers.
Author:  R.C [ Mon Mar 14, 2016 3:11 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This is How to Fail
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Maybe feeling desired makes her uncomfortable? I don't give a shit.

Maybe she likes to move super slow? I don't give a shit.

Maybe her stressful day with her friend being in a car wreck makes her treat other people like shit? I don't give a shit.

Maybe she told her girlfriends about this guy who got her number, and her friends "advised" her on how to have good "game"? I. Don't. Give. A. Shit!
Or maybe she simply wasn't feeling it.
You're an experienced guy but there's a lot of ego talking in your post.
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She decided to play a game she's used to playing with AFCs, and this is most likely the first time a real man has ever completely rejected her.
It may be, but that doesn't mean she decided to play games. She merely expressed herself. Your style is different from hers, which makes you incompatible with each other.

Puzzle pieces sometimes don't match. That doesn't mean one or the other has to be the bad guy.

Anyway, she wasn't all that interested to begin with. You virtually had to triple text to get an answer.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Mon Mar 14, 2016 4:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This is How to Fail
Sounds like it woulda taken little effort to rescue that. Sometime it's hard to establish/convey a mood when texting. In her mind she may indeed have a valid reason to balk at your comment. Or you could have just sidestepped it.

But it didn't seem the interest was very strong at either end. So meh.
Author:  JackZero [ Mon Mar 14, 2016 4:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This is How to Fail
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Her: Oh I'm sorry!!! My friend got in a car wreck so I'm keeping him company. My bad!!
This right here was the indication that she wasn't interested. You called her out for her behavior and she felt the need to defend herself. Most of the time defensiveness+attitude=disinterest. You had failed before you called her hottie.
Author:  neo87 [ Fri Mar 18, 2016 1:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This is How to Fail
I was with you when I thought this was going down the road of, screen girls you're compatible with or something. But as a mind explosion...I'd say this girl's point of view of things were and how she's gonna tell her friends the story is "this customer came in talking about butthole peicings and his dick, it was kinda funny but weird, he asked for my number, texted me right there, he sent another text I ignored, then he sent one sounding sad so I replied with some bs, he called be a hottie like a sleaze again, I told him not to, then he acts like he's the one rejecting me lol. Yeah right dude :roll: " Not really a mind explosion, just a next when she's already nexting you. Which girls do get all the time.
Author:  dicemaster [ Fri Mar 18, 2016 2:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This is How to Fail
Op, how long meters can you run with single breath? I think u can break world record :mrgreen:

U chased TOO much. In addition, she was in emotional shitty situation, and u just cared about your dick, instead of offering help. You blamed her to be flakey. Sent dosens of messages. Women are emotionaly, so if they in a bad emotional phase, it could effect all decisions that they take. So wait little bit more and visit her in person. Do not look her just as a fuckable hole.
Author:  Meridian100 [ Sat Mar 19, 2016 5:44 am ]
Post subject:  Re: This is How to Fail
Reading your conversation from an objective 3rd-person perspective I agree with neo87 in that her reaction may not be what you think. It's likely she thinks you overreacted at a simple request from her about something that made her uncomfortable.

You say she was really cool in person and whatnot, yet you give up the whole thing and blow her off because of ONE text where she politely asked you not to call her 'hottie'? Really? That may have been a sh*t test to see how you react. What if you just lightly acknowledged her request, brushed it off and moved the conversation onto something better? Would that decrease the chances of you f-closing as much as just giving it up like you did?

To be completely honest I think it's you that got offended at something petty not her...congratulations though I guess you really taught her a lesson, although maybe not the one you believe it to be.
Author:  horologist [ Sun Mar 20, 2016 3:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This is How to Fail
I think all of you are totally off base.

I think you should all realize that I don't give a fuck about this girl. Yes, thinking with my dick is what I was doing, which is something that has gotten by 50 lays since Feb 2015.

Yeah, I went in there and talked about a bunch of insane topics, but buddy, you weren't there to feel the laughter the connection.

Meridian, I don't care that I didn't fuck close this girl. That one single text was enough for me to tell her it's not going to work. I literally have two dozen other girls to text besides her, one of which already panned out to an F-Close this weekend. Damn the bad luck.

Neo, you're right, I didn't offer help. Oh no. I didn't offer emotional support to a girl I don't know. Again, I don't care.

Judge all you want about my ego and blowing this girl off, I could care less. She was cool enough for me to talk to, get her number, and text. But in my mind that one single text she sent was enough for me to say forget it, that she's not cool enough.

And yeah, she probably wasn't interested in the first place, that's almost definitely true. In other words, not worth my time.

Like I said, judge all you guys want, fact is I'm still getting laid very regularly, and I pass girls up like this all the time, literally on an absolute whim.
Author:  JackZero [ Sun Mar 20, 2016 3:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This is How to Fail
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I think all of you are totally off base.

I think you should all realize that I don't give a fuck about this girl. Yes, thinking with my dick is what I was doing, which is something that has gotten by 50 lays since Feb 2015.

Yeah, I went in there and talked about a bunch of insane topics, but buddy, you weren't there to feel the laughter the connection.

Meridian, I don't care that I didn't fuck close this girl. That one single text was enough for me to tell her it's not going to work. I literally have two dozen other girls to text besides her, one of which already panned out to an F-Close this weekend. Damn the bad luck.

Neo, you're right, I didn't offer help. Oh no. I didn't offer emotional support to a girl I don't know. Again, I don't care.

Judge all you want about my ego and blowing this girl off, I could care less. She was cool enough for me to talk to, get her number, and text. But in my mind that one single text she sent was enough for me to say forget it, that she's not cool enough.

And yeah, she probably wasn't interested in the first place, that's almost definitely true. In other words, not worth my time.

Like I said, judge all you guys want, fact is I'm still getting laid very regularly, and I pass girls up like this all the time, literally on an absolute whim.
Wow. Relax man. It's not that big of a deal. You made a post and people saw it differently based on what you've described.
Author:  neo87 [ Sun Mar 20, 2016 4:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This is How to Fail
Quote:
I think all of you are totally off base.

I think you should all realize that I don't give a fuck about this girl. Yes, thinking with my dick is what I was doing, which is something that has gotten by 50 lays since Feb 2015.

Yeah, I went in there and talked about a bunch of insane topics, but buddy, you weren't there to feel the laughter the connection.

Meridian, I don't care that I didn't fuck close this girl. That one single text was enough for me to tell her it's not going to work. I literally have two dozen other girls to text besides her, one of which already panned out to an F-Close this weekend. Damn the bad luck.

Neo, you're right, I didn't offer help. Oh no. I didn't offer emotional support to a girl I don't know. Again, I don't care.

Judge all you want about my ego and blowing this girl off, I could care less. She was cool enough for me to talk to, get her number, and text. But in my mind that one single text she sent was enough for me to say forget it, that she's not cool enough.

And yeah, she probably wasn't interested in the first place, that's almost definitely true. In other words, not worth my time.

Like I said, judge all you guys want, fact is I'm still getting laid very regularly, and I pass girls up like this all the time, literally on an absolute whim.

You're defending points no one made. I never said anything about offering help or support to this girl...where are you getting that I did? As I said, if this thread was on how you recognized a girl wasnt compatible with you and you walked away not to waste your time, good. But the part thats just incorrect is that this is having some effect on her, because she rejected you first. The girls you choose to spend your time on is your business. But when its not a mindfuck to a girl that a guy stopped pursuing her after she hasnt been replying to him and she confronts him on something. More likely than that is she brought it up to get you pissed to leave her alone. And that's ok, it happens. Walk away from girls who are not interested, yes, but dont go patting yourself on the back that telling them bye is really fucking with their head. I've had girls not act interested and I told them nvm. I dont go thinking they really care at that point. If you had been fucking her and she was into you, and she pulled the "stop calling me hottie" thing and you walked, yeah I could say she'd be hit by that. But in this case, no, because she didnt want you texting her anyway. No big deal, it happens to everyone.
Author:  horologist [ Sun Mar 20, 2016 8:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This is How to Fail
Sorry about the mixup about offering support, I got you mixed up with dicemaster, who said I should have offered help. My bad man.

I see where you're coming from, Neo. I'll take it in.

As far as relaxing, JackZero, didn't mean to come off as unrelaxed. I'm simply vehement and to the point.

Interestingly enough, she texted me thirty minutes ago: "Hey"
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You're defending points no one made. I never said anything about offering help or support to this girl...where are you getting that I did? As I said, if this thread was on how you recognized a girl wasnt compatible with you and you walked away not to waste your time, good. But the part thats just incorrect is that this is having some effect on her, because she rejected you first. The girls you choose to spend your time on is your business. But when its not a mindfuck to a girl that a guy stopped pursuing her after she hasnt been replying to him and she confronts him on something. More likely than that is she brought it up to get you pissed to leave her alone. And that's ok, it happens. Walk away from girls who are not interested, yes, but dont go patting yourself on the back that telling them bye is really fucking with their head. I've had girls not act interested and I told them nvm. I dont go thinking they really care at that point. If you had been fucking her and she was into you, and she pulled the "stop calling me hottie" thing and you walked, yeah I could say she'd be hit by that. But in this case, no, because she didnt want you texting her anyway. No big deal, it happens to everyone.
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