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Author:  vinimack [ Wed Jan 20, 2016 6:50 am ]
Post subject:  loosing interest in me? friendzone?
hi guys! need some help advice on this.
so i met this girl online, we started txting and it was going very well, getting to know each other and stuff.
after 2 weeks we decided to meet up, we had dinner and drinks. the date went well but not as i wanted to, you know i was expecting more but yea. here's what happened after the date, i txted her made sure she got home safe, told her that i had a wonderful time with her and thank her for meeting up with me. she replied " it was such a good time, thank you :) " then we converse a little bit told her and joked i hope i did good on our first meeting and hopefully theres a next time and she replied " im sure there will be!! " and we said our good night.

after two days, i felt like she was loosing interest with me, like she started replying late to me every time i txt and it felt like she was busy ( take note, she doesnt initiate the first txt, it always me who does it) felt like the excitement went away from her.. and when we do txt each other, felt like shes doing something else all the time now, she would only reply if shes bored.. some days we'll have good conversation and thats it.. so i decided maybe just ask her for another date or something and she said yes and we actually made plans on checking some new restaurants and stuff but didnt really planned a exact date. its just weird having that vibe.

what should i do? how do i make her more interested with me?
Author:  R.C [ Wed Jan 20, 2016 9:58 am ]
Post subject:  Re: loosing interest in me? friendzone?
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i txted her made sure she got home safe, told her that i had a wonderful time with her and thank her for meeting up with me. she replied " it was such a good time, thank you :) " then we converse a little bit told her and joked i hope i did good on our first meeting and hopefully theres a next time and she replied " im sure there will be!! " and we said our good night.
What did you hope to achieve sending this?
Dude, you thanked her for meeting up with you and hoped there will be a next time? How in the world is that attractive behavior coming from a man?

Those are the kind of texts I get from women. The normal flow of things would've been:

Her: "I had such a great time!"
Me: "Yeah me too, it was the best date I've ever had"
Me: "Today :lol: "

Be playful and most importantly be a challenge. Women love to feel they've "earned" their man. Nobody wants a lifeless circus lion. They want a wild lion that will allow her presence but rip anyone else to shreds.
She needs to win you over, and you giving your balls on a silver platter hardly aids that purpose.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Wed Jan 20, 2016 2:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: loosing interest in me? friendzone?
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i txted her made sure she got home safe, told her that i had a wonderful time with her and thank her for meeting up with me. she replied " it was such a good time, thank you :) " then we converse a little bit told her and joked i hope i did good on our first meeting and hopefully theres a next time and she replied " im sure there will be!! " and we said our good night.
You were fucked the moment you wrote this. What the hell bro? A woman does not want a guy that looks to her for validation. She wants to be able to look to your for validation. That was girl shit. And now she's going to become the guy and fade out. Never, ever look to a woman for validation. If she rubs your ego on her own, great, welcome it. But don't go fishing for positive reactions. She's the reaction, you're the cause, and thats how its suppose to be.

"I'm sure there will be!!" could've just been her being nice, or she was still high off the moment, but woke up the next morning and realized that you're the strong guy that she's looking for.

Don't do that shit again bro. There will be more women, learn from it, and move on. She's gone. If she comes on her own(which she may) handle it from there, but don't go subtracting anymore of your dignity by contacting her first right now.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Jan 20, 2016 3:48 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: loosing interest in me? friendzone?
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the date went well but not as i wanted to, you know i was expecting more but yea.
Did you think she was the Santa Clause of pussy? You were a good boy so she was going to unwrap her box?

You escalated nothing, then act needy. And now you turn her into a text pal, and wonder why she's bored?
Author:  Black Phantom [ Sat Jan 23, 2016 11:37 am ]
Post subject:  Re: loosing interest in me? friendzone?
Quote:
hi guys! need some help advice on this.
so i met this girl online, we started txting and it was going very well, getting to know each other and stuff.
after 2 weeks we decided to meet up, we had dinner and drinks. the date went well but not as i wanted to, you know i was expecting more but yea. here's what happened after the date, i txted her made sure she got home safe, told her that i had a wonderful time with her and thank her for meeting up with me. she replied " it was such a good time, thank you :) " then we converse a little bit told her and joked i hope i did good on our first meeting and hopefully theres a next time and she replied " im sure there will be!! " and we said our good night.

after two days, i felt like she was loosing interest with me, like she started replying late to me every time i txt and it felt like she was busy ( take note, she doesnt initiate the first txt, it always me who does it) felt like the excitement went away from her.. and when we do txt each other, felt like shes doing something else all the time now, she would only reply if shes bored.. some days we'll have good conversation and thats it.. so i decided maybe just ask her for another date or something and she said yes and we actually made plans on checking some new restaurants and stuff but didnt really planned a exact date. its just weird having that vibe.

what should i do? how do i make her more interested with me?
You are in luck, because I'm actually a wizard who has a crystal ball, and I can see what you did on that date.

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So, what I see you did is you initiated NO PHYSICAL CONTACT WHATSOEVER.

You were nice, friendly and logical...but you didn't create any CHEMISTRY.

You were expecting more from the date - but how? You expected her to do the work?

Simply my friend, you didn't advance to kiss her, to touch her, to make her feel like a WOMAN.

That's why you're getting a cold shower now.

This girls is lost. Move on and forget about it.

But as for the future dates, learn to create some chemistry...learn to advance things to a point
where you are kissing, holding hands..

Learn to be a man on a date, instead of expecting the woman to do it for ya.
Author:  WillEdward [ Sun Jan 24, 2016 6:19 am ]
Post subject:  Re: loosing interest in me? friendzone?
Yup, sounds like you didn't escalate enough on the date and you gave her a needy text to her afterward. I would focus my energy on a new girl and game her correctly from the beginning. Qualify her, reward with escalation and break rapport when she doesn't invest enough or breaks rapport with you.
Author:  StinkyApple [ Tue Jan 26, 2016 12:15 am ]
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If the date was good, you could write whatever the fuck you wanted to and she would dig you.
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