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Author:  BigRig24 [ Mon Sep 21, 2015 7:19 pm ]
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Hi guys, I made plans with a beautiful girl I have had sex with once already. We are going to a hockey game tomorrow night which she said she was down for going to last week and sounded really excited. I sent her a message yesterday and she never replied but I didn't send anything else after not hearing back from her. Now I'm wondering if she's flaking. I mean it would be really shocking if she did and I don't see her doing it but what should I send her if I don't hear from her today? Send her something later tonight or tomorrow? Any thoughts?

Author:  elliotrey [ Mon Sep 21, 2015 9:45 pm ]
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Hey superstar,

I would always go for tomorrow - also I wouldn't start with asking her about the date. Get your text's focused to first trigger an emotion in her second make a connection with her then third set up the date.

Same day dates always have a lower chance of flaking as well.

Teting is a great way for you to further develop the relationship - I'm sure you already know as do most of us that even a lay isn't a contract to meet again. So you can leverage your texting to get inside her heart so she's more obsessed with you, then flaking tends to disappear.

Go on you legend - YOU = SUCCESS. FACT

Author:  DW-Heart-Charmer [ Tue Sep 22, 2015 1:18 am ]
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Hey superstar,
Go on you legend - YOU = SUCCESS. FACT
Wtf.
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Send her something later tonight or tomorrow? Any thoughts?
Send one the day of. "Are we still on for tonight?" Simple as that. She either responds or not. No reason you should put in an excessive amount of work for a girl you already had sex with. She either liked the goods or she didn't, your text game isn't going to change that. Just as some dumbass calling you a legend and superstar isn't likely to make you download his product.

Author:  JackZero [ Tue Sep 22, 2015 4:33 am ]
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Send one the day of. "Are we still on for tonight?" Simple as that. She either responds or not. No reason you should put in an excessive amount of work for a girl you already had sex with. She either liked the goods or she didn't, your text game isn't going to change that. Just as some dumbass calling you a legend and superstar isn't likely to make you download his product.
Almost agree with this. Only thing I'd change is not asking "if" we're still on for tonight. I'd rather say be ready at 6:00. I hate giving options for backing out on previously made plans.

Author:  R.C [ Tue Sep 22, 2015 9:54 am ]
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Almost agree with this. Only thing I'd change is not asking "if" we're still on for tonight. I'd rather say be ready at 6:00. I hate giving options for backing out on previously made plans.

This.

Author:  DW-Heart-Charmer [ Tue Sep 22, 2015 10:39 am ]
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Almost agree with this. Only thing I'd change is not asking "if" we're still on for tonight. I'd rather say be ready at 6:00. I hate giving options for backing out on previously made plans.
Would this be different if you had several options for that night? I would rather her have the excuse for backing out because I want a girl who is all in rather than I barely got her there.

Author:  R.C [ Tue Sep 22, 2015 12:04 pm ]
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So you'd rather settle for whatever works than have what you actually want?

Author:  BigRig24 [ Tue Sep 22, 2015 3:37 pm ]
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Thanks DW..I actually sent that exact line before reading your post lol..she's in..should be a great night! I haven't seen her for about a month now but have kept in contact. Any suggestions of what I can do on the date that will get her wanting me even more? Basically the plan is to meet her at her work for a quick drink (she is a bartender) then go to the hockey game. What would be some kino I should do during the game ?

Author:  DW-Heart-Charmer [ Tue Sep 22, 2015 11:48 pm ]
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So you'd rather settle for whatever works than have what you actually want?
Likely what you are meaning her is a misinterpretation of what I meant. And the chances are good that I want something different than some others in this situation. In this situation the OP wants a date with this girl. I would take it a step further and say that I want a girl who wants a date with me. If this isn't the girl, I should arrange my life so that I have options of having that girl.

Coming from the frame of "we had previously made plans and I'm not going to give her the option of backing out" assumes that you are attached to these plans. Also that you are in control in this situation when you are not. Actually forcing the action, assuming the close here is try-hard, needy, and a little controlling. I believe we should all strive to communicate as a man letting our desires known, but there is no reason he needs to force the meet. Wanting the outcome and making the moves to attain the outcome is often different from being attached to the outcome.

Author:  DW-Heart-Charmer [ Tue Sep 22, 2015 11:50 pm ]
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Thanks DW..I actually sent that exact line before reading your post lol..she's in..should be a great night! I haven't seen her for about a month now but have kept in contact. Any suggestions of what I can do on the date that will get her wanting me even more? Basically the plan is to meet her at her work for a quick drink (she is a bartender) then go to the hockey game. What would be some kino I should do during the game ?
I'm happy for you man! Just have fun at the game, laugh, tell jokes, maybe make fun of the game and then lead back to your place if you can.

Author:  R.C [ Wed Sep 23, 2015 8:32 am ]
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Coming from the frame of "we had previously made plans and I'm not going to give her the option of backing out" assumes that you are attached to these plans. Also that you are in control in this situation when you are not. Actually forcing the action, assuming the close here is try-hard, needy, and a little controlling. I believe we should all strive to communicate as a man letting our desires known, but there is no reason he needs to force the meet. Wanting the outcome and making the moves to attain the outcome is often different from being attached to the outcome.
You will never be 100% non-invested or non-attached. Simply making those plains implies some level of attachment.
I don't even see it as "forcing" a meet. It's similar to assuming attraction. Or closing a sale. You assume the client wants your product, because it's the best on the market and why the hell wouldn't he? So treat him as if he's ready to sign. Same applies here. Nothing's being forced.

It's a matter of personal preference though. Both ways can work with not that much difference in result.

Author:  BigRig24 [ Wed Sep 23, 2015 6:08 pm ]
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Thanks for the feedback guys! The game went great! Had a really good time with her and got to know her better. Really cool chick too. She was buying me drinks and was fun to be with. Ended up having great sex at the end of the night too! She has been single for 2 months now after a long relationship. Not sure if I should push her into a new one but I really dig this girl a lot. I think I have to make her pursue me though. Does that make sense? I don't want to come off as a guy trying too hard to get in a relationship right away but ultimately, I would love to be in a relationship with her. Any thoughts?

Author:  DW-Heart-Charmer [ Wed Sep 23, 2015 11:22 pm ]
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Simply making those plains implies some level of attachment.
Attachment is needing something rather than just wanting it. I can want her without being attached. When I ignore a girl and she texts me something like "Be ready at 6 I will pick you up." I find it cute.
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Thanks for the feedback guys! The game went great! Had a really good time with her and got to know her better. Really cool chick too. She was buying me drinks and was fun to be with. Ended up having great sex at the end of the night too!
This is fucking cool man, love it!
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She has been single for 2 months now after a long relationship. Not sure if I should push her into a new one but I really dig this girl a lot. I think I have to make her pursue me though. Does that make sense? I don't want to come off as a guy trying too hard to get in a relationship right away but ultimately, I would love to be in a relationship with her. Any thoughts?
Step back just for a second and ask yourself why you would want a relationship with this girl. Sure she is a great girl and maybe she meets your qualifications, but what benefit does making a relationship with this girl have over not having one with her? For example, can you have everything you want with this girl, while also being non-committed?

Author:  BigRig24 [ Thu Sep 24, 2015 12:00 am ]
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It's hard to say if I can have everything if we didn't end up getting in a relationship. I mean, right now we can, but if she starts seeing other guys or starts a relationship with another guy then I wouldn't have what we have going right now. I think just doing what I'm doing now is the best idea. We're just getting to know each other so there is no need to rush. But man is she ever cool and has a killer body!

Author:  BigRig24 [ Thu Sep 24, 2015 12:00 am ]
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It's hard to say if I can have everything if we didn't end up getting in a relationship. I mean, right now we can, but if she starts seeing other guys or starts a relationship with another guy then I wouldn't have what we have going right now. I think just doing what I'm doing now is the best idea. We're just getting to know each other so there is no need to rush. But man is she ever cool and has a killer body!

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