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Author:  diztrez [ Mon Nov 17, 2014 4:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Mid Game Crisis. Need Advice

I went on my second date with this girl. I really started liking her and I know she's interested because of the way she was acting and flirting and touching (holding hands), but I used to date her friend and I can tell she's kind of iffy still. Should I be straight forward with her and let her know how I feel or should I just play along and go on a few more dates?

Author:  JackZero [ Mon Nov 17, 2014 4:29 pm ]
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What do you mean tell her how you feel? If you're saying how you feel about her, that's a no no. You don't need to address dating her friend. You just need to continue escalating.

Author:  diztrez [ Mon Nov 17, 2014 5:02 pm ]
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Yeah I want to be straight forward. Tell her straight up that I like her I am into her and if she is too then for her to let me know and not waste time just going back and forth. I am talking about relationship wise with this girl.

Author:  JackZero [ Mon Nov 17, 2014 5:34 pm ]
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Yeah I want to be straight forward. Tell her straight up that I like her I am into her and if she is too then for her to let me know and not waste time just going back and forth. I am talking about relationship wise with this girl.
Good luck with that. I hope it works for you.

Author:  diztrez [ Mon Nov 17, 2014 5:47 pm ]
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I was asking if that would be a good idea or not

Author:  CharlesFinley [ Mon Nov 17, 2014 6:06 pm ]
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I was asking if that would be a good idea or not

If you'd like to become immediately friend-zoned it is a fantastic plan.

Author:  diztrez [ Mon Nov 17, 2014 6:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Mid Game Crisis. Need Advice

So best bet would be just to go along and just keep going on dates and see where things go?

Author:  Hunter_Foxe [ Mon Nov 17, 2014 6:59 pm ]
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No. You should never "see where things go". That means you're waiting until she makes a move. She's on a fucking date with you, of course you like each other!! Why ruin it by telling her?? What's wrong with you?

You should escalate
You should go for the kiss
You should take her home
You should initiate sex
You should get your dick out

Do you want my number so you can call me when she's down to her underwear and you need advice on what to do next??

It's your job to make things happen. A girl will never make the first move.

Author:  enlightenmentdating [ Tue Nov 18, 2014 4:47 am ]
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Be honest with her. If you point out the elephant in the room a weird thing starts to happen, that elephant will disappear.

Just like with awkward silences, just be the type of guy that points out the awkwardness. Ironically, this will make it disappear and she will feel like you are being very open and honest with her. This will in turn make her be more open and honest with you.

You clearly can’t just keep going on forever pretending you didn’t hook up with her friend. Just get it out into the open and she will more than likely respect you for saying what’s on your mind.

Author:  JackZero [ Tue Nov 18, 2014 5:44 am ]
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Be honest with her. If you point out the elephant in the room a weird thing starts to happen, that elephant will disappear.

Just like with awkward silences, just be the type of guy that points out the awkwardness. Ironically, this will make it disappear and she will feel like you are being very open and honest with her. This will in turn make her be more open and honest with you.

You clearly can’t just keep going on forever pretending you didn’t hook up with her friend. Just get it out into the open and she will more than likely respect you for saying what’s on your mind.
Are you sure you really want to advise something like this? She already knows it, but she's still going out with him. He already knows it and he's still going out with her. Just reminding her that her friend used to date the same guy she is pursuing will make it real and potentially make her feel guilty about it.

Author:  diztrez [ Tue Nov 18, 2014 7:00 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Mid Game Crisis. Need Advice

She knows I dated her friend and she persued on a second date with me. I just want to know if I should tell her straight up I wanna take things to another level or just slowly go along with it and see where things go.

Author:  JackZero [ Tue Nov 18, 2014 7:22 am ]
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She knows I dated her friend and she persued on a second date with me. I just want to know if I should tell her straight up I wanna take things to another level or just slowly go along with it and see where things go.
You keep saying "go along with it" in order to see where things go. Do you know how to lead a woman to where you want her to go?

From my experience, and I can't speak for everyone else, when I used to tell girls that I wanted to pursue a LTR those were the girls I didn't have a LTR with. The ones that I actually seduced through my actions and not words were the ones that wanted to stay around and be exclusive. It isn't a slow process either. Because you are not using words to tell her what you want, she'll seek balance by communicating what she wants from you. When she says it, she'll be more eager to make it happen...emotion is now solidly invested in you.

Author:  CharlesFinley [ Tue Nov 18, 2014 1:12 pm ]
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She knows I dated her friend and she persued on a second date with me. I just want to know if I should tell her straight up I wanna take things to another level or just slowly go along with it and see where things go.
You keep saying "go along with it" in order to see where things go. Do you know how to lead a woman to where you want her to go?

From my experience, and I can't speak for everyone else, when I used to tell girls that I wanted to pursue a LTR those were the girls I didn't have a LTR with. The ones that I actually seduced through my actions and not words were the ones that wanted to stay around and be exclusive. It isn't a slow process either. Because you are not using words to tell her what you want, she'll seek balance by communicating what she wants from you. When she says it, she'll be more eager to make it happen...emotion is now solidly invested in you.

This is accurate.

Let's be clear OP: Cause you don't seem to be getting it.

If you lay it out for her, you're likely done.

Shut up and escalate. That's all you have to do. Period.

You should not lay it out for her.

Author:  Hunter_Foxe [ Tue Nov 18, 2014 3:31 pm ]
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Expressing your emotional feelings to a woman is the quickest way to lose her. If you want her to love you, you have to grab her, kiss her and take her home for sex.

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