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Author:  MikeDavids [ Tue Sep 02, 2014 8:23 pm ]
Post subject:  How to play a break-up?
Short information first:

Relationship lasted 8 months.
Perfect relationship. I kept my alpha status. I was the one who decided when we "had the time to see eachother" ect. She was crazy about me.

End of the relationship:
She started new school, new job and shiftet to a new sports team (She is a pro athlete)
Basicly all of these started in the same time. After the first 2 weeks she told me she needed to do some "thinking".
I kept my distance and only wrote her a few casual texts. (Yes stupid me)
The week after she dumped me, by text... :(

I told her I wouldn´t accept a breakup by text, if she had something to say to me she could do so face-to-face. (Was this a smart move??) :?:
Anyways... I went to her house a few days after, and she explaiend she was overworked/Stessed out. She needed to be alone for a while. (She seemed very burned out and distant to be honest. )
She also told me she really needed me as a friend right now..

We hugged, and had a nice quite breakup. We talked for a while about her school ect. I didn´t freak out at all. (Win) But I did try a couple of times to make her consider just a break, but she said no. (Yes, AFC I know. looser)

How to play it now?
I know I made a few AFC moves, but in general I think I held my cool pretty good. Right?
How would the Pua community move on from here??
(Considering I want her to come running back to me)

I kept the story very short here... :)
Author:  sxstrp [ Wed Sep 03, 2014 11:47 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to play a break-up?
You want her running back to you because you love her or because you want to prove to yourself you are better than this?

Sometimes shit happens and surrounding circumstances don't allow people to be together. If you don't want to just be friends, the approach would probably be the same as getting out of friend zone. Building space, showing you have a life and building attraction all over again.

Though you should try to analyse why did she not want to have a relationship with you during this time. Was it because you were needy? Not helpful enough, too helpful? When you analyse and know why this happened, only then can you be sure this will not happen again. Of course it can often be out of your control and will all those changes it might have seemed to the girl she had to change a relationship as well.
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Wed Sep 03, 2014 1:01 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to play a break-up?
Quote:
We hugged, and had a nice quite breakup. We talked for a while about her school ect. I didn´t freak out at all. (Win) But I did try a couple of times to make her consider just a break, but she said no. (Yes, AFC I know. looser)

If she was overworked/stressed and needed to be alone for a while then a break would have been fine.

Consider that.

She wants you as a friend - only a friend. You were dumped and you're taking her polite reasoning pretty literally, IMO.

It's her decision and it sounds like you weren't changing her mind. Only way to go about this and retain any shred of hope of getting her back is to accept it and be awesome. Upgrade to a hotter girl and have fun - and make sure she sees you doing it (don't rub it in her face or showboat...).
Author:  Rebooting [ Thu Sep 04, 2014 10:15 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to play a break-up?
yeah man, you got dumped. I know it sucks, but accept it and move on. There literally is no way you can proactively get her back, unless you beg and beg and annoy her to the point of her deciding "whatever, I'll give him another chance". But by then you will have lost so much manhood and dignity that trust me, you do NOT want that.

Best approach is to "reset" your relationship with that person (actually, it's the same for any other set you fucked up). Cut ties. Move on. And if one day she percieves you as a "new" and "improved" person, you might have another chance.
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