So you want tips on how to build rapport and attraction? But that's a huge topic that is, say, 50% of game (a number I took out of thin air). So I don't believe anyone can give you any quick and dirty tips. You need to go down the long road and learn everything there is about game.
The most normal and successful way of "playing the game" is to start with rapport and bother about attraction later, if you find yourself interested in the girl. However, at your age, all it takes to be interested in a girl is the fact she is a girl. A man with more life experience would be more cynical and not jumping on every opportunity to sleep with a girl. And that is the thing. The reason why girls like older men. It isn't because of their age as a number (which would be equivalent to the number of wrinkles in their face), but because of the life experience and the attitude that follows with it - experience in how to treat girls and play it right. In short, older men knows their game.
So, to get you started, how do you build rapport? You could experiment with an NLP technique called "pacing and leading". That will give you a basic understanding of things. It will hopefully make you understand what kind of girl is the right "type" for you (the ones who have a body language, spoken language, and way of being that matches your own). The others won't really click. But this will take time (months or years) to figure out completely. When you know your rapport building, you will be able to choose girls more carefully, and realize that neither do you have a chance with the "wrong type", nor do you want one. You will find the wrong girls unattractive.
And one last quick and dirty tip on how to build attraction: Don't even try. The more you are into pickup, the more you try, the more needy you will become (and your agenda will be obvious), the less attractive you will become. So stop trying. Focus on building rapport and having a conversation, and don't expect anything. You can as well tell yourself that you won't get laid until you get 30 and accept that. Because if you do, you have to focus on the things that matters in your interaction with girls, and the results will come sooner than you think.
Good luck!
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big help.