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Author:  LifeChanger90 [ Sun Aug 10, 2014 5:27 pm ]
Post subject:  Great first date, screwing up now
We had an awesome first date, and she was dying to kiss with me in the end but i negged on her to let her know i'm not that average bloke.

We had our date on july 22nd

July 23:
Girl: Hey! Did you got home safe yesterday night? I had a really fun time ;) Is there any news on your little cousin being born today?
Me: The dilation is now 6cm, from 4cm onwards it should be another 6 hours. The baby must come today because of feces in the water. Thankfully the medication is working and now she is sleeping
Me: Exciting!
Girl: Ah very exciting!

July 25:
Me: Hey *****, clear this one up for me: why do some women wear bright green boots ?

Girl: Because they don't want to stand out in the grass


July 26:
Me: Sounds like a good camouflage technique, we should talk about that at dinner after the weekend. What's your schedule like?

Girl: Haha
Girl: Sounds fun, but I just arrived in Pisa..
Girl: When i get back we can set a date ;)

August 9, 2 weeks after last contact:
Me: Yooo
Me: How's your vacation?

August 10:
Girl: Fun, i'm in Barcelona now


So since our last date i've basically done everything an average clueless bloke would do (saying nothing interesting, don't spark interest at her side, walking after her like a little dog).
How can i recover from this point onwards?
Author:  GamesSN [ Sun Aug 10, 2014 5:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Great first date, screwing up now
Hit her up when she's back and organise a date from there.
Author:  oceanx [ Mon Aug 11, 2014 3:33 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Great first date, screwing up now
I agree. You're doing fine. Meet up with her when she comes back. She is obviously interested, nothing to be concerned with at this point.
Author:  Apples185 [ Tue Aug 12, 2014 1:15 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Great first date, screwing up now
Whhaat? You didn't you kiss her and take her home on the first date?? :shock:

She wanted you, you're too passive.
Author:  LifeChanger90 [ Sat Aug 16, 2014 4:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Great first date, screwing up now
She just came from vacation according to her tinder distance. I'll text her coming thursday to meet on friday
Quote:
Whhaat? You didn't you kiss her and take her home on the first date?? :shock:

She wanted you, you're too passive.
That is bullshit, i've read through a couple of pages of your posts on this forum and you need to rewire your brain, stop focussing on the sex and quit the "have sex or go home" attitude.

To me, PUA is more of a way of life. Be a cool guy and the girls come to YOU. The number one thing you need to do with girls is always leave them wanting more. Every girl wants what she can't get. It was pretty obvious that she wanted to kiss me on the end of the date, so i didn't and leave her hanging with questions in her mind. Contrasting this: I'm having dinner with this girl tomorrow who has thrown up a huge anti-slut wall because she knows i'm popular with girls. I told her i wasn't hitting on her but that i find her interesting and want to know more about her. I know we'll kiss ans she'll like it precisely because she doesn't expect it.

Rule number two is build comfort. Be fun, understanding and go slooooooow. Spread your dates a week apart, until after you had sex. The quicker you go forward, the faster you can go backward

The sex will happen if she's comfortable with you. Sex should never be the objective. The hunt should be the objective. Girls feel that vibe and find that very attractive.

Don't be a creep, just go slow, escalate and be a fun guy to be with.
Show girls some respect.
Author:  GamesSN [ Sat Aug 16, 2014 4:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Great first date, screwing up now
Life, you underestimate how much women want sex. They're just as eager if not more so to hop into bed than men are. The only difference is they don't want to come across as sluts and want you to work on convincing them as opposed to us men who will gladly just jump in bed with a chick as soon as she says "Lets fuck."

The longer you're into pick up the more apparent this becomes. It's mostly through trial and error but generally you'll find that women get bored quick if you don't fuck them sooner rather than later.

Also, you're thinking way too extreme in your uptake on what you should or shouldn't be doing. You're supposed to be leading them along and making them come to you, yes. However, you're only supposed to do that so you're just ahead. Think carrot on a stick. You're within grasp and they have to keep coming to get you that doesn't mean you deliberately take your sweet fucking time with every single woman. It just means you take enough time to drive up interest and be passive enough about them so they want you all the more and crave your attention.

It's a tightrope really. A lot of calibration is needed and only experience will really get you used to how to handle each woman and when to pull and when to push, etc., etc. Just assume every woman wants your dick as soon as possible but they just want to be convinced to sleep with you so they don't come across as easy or slutty.
Author:  LifeChanger90 [ Fri Aug 22, 2014 2:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Great first date, screwing up now
Ok guys, SITREP


Me: What was that hippo thing about?
Her: What bullshit is this
Me: Ah sorry wrong person
Me: People who leave in september don't have to show up
Me: Oops now i did it again
Her: How are you gonna make up for it?
Me: By grabbing a bite this week with you, as long as you behave and as long as you don't get me drunk
Her: Haha i can behave but i can't promise the second one

Me: i believe it when i see it
Me: How is your schedule
Her: I can this wednesday and sunday and i've got some days next week

THURSDAY, 2 DAYS LATER

Me: Lucky devil, i'm available on sunday
Me: lets meet up at 8 o clock in ****

TODAY
Me: Your day can never be as bizarre as mine

Her: ahh you got bad luck, something came up for sunday, perhaps you're available another day?

Her: Tell, what did you experience at work



I think she's got another guy lines up for sunday but i don't know this fore sure.

Anyway, what is the best way to respond to this flake?
Author:  GamesSN [ Fri Aug 22, 2014 7:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Great first date, screwing up now
You waited two days to confirm when you would see her...?

Do you honestly need anyone to point out the stupidity in this? Of course she cancelled on you. Know why? Because she's chalked you down as an asshole. A bit of a-holeness is alright but going full retarded by waiting two days to tell her you're "free" after YOU asked her to come out is just being beyond dickish and a sure way to drive them away unless you're literally a superstar.
Author:  Rebooting [ Fri Aug 22, 2014 10:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Great first date, screwing up now
Yeah man, I also think you are overdoing it a bit... First the not kissing her on the first date (for real, keep escalating. Not doing so is not "negging". If you absolutely have to neg her, you should stop the negging after the attraction phase anyway, or she will feel like she can never build comfort with you. It is just frustrating and will shut doors for you.)

And as in for the date... Yeah. What do you expect her to do? Sit there for two days to wait for you to make your mind up? Beg you to come back to her?

Since she's still asking you when you are free, she obviously still feels attracted to you. Just stop playing it cool so hard, set a date and have fun!
Author:  Caitsith [ Sat Aug 23, 2014 12:39 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Great first date, screwing up now
Running over Roadkill...
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