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Author:  shadyboy [ Thu Jul 24, 2014 5:36 am ]
Post subject:  Give Her Something For Free? Am I Being Tooled?
I've been on and off with a girl. She actually chased me for about a year and a half, sending nude photos that I didn't even ask for, initiating sex, demanding we become an emotional couple rather than just friends with benefits, etc.

Three years later, I've eventually pushed her away. She had a boyfriend for bout a year, and recently dumped him.

I haven't seen her in about 6 months. She has invited me over for sex twice, but I have declined. She sent a few suggestive photos without me asking.

So, what's the problem? She wants something for free. Worth about $60 that she needs for an overseas trip and something that only I can provide. (Let's not discuss what it is.)

She doesn't ask nicely. She just demands it. I attempt to politely suggest that she barter something (anything) for it, but to no avail. It's as if she feels she is entitled. She talks about a bunch of "Tinder guys" that she is banging. Doesn't bother me, but if cocks are getting pumped, why do *I*, of all people, owe her a favor?

She's getting pretty cranky about this because she "needs" it for her trip. I don't want to be a dick on purpose, but I also don't want to get walked all over. Keep in mind that this is a girl that would have sex with me if I ever bothered to go over to her place, I just never take her up on it. Last we had sex was two years ago, since I ignored all her "come over" advances.

After not giving her a direct answer, she finally said "Fine I'll just bang [name] to get it". I ignored this.

What do you guys think? It is okay to give a girl something for free if she is KIND OF hitting on you?
Author:  J.Daniels [ Thu Jul 24, 2014 1:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Give Her Something For Free? Am I Being Tooled?
I'm sorry to say this if you care about her, but she's a worthless slut lol.

No it is not ok to invest in that type of girl.

She said she can bang another guy to get *it* ....so it's not that rare?
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Thu Jul 24, 2014 3:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Give Her Something For Free? Am I Being Tooled?
Wow. Cut that chick out of your life man. She's very clearly using you.

Let her fuck someone else for some drugs.

She literally just told you she'd prostitute herself for some pot... Why not just let her do that?

Woman isn't even worth the dignity of a response from you, in my opinion.
Author:  BrandonMarshall [ Sat Jul 26, 2014 3:30 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Give Her Something For Free? Am I Being Tooled?
WHY ARE YOU GIVING THIS BITCH THE TIME OF DAY?

Why does this thread even exist!?!?!


Here's a cyber-slap in the head for you.


You knew the answer deep down inside coming onto this forum. You were just going for a Hail Mary attempt that somebody would give you some type of advice that it's ok to salvage this rotten pussy.

My advice... personally I'd cut her off completely... no brainer. If you're really that horny I guess you could fuck her with a condom... but consider the chances of STDs. Definitely don't buy her shit.... and most likely she probably won't let you fuck her unless you buy her shit.
Author:  shadyboy [ Sat Jul 26, 2014 4:37 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Give Her Something For Free? Am I Being Tooled?
Thanks for the advice, guys.

She is a peice of shit. She knows it and admits it. She'd often tell me about her cheating escapades while she had a long-term boyfriend. (I've know her almost 10 years.) When she became a friend-with-benefits, I let kept her at arm's length.

You are right about the Hail Mary, Brandon.

Let me just offer the following, so you don't think the question is so crazy. This is a forum for how to vibe with women, right? We don't always have to be looking for "the one." Sometimes that might mean maintaining a booty-call type relationship that has other benefits (mainly social) without losing the high ground.

The girl is a long term friend that ended up spending over a year trying to win me over. The first time we made out, she asked "Why haven't we ever done this before?" and I responded, "Because you are an asshole." She gasped, "What?" and I didn't bother to explain. She's tried to get me to have threesome with her and her best friend. She invites me to every trip she goes on (Miami, Europe, etc.) She pays for my beers when we've hung out. She drives me places if we're getting drunk. After she started hitting on me, she used lines like "stop avoiding me", "you don't really like me, you're just being polite", etc. I ultimately shot her down. I denied sex. I never explained why. I've put zero into her while she's gone out of her way to involve me in her life, so I almost feel like a jerk sometimes.

So, I wondered if she was overstepping boundaries by asking for something for free.

My instincts lie with everyone here: "what a peice of shit." The sophomoric side of me considered that she might just actually be broke and thinks I would do her this favor (or perhaps she thinks I owe her one.) She has invested a lot in me (including her honesty, right? ) without asking for anything in return, so this came as a shock to me.
Author:  neo87 [ Sun Jul 27, 2014 9:00 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Give Her Something For Free? Am I Being Tooled?
I have to disagree. I'd just give it to her.

She's a piece of shit, yes, but sounds like she has done nothing to fuck with you or screw you over. Let's say I have a friend who is a woman beating crackhead. I've known him for years and he's done stuff for me. I associate with him. If he needs a favor I'd do it. Kinda silly to judge someone as a piece of shit after you've associated with them knowing their problems, accepted shit from them, and when they need something you get all judgmental of their lifestyle. As someone else said, cut her off if you think poorly of her, but don't do the middle ground. If you consider her a friend and willing to accept favors from her, do her a favor. She's not toying with you here, playing games with you for a favor or anything harmful to you. From your post you can easily have sex with her so it's not one of those she's holding sex over you for a favor.

If she is asking in a rude way, call her on it.
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I don't want to be a dick on purpose, but I also don't want to get walked all over.
Forget the walked all over part. I never understand why guys here are so obsessed with trying to win frame battles with girls theyre not sleeping with (and you don't care abt sleeping with her). Do you care if she thinks you did something nice for free for her? YOURE NOT TRYING TO GET HER. SHE LIKES AND HAS INVESTED WAY MORE THAN YOU HAVE. RELAX.

Cut her off if you want. But don't go accepting favors from a prostitute and cheater and then when she needs something you become mr.judgmental. Because if you're using her for drinks and lifts then you're technically a piece of shit too. If the thing she needs is easy to give, stop the bs frame stuff, and just give her. Don't use people and then judge them when they need something. Call her out on the rudeness.

And to everyone who commented, read the post again. He is not trying to exchange a favor for pussy and regardless he can fuck her whenever he wants.
Author:  BrandonMarshall [ Wed Jul 30, 2014 2:32 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Give Her Something For Free? Am I Being Tooled?
seems like you're getting an awful lot from her so it doesn't seem so out of place for her to ask for something.

Why exactly haven't you fucked her yet? What's the point of leading her on this long?


I mean yeah maybe she's an asshole... but does not fucking her for this long have a purpose behind it?
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