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Author:  The Essential [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 2:33 am ]
Post subject:  Do you think she did something with him?
Girl of 22 I used to work with who is very good looking, well we saw eachother and had a romantic emotional fling and we only kissed twice but spent 6 months together at work.

One manager in are work who is about 56. He books me work and usually a nice guy gentleman type. Well this girl lives near him and he started offering to give her lifts.

He would ask her to grab him coffee and stuff. I could see she was just trying to get in his good books so didn't think much of it but he didn't know her that well.

We were in his truck he was driving us and she(sat next to him) told him about a new guy she likes and the manager mocked me with him saying "he's quiet today" so I figured it was some game of hers having me there. He started being more unfriendly to me aswell.

She tried to show the manager she wasn't interested in me, and when we were all going to get into different trucks at the end she kept trying to get me to get a ride from someone else saying it would quicker for me. She moved away from me and stood by his side looking at me with this puppy dog look like she didn't want him to get jealous.

I stuck with them and he kept asking her in the truck if she was "ok" and she said "I feel sick" When I got out of the truck she looked back at me with this soft guilty look on her face like "I have to" and said to me Bye and he said nothing and there was a few others in there. Seemed weird as she friendzoned me days before this. He dropped her off last and it was late. Next day I asked her if he tried anything and she goes "He's not like thaat" in a girly voice that sounded like "He IS like that" the guy usually seems decent to me but their behavior was odd that night.
Author:  PatrickAnanda [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 5:03 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Do you think she did something with him?
Let me ask you this... who cares?

My post will be a bit in your face, but I assure you it is said with love, and I promise you we will find a way to get you out of this.

By the looks of your post, it sounds like you wanted a girl, failed, and now shes on to bigger and better things. It reminds me of a child who didn't get what he wanted for christmas and is now complaining because someone else got it.

There are two separate issues here: 1- you, your relationship to the girl, and your sense of entitlement. 2- the girl and the other dude and how they are treating you.

1- You have a sense of entitlement over a girl that is NOT YOURS. You kissed twice in 6 months and what now? Your expecting her to get on her knees and swear undying loyalty to you? True players understand one thing: The ONLY thing they are in control of is they're own actions and behaviors, NOT those of others. In other words, you cant control her, let go of that sense of entitlement. She isnt yours and if she left you for something else, it means you did something wrong, and need to work on yourself some more. So to answer the topic question of your post: Do you think she did something with that guy? My answer is WHO GIVES A FLYING FUCK? You do NOT have time to obsess over a girl you arnt fucking. Its none of your damn business what she did and with who. Get over it, work on yourself, and allow yourself to grow into a better person :)

2- The way they are treating you is fucked up. It isnt right and no one deserves to be messed with. That being said, there are two courses of action here. There is the negative way: You can lash out, get mad, tell the guy to fuck off, or wine to the girl in the most pathetic of ways "why are you being like thisssss?" But that wont accomplish anything (been there ;) ). The second course of action is to rise to the occasion. Treat them with respect, leave them their privacy, and move on to other things. You work together, you dont live together. Let them be happy together (assuming there is something going on).

The moral of the story is: Complete yourself as a person, completely independent of others. Walk around with a smile, not to show others that you are happy, but because you TRULY ARE HAPPY. Dont envy others for their happiness, learn to create your own. Dont dwell on the past and cling on to little things, and dont actively look for insult where there is none. Practice the philosophy of love and help spread it. Talk to women because you love them! You love their beauty, their femininity and everything about them. Your smiles are no longer faked, your lines are no longer forced and nothing you say is a lie. From now on, there is just you, women, and the beauty of life. You will live a much more fulfilling life if you follow these simple principles :)

All the best

Love and lots of it
TheMack
Author:  The Essential [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 8:39 am ]
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I still want to keep in contact with this chick and have been doing so for awhile now even though I haven't seen her for a bit...how often should I contact her? just want to keep her around as you never know plus she has a great personality and body.
Author:  PatrickAnanda [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 7:42 pm ]
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I still want to keep in contact with this chick and have been doing so for awhile now even though I haven't seen her for a bit...how often should I contact her? just want to keep her around as you never know plus she has a great personality and body.
"I still want to keep in contact with this chick and have been doing so for awhile now even though I haven't seen her for a bit"

No, you want to keep contact because you became needy and depend on her now.

"how often should I contact her?"

Never. Delete her number, facebook and anything else that might tempt you. Start working to better yourself as a person, independantly of other people's perceptions. In other words, if you have problems in your life, dont listen to the people that tell you to "go fuck 12 other girls then come back to this one" and opt rather to find passion and drive in your life. Set up the direction you want your life to go in, and understand that women are not your primary concern, they are merely along for the ride.

" just want to keep her around as you never know plus she has a great personality and body."

Thats your ego that doesnt want to let go of something shiny. Guess what? In your journey, you will encounter many girls that seem like gems but in fact are not. Your going to have to weed through alot of crap to find that girl you want, the trick is to not be a pussy about it, be a man, and understand that your life is more important than a pair of tits. She obviously doesnt have a great personality if shes treating you like shit. Where is your pride man?

All the best, we'll get you through this rut brother

Love and lots of it
TheMack
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