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| Author: | Samurai209 [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 11:56 am ] |
| Post subject: | Shit tests? |
Hey guys, I have a question for you all. When a woman youre interested in is behaving badly(or just not how you would like), how do you respond? I know a lot of you will say drop her and find a new girl, but then the majority of our human interactions would only last a few minutes at best. I'm not really sure if this qualifies as a shit test, but in a way it is. These girls are putting up hoops and seeing if you'll jump through them. My thoughts are that one should handle this by calmly talking to the girl and telling her that her actions are not acceptable/shes acting like a brat. Correct me if I am wrong, but I feel that by drawing attention to the problem, you are lowering your own value and showing that it has affected you negatively. Alternatively, you could ignore her until this action stops but I feel like this doesnt resolve the problem and just creates distance between you. I would really appreciate your thoughts on this. |
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| Author: | detox75 [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 7:21 pm ] |
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you are right to perceive it as a shit test. Talking to her is likely ineffective unless she is emotionally invested in the relationship and you are consistent enough to back up your sanctions. Ignoring it is a better solution which means, freeze her out until she stops. Girls usually can perceive when you wont take their shit, so you have to be strong and consistent, and be prepared to walk away from any woman and any time. Another effective technique is to make fun of her action and label it as suspect/immature/dumb/emotionally unsound/ shady. Controlling the frame is the best way to stymie, stultify, and prevent this behavior. Whatever you do, don't supplicate her, because that's the road to the AFC epic fail. |
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| Author: | Ch1mera [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 8:35 pm ] |
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Correct, bringing up the issue shows that you're being affected by her actions - you need her validation. Bam, you've lost frame control! ALWAYS maintain frame control. The correct approach is to freeze her but you must begin the freeze after an overwhelmingly positive interaction - let's say she's been shit testing you by making fun of your hobbies/life or whatever, you would just ignore that shit and hang out with her like NOTHING happened - if your inner game is solid then this would be the default response anyway. You game her, you tease her by giving then withdrawing kino and thus comfort THEN after your day out you freeze her for no reason. You thus leave the frame as a happy/highly sexually charged vibe; subsequent freezing will now make her want you more - do you understand? If you froze her after whining like a little bitch then that would not build attraction, rather, further distance and disrespect. In summary, best to worst action: Freeze after building a happy/highly sexually charged frame > Freeze > Freeze after whining |
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