Quote: Yea that's what i always used to hear "just friends" but i got this handled and i never get into friendzone anymore.
But lately I've been gaming this chick that i met her at a party, but i was in a hurry so i just talk to her 5min and she gave me her facebook.
After then i was chatting with her for couple days, got her number and called her, she was sending lot's of IOI's and since she's a teenager living with her parent's she couldn't go out whenever she wanted and her parents are very protective, so we agreed that she will call me when she goes out, she told me that more likely she goes out on weekends. this is the 4th weekend and she never called, but we always talk on facebook, like 30min every 2-3 days.
I always end conversation. i'm always in control, not needy, showed some IOI's, always the prize, maybe i teased her too hard for an hb7 but she always in happy mood when talking to me, and oh she's always negging me so hard, but i do neg her even more when she does that!, but i noticed her attraction has tuned down comparing to what it was before. i couldn't sexualize enough over facebook.
Today she sent me a Brother-Sister demand on facebook. which surprised me!! i mean, i finally decided to make this girl my girlfriend since were both attracted to each other.Can you imagine how frustrated this can be? at first she sent me a Father-Sister, i replied with "Oh i had a kid and i didn't know about it :p" then she changed it back to brother-sister in like 3 sec, i was so confused.
i was thinking like a psycho, but thought that maybe it's just a shit test that sometimes girls call guys "brother" "Pal" "Buddy" "friend", but can you beleive that we knew each other 6 weeks ago. and what she sent is a permanent state that will always be there, not just a word she said.
I played cool, and she was just as before she didn't changed nor called me brother in any other way. i couter attacked her by calling her sister just in case this was a shit test, and to see if she feels bad about it, but she reacted normal.
I'm confused as you can see, can anyone have the same problem or can clarify what are the mistakes i made other then "you should have sexualized"because i did what i could so i can meet her and start kina-escalating. and no she's not flaking.
OK, strategy-wise odds are you've blown it so far. Your first mistake was a FB close, and even that could have worked if you can use it to get f2f or at least phone contact (which gives you more power to get f2f) but she made excuses not to talk to you, so its clear you blew it by that. I'm also guessing that even though you are ENDING every convo, you're probably also STARTING them. Forgive me if I'm not 100% correct on that point.
Anyway, the important part isn't WHY you blew it (not with HER anyway, but it will factor in to your next engagements) but WHAT to do about it.
My advice is:
Accept the frame she's set, be cool with it, and then work from there. Its only going to explode in your face if you ACT like you are having success when its fairly obvious you're NOT. The only way to pull this one out is to start from where you are with her NOW, in REALITY, not in your wishful thinking, and to EVOLVE the current relationship towards the kind you want.
BE her brother. Keep negging her back. And DONT go overtly sexual yet. ACCEPT the brother role. You need to use sexual language in innocent contexts instead, be more COVERT about sexualizing, and then neg her about having a dirty mind if she says anything about it. This begins to build the idea that SHE is the one thinking of sex with YOU.... You will also need to use kino, beginning very innocently and "brotherly"....
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