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Author:  sambaguy [ Sat Sep 17, 2011 3:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Kissed but can't get along
Hi there, this is maybe my first post.
My mother language isn't English but I hope you will be ok with that.

Some weekends ago I met this nice girl, she's tall and something like HB8.

My first talk with her was kind of great, was on a party and we talked about movies and etc.

One of those drunken weekends she was kinda drunk and we were walking home with other people... she then embraced me and I kissed her... it was almost like she picked me up. And I made a good kino on this kiss. However I couldn't make too much work on the conversation... she was too drunk and we came back to the party and since then never talked about that anymore.

After that I couldnt go any further with her anymore. I see her every week but I can't work out on how to break the ice. When she see's me, she kinda of say hi, smile..
sometimes she won't even say hi or even look at me. she can't look on my eyes and we can't start a conversation. When I try, sometimes she will start talking with another person. For me she seems shy with me but still she wants something.

When I go harder and make some jokes and try to force a conversation then she go ahead and we start something. Sometimes she will coment something with me so shes not tottally avoiding me. But I can't go further.

Tonight she was there and we talked a little bit, good smiles and good attention but too normal bla bla bla... I don't know what to do.
I'm pretty sure I need to be man on something but I'm missing how.

How should I speak with her?

I was thinking in, on my first chance, telling something like":

"So you seem pretty shy, I hope it's not because we kissed the other day..."

But I don't know what to say next.
any opinions?
How can I break the ice?

Thanks!
Author:  Everfresh [ Mon Sep 19, 2011 7:06 pm ]
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The reason its hard to answer this question is because every one of us is completely different in the way we talk to women. Some guys are really funny and flamboyant, while other guys are cool and calm etc.

My advice would be to figure out a conversation style that suits your personality first.
I'm sure you already know what kind of guy you are and what kind of alpha you want to be; then you can combine it with some of the standard conversational methods like C&F, cold reading, routines, role playing etc.

I personally love cold reading for starting a conversation with someone new (after the opener). It makes them feel personally involved in the conversation and shows confidence and social intuition on your part. we all know too many questions are a NO NO, so rather go with..."you look like a secret shower singer" than..."so what do you do for fun?"

A lot of guys also neglect to do drills. I like to practice starting a convo with a partner giving me one word answers; I then try transition into a normal conversation using cold reading, picking up threads or situational stuff. If you're taking this stuff seriously, I'm sure you're doing drills on your sticking points.

All the best with this set. I hope it turns out well for you dude :)

Everfresh
Author:  sambaguy [ Thu Sep 22, 2011 10:27 am ]
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Hey buddy, thanks for taking your time to reply :D

It depends too much on my mood and social circle. If I'm safe, I get really funny and falmboyant, if I'm by myself or I'm not confortable, I get calm/quiet.

Thanks for the advice, I'll research and see what kind of interaction is better for me.

To be honest, there's so much information about PUA at the moment that I get lost.

Cheers!
Author:  olds929 [ Thu Sep 22, 2011 11:46 am ]
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Not looking into your eyes when you talk would be a good sign that she is intimidated by you, but as my general opinion from what you described, she might not be that interested, so you have to play "the game" . Ignore her also and try to go out with other girls and make sure she sees that !
Author:  sambaguy [ Thu Sep 22, 2011 12:15 pm ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
Not looking into your eyes when you talk would be a good sign that she is intimidated by you, but as my general opinion from what you described, she might not be that interested, so you have to play "the game" . Ignore her also and try to go out with other girls and make sure she sees that !
It's possible she's not that interested. Or she want's me to have the next move.
I'll update my next move here.
Author:  Anon191919 [ Thu Sep 22, 2011 9:32 pm ]
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just run your mouth, talk until she gets comfortable. then escalate. Theres a lot of components of pickup, but what they all do is this. Get a girl suceptive to you, then kino escalate.
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