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| Author: | el_rubia [ Mon Aug 22, 2011 10:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Really Need Your Help Guys - In too deep?! |
Hi guys, this is a bad one. The hardest one ive ever had. My gf and i have been together since March, we were really great friends for almost 2 years before that during which we both dated other people and were happy. Once those relationships turned sour we found each other i guess. anyway everything was pretty perfect, we shared everything, completely honest love, no game playing atall, everything was perfect. but now she has had to move to another country for studies. And we are trying LDR. She has mentioned to me that she "kinda doesnt feel like im her boyfriend" and also says that she "almost feels uncomfortable putting photos of us up" on fb. we have a complicated past (other friends had problems with us being together etc) but i thought once she had gone away shed get over all that. she also has mentioned when she thought i wouldnt hear to her closest friend that she feels " in too deep and i don’t actually love him as much as i say i do" What the hell do i do guys? i really like this girl, and everything is so perfect most of the time... is the distance gonna kill it? we text every day/night and SPAM most days so perhaps im telling her i love her too much? (more than once daily) Should i withdraw this affection and hope she comes looking? im seriously panicking here because she is special to me... Im playing it cool to her but im panicking... any advice would be really appreciated. thanks |
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| Author: | el_rubia [ Mon Aug 22, 2011 11:15 pm ] |
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also an add - on i am certainly acting quite afc in this... should i curtail my affection? let her text first? never say i love her till she says it to me? i feel these problems wouldnt exist if the distance wasnt there but at the same time i know im acting afc... i thought it was what she wanted as she was having a tough time abroad... perhaps now she's having a better time i should chill out a bit? as in perhaps she just needs more space..? what do we think guys? please, any and all constructive advice would be hugely appreciated. Also please note in the first post when i said what she told her friend and thought i wouldnt hear, i didnt literally hear, but i know for a fact this was what she said, im not a 14 year old going on whispers |
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| Author: | Apocalyptica [ Tue Aug 23, 2011 12:26 am ] |
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Get a grip on yourself. Is this a girl speaking? Always make sure that her interest level is slightly above yours. Take that as a rule. And then you obviously should note that saying "i love you" each day is completely wrong. |
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| Author: | el_rubia [ Tue Aug 23, 2011 7:30 am ] |
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thanks for that "constructive" input. i realise im out of control here, im looking for advice on what to do beyond "get a grip" |
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| Author: | Apocalyptica [ Tue Aug 23, 2011 10:58 am ] |
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Did you actually had sex with this girl already? She states to you "i don't feel like your boyfriend", and "i feel uncomfortable putting pics on fb". Two signs something is clearly wrong here. I bet you asked her to commit? You should slow down this stuff man. Try to get your life going on and do other stuff besides thinking of this girl. Go to parties, meet other woman, catch up with you bro's, go to the swimming pool, whatever it is. Also refrain from talking too much with her. Don't call her, let her call you. Don't say all those sweet words cause if you do so, it will show your insecurity. Basically you are all the time searching for validation. You want to be sure whether she really likes you, yes or no. In doing so you will get the opposite as result. This girl feels more and more pushed into something she might not want (at this time), or maybe she doesn't want at all. It's a vicious circle, with you controlling the "start/stop" button. Press stop ASAP by doing what is written above. I don't say you need to be an asshole ignoring her from now on, you just should realize that the LESS you give her, the MORE you will receive. |
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