I'd just shoot her an e-mail as well, saying hey How have you been doing? I hope your well
. and that's it.
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| Author: | the_modern_warrior [ Sat Aug 06, 2011 10:29 am ] |
| Post subject: | Reiniate contact with ex girlfriend |
I 've broken up with my ex about 2,5 years ago, and I want to contact again with her. We had a good relationship but after 7 months we called it quits,I was a rookie back then(afc). I don't have her anymore as a fbbuddy, nor do I have her phonenumber. Anyone got some tips? |
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| Author: | Lodewijkp [ Sat Aug 06, 2011 11:42 am ] |
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why do you want to contact her ? do you have unresolved issues ? or are you just looking for a easy emotional fuck ? |
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| Author: | the_modern_warrior [ Sat Aug 06, 2011 1:16 pm ] |
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Quote: why do you want to contact her ?
We had a fight while texting that ended in a break up.I haven't seen her in 2,5 years. I find it weird, I just want catch up
do you have unresolved issues ? or are you just looking for a easy emotional fuck ? |
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| Author: | P1nkstar [ Sat Aug 06, 2011 1:18 pm ] |
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Just send her a msg trough facebook...? |
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| Author: | Lodewijkp [ Sat Aug 06, 2011 5:06 pm ] |
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so you are saying you have changed in 2,5 years and you want closure . exactly, what do you want on a emotional level? |
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| Author: | the_modern_warrior [ Sat Aug 06, 2011 6:43 pm ] |
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Quote: so you are saying you have changed in 2,5 years and you want closure . Off course I've changed. I've become more mature and understand women better.exactly, what do you want on a emotional level? I had a good time with her,I've find it a shame that's something small have made us part our way. And yes I've been dating other women/girls (I'm only 22) in those 2,5 years,I don't have oneitis. |
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| Author: | Little Panda [ Sat Aug 06, 2011 6:58 pm ] |
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Was she the one who broke up with you? Because in that case, I would see absolutely no other reason to contact her after 3 years unless it's an egoistical act to make yourself feel better. |
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| Author: | the_modern_warrior [ Sat Aug 06, 2011 9:00 pm ] |
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Quote: Was she the one who broke up with you? Nah man, it was weird man it was a fight about little things,I don't even know who broke up. To tell you the truth,I want to contact her cause I feel she dodges me and doesn't come to my town off fear of seeing me, but I don't like that. I don't want to make somebody feel like they shouldn't come to a place because I live there . I'm cool with just being friends with her or just seeing her. I don't want her to dodge me because she thinks I'm mad or something like that.Yeah it sounds weird. But I think that's case. Cause before I was with here I saw her a lot in stores, streets. It's weird man
Because in that case, I would see absolutely no other reason to contact her after 3 years unless it's an egoistical act to make yourself feel better. |
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| Author: | Little Panda [ Sun Aug 07, 2011 12:47 am ] |
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If you can't find her on facebook or any other social networking site you're using, I just suggest you leave it. Don't become too stalker-ish |
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| Author: | the_modern_warrior [ Mon Aug 08, 2011 3:14 pm ] |
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Quote: If you can't find her on facebook or any other social networking site you're using, I just suggest you leave it. Don't become too stalker-ish I'm not stalkerish, you guys in here are too judgemental , I read words as 'stalkerish' and egoistical and shit. My question was can u guys give me some tips, I didn't ask for a judgement, ok. P1nkstar is the only one who gave a tip, thank u P1nkstar but I can't message her on fb, and If I could , what should I message her? |
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| Author: | fearless123 [ Mon Aug 08, 2011 3:25 pm ] |
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If you have her email or address send her a letter. Just say cut and dry ....I would like to meet with you, I've experienced a lot in the past few years and I now have a perspective. I want to share with you where I've been, where I was and where I am now. I'm going through a similar situation myself and that's what I plan on doing. Except I'm going to try to make contact with her at her house |
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| Author: | Lodewijkp [ Mon Aug 08, 2011 5:01 pm ] |
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asking someone to meet you can work , but i think it's a terrible choice in general. you are better off sending her a email on how you really feel about the breakup up and all that stuff...nobody is going to waste time meeting you without a reason to do so. show her you have changed and you think different about things. |
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| Author: | Little Panda [ Tue Aug 09, 2011 1:16 am ] |
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Nobody is judging you here. Just making the point that it's a bad idea, no matter what the reasons might be. And wouldn't you agree that if you started hunting her down after not finding her on facebook or any other social site you might be using, is stalkerish? Lode brought up the best point actually. There's in fact no need to see her at all, just shoot her an e-mail and get it out of your chest. |
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| Author: | Irish1 [ Tue Aug 09, 2011 5:28 am ] |
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Be careful! Sometimes, this may be just like opening the proverbial Pandora's box. You may also open a few old emotional wounds. But it does depend on the situation. I'm more of a lurker her than a poster, so my cred may be low. But I speak from personal experience. Now here's the dark side of reconnection. I just went through something like this. Reconnected with someone after 14 years. Back then, it was often chaotic between us. She was very unstable, had serious emotional and mental issues, screwed around a lot, was quite insensitive and rude, etc. Still fell for the crazy bitch though (I was a young chump!). She crossed my mind one day, and after a quick search, found her on Facebook and nonchalantly sent her a friend request. She immediately accepted and shot me back an email. A few days after that, she noticed I was on FB around 2AM and called me. Good convo, sounded much more normal than way back when. We talked until the sun came up! I initially didn't expect anything to come of reconnecting, aside from merely brushing away a few old squabbles and whatnot. But we did become closer, but over time, still realized that, despite her own personal growth, she still had many of the same tendencies that drove me up the wall back in the day. I turned into a total AFC, probably came on a bit strong and even got the LJBF line. I lost control. I got weak and let her play me again! It drove me crazy to devolve into my old wishy-washy ways, after spending so many years clawing my way out of that! I was going nuts! And just last week, it all broke down and turned into a massive fight, after I found out she was secretly seeing someone else. After I lost my cool and called her "the best mindf**k I ever had", she immediately deleted me on FB without another word. OK, I know, I probably could have handled that better. But I'm thinking I was hoping for that outcome, as this woman had started to poison my life (the dreaded oneitis), and, as much as it hurt, I would be far better off without that kind of destructive influence in my life. Addition by subtraction. And here I am, feeling pissed off and devalued, though still positive and optimistic, devouring PUA material, fighting to rebound and get my mojo back (also pulled out the old Tony Robbins tapes today! lol). No way that bitch is going to devour my soul! Suffice it to say, I broke it off with her all those years ago for many good reasons. And years later, those reasons were still valid. It's always hard to say goodbye, and to walk away from a lot of effort, a lot of what-ifs, a strong connection, a lot of deep emotions and a good friend. But if the alternative is allowing yourself to be eaten away from the inside out, then you gotta do what you gotta do. It probably wouldn't hurt to reconnect in a casual way (I have a few old girlfriends/flings/hookups on my FB friends list and we're all cool). Don't be a detective -- if you can't find her via a simple FB search or whatever, it could come off as creepy. Drop a nonchalant "thought I'd say hi" message if you still have her email (did she block you on FB?). If you can't find her by simple means, it's probably best just to drop it. If you do reconnect, be very careful where it leads. Keep your emotions in check. Hold her at arm's length and don't get too emotionally involved too fast (unless she just wants a simple no-frills romp in the sack). Think back to the reason you both broke up (if it was you that initiated it). If she's still doing the same things, then don't let history repeat itself. Above all, you've got to be emotionally tough. Stay in control!!! Don't lose your cool if it turns out she's in a relationship/marriage/etc., or if she tells you to get lost, or throws out that LJBF line. Be prepared for anything! And above all, it's a lot easier and a lot more fun to just meet someone new that works well with your new and improved self. Don't regress -- progress! It's also a much safer route with a lot less emotional baggage. People are part of your past for a reason. |
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| Author: | pleasureseeker [ Tue Aug 09, 2011 5:53 am ] |
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I'd just shoot her an e-mail as well, saying hey How have you been doing? I hope your well . and that's it.
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