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Author:  adonis_boy [ Wed Jul 27, 2011 3:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Jealousy Taking Over
My long distance gf has a guy best friend in her hometown who is a photographer. I haven't met him yet. They were out together yesterday for a festival and he posts on Facebook some high quality photos of her and other friends there he has taken, most of them including only my gf. They are nothing explicit, just my gf smiling or posing, some including from the top where you can see her cleavage. I also observe that he shares songs on her wall frequently.

I also have close female friends and I am comfortable with her having guy friends. But since I haven't met him in person and there is distance between, I am not comfortable seeing her posing to another guy I don't know. To be honest, I became extremely jealous when I have seen them.

I know I should trust her but I have no idea how I should get into that mentality. What would a confident man unlike me would do when he has seen those photos?
Author:  Danzella [ Wed Jul 27, 2011 4:34 pm ]
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How long have they been friends?
Author:  adonis_boy [ Wed Jul 27, 2011 4:55 pm ]
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Before we started dating. We are studying together but we went apart for a few weeks for summer holidays. She went to her hometown and this guy is living there. She only mentioned to me that they are best friends but she didn't give me any other information about this guy except that he is a photographer and her best friend. I'm assuming that she is waiting to do it when I go to her hometown.
Author:  Icup [ Sun Jul 31, 2011 7:26 pm ]
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so she knew him before you? I'm assuming they have never dated? My ex and I were long distance for a year (long distance meaning 6hr drive apart). You gotta expect her to go out with people (including males) when you are away...its natural. Long distance is tricky... dont get off the phone after a fight, or leave a conversation negatively. Try not to look so jealous. It will likely turn her off. But It should be cool for you to ask if there is anything between the two of them. If she says no, then leave it like that. Find out why you are actually jealous. It's not just because of some public pictures he takes. Do you feel he can treat her better? Or your not doing the best you can be for her? Is it your afraid of being cheated on and left single? I dont know, but its a good idea to resolve that question within yourself before you proceed on your initial reactions and emotions.

Good luck keep us updated
Author:  Apocalyptica [ Sun Jul 31, 2011 9:48 pm ]
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so she knew him before you? I'm assuming they have never dated? My ex and I were long distance for a year (long distance meaning 6hr drive apart). You gotta expect her to go out with people (including males) when you are away...its natural. Long distance is tricky... dont get off the phone after a fight, or leave a conversation negatively. Try not to look so jealous. It will likely turn her off. But It should be cool for you to ask if there is anything between the two of them. If she says no, then leave it like that. Find out why you are actually jealous. It's not just because of some public pictures he takes. Do you feel he can treat her better? Or your not doing the best you can be for her? Is it your afraid of being cheated on and left single? I dont know, but its a good idea to resolve that question within yourself before you proceed on your initial reactions and emotions.

Good luck keep us updated
WHAT?

Asking whether she has something with "him"? Based on pictures that he took of his GF?

If you ask it, you show already your insecurities.

Don't ask anything. Act as nothing has happened. You know why? Because... nothin happened. Come on man, some stupid pics on internet of your gf who poses for a guy, so what?
Author:  Danzella [ Mon Aug 01, 2011 12:42 am ]
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Before we started dating. We are studying together but we went apart for a few weeks for summer holidays. She went to her hometown and this guy is living there. She only mentioned to me that they are best friends but she didn't give me any other information about this guy except that he is a photographer and her best friend. I'm assuming that she is waiting to do it when I go to her hometown.
I don't think you have anything to worry about. If she knew him before she met you, she's had the chance to hook up/date him and I'm assuming she hasn't, she then got into a relationship with you so you're fine.

If they've hooked up before, then I can see why you're worrying, if they haven't, you're over reacting. Don't come across as insecure and jealous, that'll kill her attraction for you. Act confident and unphased.

Look at it this way. The worst that can happen is she fucks him. In the big scheme of things, it's not that bad. There are other girls. Worrying is wasted energy. Just enjoy it and go with the flow :)
Author:  Don Draper [ Mon Aug 01, 2011 5:45 pm ]
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Nothing was happening, she was just posing.

You cannot let things like her posing for some guy, and some guy posting links to songs on her facebook wall affect you. They show a very underlying insecurity in your character.

Just let it be. Most probably, that guy is in the "friend zone".
Author:  jasminbetts007 [ Tue Aug 02, 2011 7:19 am ]
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Just ask her for that ,,,,,
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