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| Author: | adonis_boy [ Sun Jul 24, 2011 10:03 am ] |
| Post subject: | Do I Care Too Much? |
Sorry for the long read. I would appreciate any help. A week ago, my long-distance girlfriend was planning to go to campus to use the internet and we decided that she will let me know if she went there or not so that we could talk on SPAM. At the time she was planning to be there, I didn't hear from her so I called her an hour later to hear that she went there with a friend and they were chatting so she forgot to text me. I did not get disappointed by this and thought that it is a one time thing: People can forget, so what? So I said no problem, it would be nice if you let me know but it's ok and moved on. 2 days ago, she got into a fierce argument with her mother and she was very sad and depressed. I did my best to help her over the phone and we talked like 30 minutes. Yesterday, she went out to meet a close friend and her situation with her mother was still unresolved. Knowing this, I sent her a text last night, to see if she is ok and everything's fine but I don't get a reply. Worried about her, I assume that something went wrong again with her mum so I call her after 3 hours. I find her watching a movie with her best friend at her place, drinking tea. I tell her I was worried about her and she asks me why? Then I say "Because I didn't hear back from you.". She says she forgot to reply and apologizes. Because it is the second time she is doing this, I become disappointed and suddenly feel like I am caring for this girl more than neccessary. The truth is, I didn't enjoy worrying about her all night when she tells me she has serious problems with her family, later finding out that she is having a good time with her friend, leaving me worried. I have no problem with her having a good time and spending time with friends but I felt ignored after spending that much time to make her feel better. I even cut our conversation on the phone short earlier that day to let her enjoy her time with her friend. I let her know about this and after we hang up, she sends me a very intimate apologizing text telling me she thinks about me all day long, she loves me very much, blah blah. I feel like this is turning into a routine and I don't really like it. I don't know if I should make it this big of a problem but it is really bothering me with the distance involved. I have been really understanding until this time but I don't know if I should be anymore. I would love to get your objective opinions on this. |
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| Author: | Apocalyptica [ Sun Jul 24, 2011 10:40 am ] |
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Seems like she doesn't care too much about you. How many times you see her? When was the last time, and when will be the next time? |
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| Author: | adonis_boy [ Sun Jul 24, 2011 12:52 pm ] |
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Quote: Seems like she doesn't care too much about you.
It has been two weeks. I will see her again in 3 weeks.
How many times you see her? When was the last time, and when will be the next time? |
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| Author: | 100% [ Mon Jul 25, 2011 12:18 am ] |
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Change topic while shes talkikng change it to something interesting and exciting that you both could do together then she forget about her problems and start thinking about the good memories you to could start making with eachother |
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| Author: | astartes2 [ Thu Aug 11, 2011 6:27 pm ] |
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its hard to find the right matches |
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| Author: | SomeYoungGuy [ Thu Aug 11, 2011 7:39 pm ] |
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Tell her that you don't like what she's doing. Tell her it shows a lack of commitment on her part, and that if she doesn't change you'll be gone. You shouldn't let her keep doing it. Always tell her your feelings regarding problems that affect your relationship. However...this girl seems to be the type who doesn't get too personal and intimate often. So she may think that the whole calling her and telling her you worried about her is a little clingy. I'd stop worrying about her. She's a big girl. She doesn't need you worrying about her, and she definitely doesn't need you telling her that you're worried. |
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