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Author:  adrenaline414 [ Wed Jul 13, 2011 8:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Oh man, really screwed up, how do I fix this?
So I've been in a relationship with this HB8 for about 3 months now. Known her for 4. She is a overall good catch but one thing I do not like is she can be quite the bitch when she gets mad and becomes moody over the smallest things sometimes.
I usually remain calm and try to calm her down but try not to be an AFC about it but sometimes I am (it's a habit)

Anyways we were going good for a little bit and everything was great. Until last night when we were texting dirty. Basically we were going back and forth about things we wanted to do (were supposed to see each other today) and how we'd have fun today. Now she eventually mentioned licking a popsicle and i made a reference to my dick and she said "You're my favorite flavor" and I replied "but you dont swallow =(" figured as a joke. BIG mistake.

Backstory to this was she told me before she felt uncomfortable about doing that about a month ago. She was a virgin (saving herself for the right one) and she considered me that 1 so I just had sex with her for the first time like a week ago so I figured she'd be comfortable now. Which is why I said that.

She got turned off and said she's done talking dirty and got pissed (this is all over text messages not by talking btw) well we went back and forth and she was like, "I feel terrible now like im not good enough for you", "What? Taking my virginity wasnt enough for you?" I ended up trying to explain the situation saying it was just a joke and that I dont need that if she's uncomfortable its no big deal and not to worry about it.

Well she basically said goodnight and went to bed after i said "Im sorry for making you feel that way" Today comes around and she calls me after work and is pissed. I feel she basically called me to yell at me. We went back and forth and she literally cried on the phone and said she was crying last night. I told her I won't bring that up again and im sorry. She said "You better fucking be" That got me pissed but I kept my cool and basically tried to bring it to a peaceful resolution. The conversation ended with her saying she doesnt wanna see me today cause she's upset. I dont think i've seen her this pissed before. Basically she said she had to go after that. I made a mistake and said "I love you" in a approval way like an afc would and she just replied with goodbye.

I was an AFC again and i took a picture of a nice flower bush a couple hours ago when I was driving by it and sent her the message "They say a picture says a thousand words well this one says two.... I'm Sorry =(" and i basically told her I was going on a walk in a little bit and that she's invited (we were planning to do this before she cancelled on me) however no reply back and know she got them and she's been on fb.

Sooooo.... what should I do now with all the damage I did? I went from a definate lay today to her on the verge of breaking up with me from texting 4 words to her...
Author:  mcare [ Wed Jul 13, 2011 8:50 pm ]
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Don't try to fix this thing. Just get it together and don't be AFC from now on. Ignore this incident and just freeze her out if she tries to bring it up again (not if she's trying to have a disscusion but if she's just being drama queen about it).

Believe me she knows that you were joking. She's just taking advantage of this situation. And that doesn't mean that she's a bitch. She's just a woman.
Author:  JuanAntonioB [ Wed Jul 13, 2011 9:19 pm ]
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typical woman behaviour.

your job is to know if what you did was right or wrong.

you are not in the wrong in this case, it was a joke, she knew this, but she tested you and you failed, sadly.

follow advice from above
Author:  adrenaline414 [ Wed Jul 13, 2011 10:33 pm ]
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Thanks for the info, kinda new so unclear what "freeze out" is. Is that when I ignore her and let her contact me? Basically dont bring it up at all and pretend like it never happened?
Author:  TheFreshPrince [ Thu Jul 14, 2011 12:45 am ]
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Exactly. And I would agree with the others 100%, except that you said she gets moody over the smallest things.

That's normal girl behavior, but there's an off chance she's bipolar. I had one of those and it drove me insane. I ended up doing all sorts of AFC stuff, because she was a complete bitch about HER problem. Maybe I'm just being paranoid, but from what little you said about her reaction, this is possible.

Don't worry too much; it's an off chance, and I would have to definitely hear more about her reaction to other things. Just be aware if she seems to flip moods very often.
Author:  adrenaline414 [ Thu Jul 14, 2011 12:48 am ]
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she just called, handled it like a boss 8) basically listened to her babble about it for 10 min (like a drama queen) then when she was waiting for a long detailed response to it i said "Im sorry for the way I made you feel" we exchanged Q&A bout it couple more times. I simply was trying to drop it and transitioned to a diff subject then cut it off and said goodbye. Thx for the advice guys
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