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Author:  Hermeezey [ Wed Jul 13, 2011 7:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Regressing back to an AFC
Ok well me and this girl have been going steady for a week now, and I'm starting to see some of my AFC habits coming back out.

I'm trying to suppress my habits, and keep my AMOG self but I'm really slipping up more and more.

Advice?
Author:  Ethan Hunt [ Wed Jul 13, 2011 7:27 pm ]
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Fuck dude I'm having the exact same problem. I think its that we're just getting too comfortable, and feeling like its okay to let our guard down a little because she won't care. But that's not the way it is at all. Never let your guard down for a second, because you will lose her as fast as you got her.

Another thing I've learned is this becomes a problem if you try to be somebody you're not at the start of the relationship. Of course we don't want to be AFC, so we put on a PUA costume and masqurade (or however the hell you spell that) in that until we can't take it any longer. Eventually, with relationships, our true side will come through. That's why it's important to be sure to be yourself %100 of the time, so when a relationship comes along she's not falling for the routines and the guy she thinks you are, she's falling for you.

I'm having a difficult time figuring out how to be myself and still be an alpha male. I think we will always be AFC until we can truly, deep down in the very darkest part of our psyches become a high value, alpha, pickup artist. That is the only way we will ever really solve this problem.
Author:  bdub [ Thu Jul 14, 2011 4:23 am ]
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I was listening to an older David D program and he was emphasizing that learning pickup is a journey. Most of the pumping up your chest will drop off in your relationship and thats cool. Be authentic and know that you are a man. Don't question that. And don't assume the identity of PUA or AFC - it's too limiting. Take a look at your inner game and I think you will see a change AFC business. Good luck man.
Author:  zige [ Thu Jul 14, 2011 12:32 pm ]
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I find that happiness begates confidence.

If you're frustrated or moody likely you'll project other negative emotions like needy, jealous or controlling.

Just think how far you've come, how good you've got it and how much better you'll be going forward.
I'm sure you are much more awesome then when you started. :-)

Don't think of it as "letting my guard down" or "having to work hard to keep this girl." Sometimes you get convinced you need to execute some routine or use some technique. You probably don't. Relax. Just be confident.

Embrace the challenge, keep on learning and think how awesome you'll be going forward.

You do have to want to work on these things if you are going to be good at them. Either you want to work on it for yourself, or you want to work on yourself for this girl. Think about that.
Author:  Hermeezey [ Thu Jul 14, 2011 6:29 pm ]
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Just think how far you've come, how good you've got it and how much better you'll be going forward.
I'm sure you are much more awesome then when you started. :-)
I Think you're right. After all, I always thought that Pick-up was a way to get her attention by being different.
Author:  SomeYoungGuy [ Wed Jul 20, 2011 3:47 pm ]
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I was listening to an older David D program and he was emphasizing that learning pickup is a journey. Most of the pumping up your chest will drop off in your relationship and thats cool. Be authentic and know that you are a man. Don't question that. And don't assume the identity of PUA or AFC - it's too limiting. Take a look at your inner game and I think you will see a change AFC business. Good luck man.
Good advice here. I need to work on my own inner game in my relationship, so I don't come off as AFC.
Author:  charmingattraction [ Sat Jul 23, 2011 3:55 pm ]
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Just keep it interesting.

We live in a boring world. We are becoming more and more boring. That is really the deal breaker. Make shure your inner game is strong. I find that hard but I feel like eventually you slowly let her in
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Sat Jul 23, 2011 5:38 pm ]
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which AFC habits ? description ?
Author:  100% [ Mon Jul 25, 2011 12:20 am ]
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keep ur confidence on high at all times no matter what the situation and if you start over thinking just keep it simple dont get in ur own head and remember the fundamentals of gaming
Author:  MrJP [ Mon Jul 25, 2011 4:24 pm ]
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There needs to be a certain degree of "you" showing when trying to attract a girl. If you end up getting into a relationship with a girl you're not going to be able to pull off being somebody else forever. I'd say you need to improve your confidence for real and not just pretend to be confident.
Author:  -Guess- [ Tue Jul 26, 2011 8:20 pm ]
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I had an Ex where we would banter non-stop (before I found the community) PERFECT rapport but when she broke up with me It tore me to shreds! every girl I picked up since I self-sabotage because im like 'I don't have the same natural rapport with this one' eventually slip into cheesy mushy stuff to early on (transplanting emotions over) and pushing them away with my neediness or If I try to over compensate just piss them off by acting to cocky

I am currently trying to keep myself busy with activities (yoga, swimming, work) so that Im to busy and naturally out of my head

Try occupying your life with other things stop yourself for making your GF the thing you revolve around
Author:  Slink182 [ Tue Jul 26, 2011 8:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Here you go
Inner game my friend!
I've been in this boat... but you should know that if the girl likes you and has hung out with you a few/several times then the hardest part is done IMO. Just always make sure that you are the one controlling the frame... OH YA, and I also recommend making plans with them, like super cool plans, and then flake on her (guys, we've all been there when girls flake on us, and it makes us miss them and like them more), then hang out with her again once or twice, and flake on her again. Just make sure she knows your the prize :)
Author:  Dalinkin [ Thu Jul 28, 2011 10:54 pm ]
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OH YA, and I also recommend making plans with them, like super cool plans, and then flake on her (guys, we've all been there when girls flake on us, and it makes us miss them and like them more), then hang out with her again once or twice, and flake on her again. Just make sure she knows your the prize :)
While this may be some decent advice when you are gaming a girl, I think this is terrible advice for a relationship. You shouldn't have to be running these kinds of game on your gf. Why not just be honest and create attraction and desire by being the Alpha and keeping her on her toes?
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