I see what you are asking...internalizing this is not something that happens overnight, it's something that takes practice but more so, it becomes your reality...what you are explaining is that you are trying to make this your reality, but your true reality sets in and you revert back!
If she's blunt enough to tell you, that's not going to work for her...ask her, what will? Let's figure this out and make a game of it! Now, just one sec...My mindset is different now and this is what I would do...back in the day, I would have turned my back on my GF and would have said....That's a fukd up thing to say...but if she is being truly honest, take that as a good thing and hopefully she is.
Why would I make a game of it...because how else am I going to tackle this problem? Take out some books and measuring tape and start doing some serious analogy on what and why....It's sex...it should be fun...and fuk it, I will make it fun, one way or another...perhaps you may want to start broadening your horizons, the basic stuff just is doing it for her! Just a thought.
It's not that little things shouldn't get to you, it's how you react and how true those small things are for you and your reality...if they are, then it's time to figure out a way to fix them. If they aren't, it should roll off your back like water! Don't bother with them, there are more important things to focus on.
Don't' get stuck in your head, it will consume you. Also, don't over analyze things either...OK...but how to overcome it? Well, for me...I had to get out of the relationship and work on myself...truly see what I wanted before being able to focus on my GF that needed me to be there for her in her tough situations.
I'm not saying, leave your girl, but perhaps do some work, things that interest you.
Would your GF get mad if you take a hobby that would not include her that is, if you have one that she wouldn't want to partake in...like Karate, Guitar lessons, Etc.
Notice how many views you got and yet, the advice to give on your last questions are really not that easy to answer or correct...it's WAY more than just game, it's your life and how you live it...that's something you can't read and fake, it has to be 1000% within you, your natural way of life!
I asked Robbie Kramer from Innerconfidence.com during a call, he said I need to be more in touch with myself and not focus on what others think...once I do that, the focus on what to do no longer becomes about me, it becomes about pleasing another...I need to please myself because in the end, that's what you have!
I asked Steve Mayeda from therednetwork.net, he said the same, along with knowing what I want in my life and aligning myself with what I deem important.
Both amazing guys and know alot about what they teach, Im glad I was able to meet with them.
Basically, you need to know what you want and understand how you feel at any given moment...you feel that way for a reason, acknowledge it and then understand it...if it's something that requires work, then work on it.
If there is something in specific you want to know, post it or PM me, I'll try to explain to you what I know or may have done...all I know is that it requires work but if you put in the work, the results are amazing!
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