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Author:  ChristmasWish [ Sun Apr 03, 2011 11:23 pm ]
Post subject:  How to win her back?

GF just dumped me tonight. Our relationship wasn't been going well for about a month. I had became a wuss and was too nice.

She said one month ago she couldn't have imagined her life without me, but now things had changed.

I kind of saw this coming, because I do know I was acting like a wuss lately, waaaay too nice goddamn!

How can I possibly win her back and re-gain her attention? What course of action should I follow?

Thanks!

Author:  Snake Doctor [ Mon Apr 04, 2011 1:27 am ]
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The best option you can do now is move on have fun now its hard but its your best bet. Cut contact with her, dont call her while you are drunk. Dont tell your life is sucking SPAM with mutual friends. Just MOVE ON like nothing happen is the best way to win her back, if you see her be polite and friendly but dont stay and chat with her long. She will probably contact in you in on month or so and then you move in for the kill. But you need a gameplan so when she contacts you again, come back here and explain the situtation

Author:  Jambi [ Mon Apr 04, 2011 1:34 am ]
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Exactly as said above. Live your life as if you are not a wuss, she will pick up on this eventually. Don't contact her at all. even if it seems like a good idea. If she talks to you don't cave in like a wussy, just seem indifferent.

INDIFFERENCE is the key!

Author:  Whoopie [ Mon Apr 04, 2011 7:55 am ]
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Mytt8, does have a very good point! I have been in a relationship for 2 years and everyday its a struggle. You have to constantly be a man and you can not be afraid to say NO or hurt her feelings...Women are emotional and they will feed off whatever motion you feed them...Women do not know how to be liked they only want to be loved...Liking a girl is better than loving because you care more about her because you want to hang out with her.

Because there are times I love my girl and then times I am like why must you be so typical....Once you understand the dynamic of how a relationship works and understand women it will be easy...To me I view I can win ANY relationship in conversation...Just use your logic to out beat her emotions...Though you have to teach her what she is doing wrong...you can't just be an asshole/jerk without explaining yourself...Just keep your cool when talking to her

Author:  ChristmasWish [ Mon Apr 04, 2011 8:35 pm ]
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Thanks for the advice guys! Much appreciated!

She came on Facebook today, and started talking to me:

HB: Hey
....
HB: How was your day?
Me: Fine.
Me: Got to go, bye.

HB: Why are you acting like this?

I didn't want to talk at first but figured that since she was acting like a retard I should put her in place. So I asked wtf she was doing coming out here all normal acting like nothing happened. I told her it was over (to which she answered:"Wow you change your mind quick - making a reference to yesterday when I told her I was going to try and win her back) and that I wasn't interested in friendship, in fact she knew for a fact that I don't have many girl-friends because I don't give a damn about friendship with a woman (unless she can give you advice on shit).

She then ranted about how she just wanted to check up on me, and said "I don't think you understand how crazy you made me for the past month blablabla" basically shit she already said.

Then I bullshited that if I was weird it was because I was having other issues that I didn't tell her about and kept for myself. She then said that I needed to tell her that kind of stuff.
Then she had to leave for Prague so she just said:
"I don't understand why you didn't tell me that. I have to go get ready. Kiss..."

I certainly won't text her. But why did she come the next day act all normal and tell me the same shit?

Author:  SkyGroove [ Mon Apr 04, 2011 8:38 pm ]
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seems to me like you're the problem mate, if it is so, ger your shit together and don't put the blame on her

Author:  Whoopie [ Mon Apr 04, 2011 9:01 pm ]
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Yeah I agree with Skygroove...The only reason your girl isn't happy because you are not happy! A relationship happiness always is up to the man. Once you are happy, she will become happy...but your negative and bad vibes is what she feeds off...Girls feed off on emotions...Just maintain your happiness...She will ask crazy questions because that is what girls do but you do have to listen and then break it down to them what do they really want...Did you ask her Why you are driving her crazy? Make her give good solid reasons and use logic...because some things that drive her crazy are just typical girl things...If its something you can fix you fix it.

Just keep your cool and make her feel secure even when you say things that might upset her...Yelling gets you NO where!

Author:  SkyGroove [ Mon Apr 04, 2011 9:41 pm ]
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aye listen to whoopie, she's feedin off your bad vibes, ask her what you're doin wrong... sometimes we as men think it's just shitty to ask if we're doing something wrong like if we were puppies but guess what, we're people, and picking up is exactly what it is, picking up, ONLY.

we all do wrong things

Author:  ChristmasWish [ Mon Apr 04, 2011 9:57 pm ]
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What drived her crazy was that I wasn't acting like myself lately, I was being a little whiny insecure AFC that was afraid to loose her and would accept everything she said..

Author:  Snake Doctor [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 1:15 am ]
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You want to win her back right so be friendly and polite and dont spend much time talking to her you are busy guy. She acted normaly to see if you are still in her zone. SHe needs to miss you period.

Author:  ChristmasWish [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 7:03 am ]
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^Ok ok thanks!

Has anyone lived a similar situation?

Author:  SkyGroove [ Tue Apr 05, 2011 10:20 am ]
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i guess we've all gotten women interested then fucked it up somewhere


honestly, i think it's bs to start your relationship all over again, it should be as easy as going up to her and tell her what you think you did wrong, that's it

Author:  Snake Doctor [ Wed Apr 06, 2011 12:00 pm ]
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Quote:
^Ok ok thanks!

Has anyone lived a similar situation?
Yeah :D so do what im telling you

Author:  GWhizz [ Wed Apr 06, 2011 1:36 pm ]
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Has anyone lived a similar situation?

Yes.

And I must say that you handled it QUITE well.
Without this forum you would've probably called her, texted her, appeared in front of her... And she would've blown you off.

In my situation things started to get bad after a year. AFCness kicked in massively and she broke up with me.

Ofcourse your only hope of getting it all together was PUA. You then realise what you've done wrong, and still try to get the girl.

As for me, cut of the contact with her, then she talked to me on MSN. I acted a bit (too) cool and stuff, but she's a determined girl too.
Now it's just... living my life and hoping for her to come in contact with me. Which I doubt highly.

Author:  SkyGroove [ Wed Apr 06, 2011 2:31 pm ]
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whenever you're having problems with one girl, you know all you gotta do is go out and meet more

shit happens when the girl you're having problems with you is "special", meh.

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