I met this girl and we hit it off really well, she is definitely LTR material and we're taking it easy for now, but we see each other almost on a daily basis, so it's definitely going into the relationship direction. We've been seeing each other for about three weeks.
So we slept together, she got me off really good, like the best orgasm I ever had, I put in a lot of effort to return the favor but she didn't come. I did try, though. Ok, so we keep seeing eachother, we both said we consider eachother LTR material but we want to take it easy, which is fine with me. So the day before yesterday, she was at my place, I escalated into heavy petting, I can feel she's totally wet, her fucking jeans were like wet and I say let's go to the bedroom, she says not today, some other time blah blah, eventually she leaves and we didn't have sex, and I tell her: look at this (pointing to my pants), you're leaving me all wet blah blah, we laugh it off and so on. So yesterday, we're at her place, we weren't supposed to meet, but some things got cancelled and I ended up at her place really late at night, and we have sex, I do her first and she has a wonderful orgasm. Then she says she's tired and we should go to sleep. I was a little shocked she didn't even think about returning the favor, but I wanted to play it cool so I said: I'm counting the wet pants, it's strike 2 for you, with a cheeky smile, and add, but it's ok, last time was a blast, so I'm glad you had a good time today. I say I'm going home, cuz I wanna sleep in my bed tonight. We cuddle for a little while and I leave.
Is this a big deal that she was too tired to do me? I hear a lot of girls can be selfish in this way, but I always wanna return the favor, it just doesn't feel right to leave them hanging. Even if I'm not in the mood for sex, if my partner really wants it, I'll get them off and say, you can do me another day or whateva. So, I don't know what to think of this. One of my female friends says this is perfectly normal and she does it guys often if she doesn't feel like it, the other friend says to her it's unacceptable. What are your experiences with this?
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The update is she got me off yesterday, she went first, I went second, so we'll see how it goes when I go first the next time and see if she pulls that shit off again. But the thing about giving and receiving is completely true. I can notice not just in the pure sex part, but also when kissing or cuddling, women tend not to touch as much as men do. I touch her everywhere a lot more during foreplay, while she concentrates mostly on my head, face and back. On the other hand, maybe she just hasn't relaxed enough with me to unleash all her sexual energy 
j/k, sorry can't help myself.