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Author:  Bedrock [ Tue Mar 15, 2011 6:44 am ]
Post subject:  Standing up for your girl

Now we all know that you need to stand up for your girl from time to time, but I'm curious as to how. I have a short temper (I'm working on it, it's always been a problem of mine. Got it from my dad, damn drunk lol) so I usually jump the gun too quickly when I need to stand up for her.

Example: This hasn't happened, just hypothetical. Say we're walking through a club and some guy grabs her ass. My instant reaction is best described plainly as the color red. I get furious (practically uncontrollable), get in his face, and 9 times out of 10 will hit the guy. I fit people's stereotype for mixed martial artists to say the least, as much as I hate it and am changing it.

Given the same situation, what would be the best and most alpha way of dealing with a situation like that? Of course I'm going to be angry, I'm not just going to politely tell him to never do that or "shits goin down," fuck that. I'm gonna be angry. I read that girls are more attracted to the guys who actually avoid getting in a fight, but not altogether. They're attracted to the guys who will fight when needed but if its not necessary they won't because it won't accomplish anything.

Thanks guys,
BDK

Author:  BrianFL2 [ Tue Mar 15, 2011 7:23 am ]
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if you didn't see it and she doesn't say anything then it is a non-issue. I know clubs where you would be beating up half the population, and women grabbing your ass too. I get my ass grabbed on average once every time i go out, nobody punches anyone. Just remember, half the time it is "incidental contact" as someone is walking by.

On the other hand, if the guy is blatant and your girl is pissed, you can, may, and shall get into thine transgressors face. I would suggest doing this directly in front of a bouncer if possible so he knows what is going down. If you punch a dude in my city you are probably either going to jail, or you are going to get beat up. Sort of a lose/lose deal. Be careful what fights you get into.

Author:  rooas [ Tue Mar 15, 2011 7:27 am ]
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Try not to do shit unless your girl actually gets offended or hurt by it. You raging at some chumps will cause more damage than good.

Just tell them to back off.

Author:  Bedrock [ Tue Mar 15, 2011 7:27 am ]
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PS, make sure you stand up for your girl if you don't already. I feel like this is a given, but I've encountered guys who think their girl needs to fight her own battles. Both true and false. She needs to be able to fight her own battles, she can't be totally reliant on you because, let's face it, that's annoying. But she WILL need you to stand up FOR her every once in a while. While she can do it herself, its very attractive for you to do it for her. It can be as simple as telling the waiter he gave her the wrong order when she says its fine and that she'll eat it and that it's not a big deal, or as intense as my previous example. So man up and do it.

Author:  poet1234 [ Tue Mar 15, 2011 7:33 am ]
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I fit people's stereotype for mixed martial artists to say the least, as much as I hate it and am changing it.
More often than not, trained fighters are the last to get into a fight.

Author:  Bedrock [ Tue Mar 15, 2011 7:51 am ]
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if you didn't see it and she doesn't say anything then it is a non-issue. I know clubs where you would be beating up half the population, and women grabbing your ass too. I get my ass grabbed on average once every time i go out, nobody punches anyone. Just remember, half the time it is "incidental contact" as someone is walking by.

On the other hand, if the guy is blatant and your girl is pissed, you can, may, and shall get into thine transgressors face. I would suggest doing this directly in front of a bouncer if possible so he knows what is going down. If you punch a dude in my city you are probably either going to jail, or you are going to get beat up. Sort of a lose/lose deal. Be careful what fights you get into.
Accidental is no big deal, I for sure wouldn't get mad about that. I'm talking about the guy who smacks it because he thought she was hot and doesn't give a fuck if I'm holding her hand leading her through the crowd. I would like tips on dealing with that guy. If your girl tells you about it, you look weak if you say "Oh just don't worry about it babe," she's going to be mad that you DIDN'T stick up for her. But you also look weak if you get overly aggressive and immediately try to fight the guy (my problem).

You talking about getting your ass grabbed all the time reminded me: I got my dick grabbed on Halloween because a dude's girlfriend was more attracted to me than him because I went as Batgirl and he went as SPAM and when I yelled out "BOYFRIEND!!" and tried to give this random stranger a hug he got totally homophobic and uncomfortable so he got nervous and one arm hugged me then walked away awkwardly holding her hand and when she passed me she gave me the fuck me eyes, grabbed my dick, then held a finger up to her lips and said "Shhh" haha.

Anyways! What would be good to say to the dude that smacked my girls ass on purpose? I live in Akron, there are always fights, stabbings and shootings so I'm for sure careful. Thanks for looking out though homie.
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I fit people's stereotype for mixed martial artists to say the least, as much as I hate it and am changing it.
More often than not, trained fighters are the last to get into a fight.
I know, that's why I said people's. I should have said most people to get my point across better. But I said that because lots of people aren't educated on the sport or know guys who train, they think mma fighters are tough badass guys who like to go out and look for fights. I'm not like that even though I do get in a fight every now and again, but I will never go out looking for one. I did that once, and it was ridiculously dumb. I won, but one of the dumbest things I've done in my life. I feel terrible too, the guy did not deserve in the least bit and I provoked him. I constantly think about if that had negative consequences on his life, most likely not but it's a possibility that it did and I beat myself up over it whenever I think about it. I was an asshole back when I did that.

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