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| Author: | WD [ Sat Mar 12, 2011 2:41 pm ] |
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Alright guys i need some help here. So i started going out with this girl about a week ago and everything was good she was texting me daily even texting me in the morning to say good morning and at night to say good night. Lately though shes been very cold. I think shes mad or upset at me but im not sure y. So on the night this whole thing started I had a meeting for work which lasted pretty late into the night and got home late. I texted her that i was going to bed and usually we talk on the phone at night. She asked me if I could wake her up in the morning and I said ya sure no problem. I got a text back saying that its ok ill wake myself up sp I said thats fine just text me if u need me to wake u up n this is where she started getting cold. She texted me back m i asked her if shes ok n she said ya so i told her im going to bed n good night n then she said BYE. The next day we were supposed to go on a date but she was like i dont really feel like it so we ended up just goin shopping n she was pretty cold. She wouldnt really touch me or look at me n barely kissed me. We sat down n i asked her what was wrong n she gave me some b.s. excuses about her life but i know she was pissed at me. I tried to get her to talk about it but she still wouldnt. I have had this happen to me in previous relationships can someone please tell me whats goin on n how can i deal with it? |
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| Author: | Mack 2.0 [ Sat Mar 12, 2011 2:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Need Help |
Quote: Alright guys i need some help here. So i started going out with this girl about a week ago and everything was good she was texting me daily even texting me in the morning to say good morning and at night to say good night. Lately though shes been very cold. I think shes mad or upset at me but im not sure y. So on the night this whole thing started I had a meeting for work which lasted pretty late into the night and got home late. I texted her that i was going to bed and usually we talk on the phone at night. She asked me if I could wake her up in the morning and I said ya sure no problem. I got a text back saying that its ok ill wake myself up sp I said thats fine just text me if u need me to wake u up n this is where she started getting cold. She texted me back m i asked her if shes ok n she said ya so i told her im going to bed n good night n then she said BYE. The next day we were supposed to go on a date but she was like i dont really feel like it so we ended up just goin shopping n she was pretty cold. She wouldnt really touch me or look at me n barely kissed me. We sat down n i asked her what was wrong n she gave me some b.s. excuses about her life but i know she was pissed at me. I tried to get her to talk about it but she still wouldnt. I have had this happen to me in previous relationships can someone please tell me whats goin on n how can i deal with it?
Dude,She is not pissed at you. She has lost attraction to you because you have broken like every single rule in the book. First, you texted her every day and every night like it was a routine (this is big no no) Second, texts were lame like "good night" and "good morning", not anything witty or exciting or flirtatious. Third, she dogged you out by saying "BYE" to your goodnight, yet the very next day there you were like a lost puppydog. Fourth, you accepted shopping with her in place of a cancelled date? WHAT THE FUCK? Who does that? Fifth, you made a big deal and made her feel awkward since she wasn't showing attraction to you by asking her "what is wrong" and "are you mad at me"? WTF? Don't do that! Sixth, the entire thing is just screwed. You need to freeze her out immediately. From reading your post it is obvious that you have done zero reading on PUA skills. Start reading and you will see the nature of your issues. Might I suggest this thread: terms-of-importance-great-for-new-members-vt3077.html to begin with. Read all of the definitions, don't skip any. |
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| Author: | Roz [ Sun Mar 13, 2011 4:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Need Help |
Just to add to what Mack 2.0 said: Quote: She asked me if I could wake her up in the morning and I said ya sure no problem.
Shit tests still come up in relationships. This is the worst kind of shit test, and the least obvious. It is the equivalent of a girl asking you if you can hold her purse or drink at the club, and you saying "yes! sure! no problem!" You've only been dating a week- it's too soon in the relationship for you to be doing her favors. Actually, you should avoid doing her favors like waking her up in the morning all together ... A better response to a request like this would have been (said in a teasing way): "Ha! It's usually a good idea to wait until the second week of a relationship before promoting your boyfriend to personal assistant" -Roz |
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| Author: | WD [ Sun Mar 13, 2011 4:09 pm ] |
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thank you soo mucj for ur help guys I fucked up pretty bad...is this something that I can fix or should I just cut my loses? |
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| Author: | Wal [ Sun Mar 13, 2011 5:03 pm ] |
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Cut your losses, meaning break up? Naw, you're fine. Just take a step back and don't worry so much about the minutiae. You'll kind of automatically stop being so needy. |
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| Author: | Bman91 [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 6:57 am ] |
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Man... I'm making the same mistakes as this guy haha, except mine has been two weeks. However theres a slight difference that I was hoping someone could help me with. My girlfriend and I started sleeping together the day after her and her previous bf broke up. That's fine, and we actually ended up dating after a week. At the same time I had to leave her to go back to uni in another city. She flew up to see me last weekend but on the day she went home she started talking about how she still has feelings for her ex... What I'd like to know is how to make sure I keep her, because I obviously like her alot and don't want to let this one go. Is there some way to make her get over her ex maybe? |
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| Author: | Bman91 [ Tue Mar 15, 2011 4:09 am ] |
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nvm team, its over |
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| Author: | Wal [ Tue Mar 15, 2011 4:28 am ] |
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Bman, don't take it too hard. You were fighting against a rebound and a long distance relationship. That almost never works. Live and learn. |
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| Author: | Bman91 [ Tue Mar 15, 2011 7:51 am ] |
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yea... thanks |
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| Author: | Mack 2.0 [ Tue Mar 15, 2011 11:59 am ] |
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i was just gonna say, it's kind of hard to turn a one night stand into a girlfriend. looks like that proved out again. sorry, dude. |
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