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Author:  Millstone [ Tue Feb 22, 2011 6:20 pm ]
Post subject:  In an open relationship with my ONeitis..
I can't seem to feel comftable having sex with other women. My girl and I are having this competition to see who can get more action before we see each other and currently she's ahead. Idk why I just don't have the urge to sleep with any of these girls I meet, there's no desire too. I feel like I should only because I dont want her to win. What should I do?
Author:  SiNfUl [ Tue Feb 22, 2011 6:35 pm ]
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She is going to win, you can't do anything about that. Women are offered sex ALL THE TIME. You don't stand a chance unless you lie.

If you don't feel like this little game is your idea of a good time, then don't do it. Tell her it's stupid and you have no interest in continuing.
Author:  Little Panda [ Tue Feb 22, 2011 11:07 pm ]
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You have oneitis on this girl and you're in an open relationship with her? I can't see this going anywhere good. Especially when she wants to race you with who can get laid the most (wtf?).

In situations like these, I can only see a painful ending.
Author:  Machida [ Tue Feb 22, 2011 11:41 pm ]
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You have oneitis on this girl and you're in an open relationship with her? I can't see this going anywhere good. Especially when she wants to race you with who can get laid the most (wtf?).

In situations like these, I can only see a painful ending.
I agree,
get out of this immediately. How was this 'game' invented?
Author:  BigRyana [ Wed Feb 23, 2011 5:18 pm ]
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Wow, just wow. You do realize that she can walk in to any bar/store/restaurant/wherever and have sex with the majority of the guys in there right? There is a reason 99% if the PUA community is male my friend. If she is interested in this kind of competition, she is not going to be a good LTR. Stop this contest and seriously evaluate if you want to try it make work with her.
Author:  Oga [ Wed Feb 23, 2011 8:56 pm ]
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End this, for your own mental health and sanity. She will be able to get sex from almost ANY straight, willing man. As another poster said, this will only have a painful ending. Your relationship will go nowhere, and will break you down. It seems you're only with this woman for validation, it seems she's pulling you along like a cat and string, which is what you should be doing! I'm saying it seems that way because I don't know exactly how things came to be this way for you, but really, the PU community looks out for it's own, and as a fellow PU we have your back.
Oga
Author:  poet1234 [ Wed Feb 23, 2011 9:58 pm ]
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No,no,no.Do not end the challenge.
Use this great opportunity to actually approach more girls.Hit the wheel !
Oh,and find a girl who you won't get into a competition with about who fucks more.
Author:  Tristed [ Mon Feb 28, 2011 4:26 pm ]
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She is going to win, you can't do anything about that. Women are offered sex ALL THE TIME. You don't stand a chance unless you lie.

If you don't feel like this little game is your idea of a good time, then don't do it. Tell her it's stupid and you have no interest in continuing.
Wait, what do you mean he cant win. Thats part of the point in learning to become an PUA.
Author:  cedius [ Mon Feb 28, 2011 4:59 pm ]
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As stated...this is really not a good idea...especially if you feel you want something long term with this girl...I mean...when you entered this "Contest"...what were you thinking? Do you feel you two can look back at this, discuss the..."Remember we had that contest and I got banged by more guys while you couldn't even score with girls" over breakfast! Not cool! She will win, you won't. In the end, this will not end well.

And regarding this quote...
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Wait, what do you mean he cant win. Thats part of the point in learning to become an PUA.
We are "ALL" here to learn how to be better at picking up girls...not every girl is approached the same way...you should know that...that's why it's complex and you can't win over any and every girl...but the majority if you play your hand, you just may.

Now if this girl is just semi attractive...no matter whether in a relationship, 5 kids, retarded, no morales...someone will sleep with her...but if you flip that on the guy and a girl knows you have anyone of the forementioned...you won't get laid, no need to explain further.

I get what you are saying, yes, it's why we are all here...but in getting laid, A woman has a better chance as she doesn't have to put in as much effort...do you see girls going through this much trouble to meet guys as we have?

We have so many programs, seminars, so much written documentation that you can't possibly imagine...girls don't need all of that...we do!
Author:  MrLe [ Tue Mar 01, 2011 7:37 am ]
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Dude, Any women can get laid if she wants to at ANYTIME. In worst case, she will always find a guy with the beer goggles. Even at 5 am, she would find someone to call to get laid. You know, a morning of awkwardness is better than a night of loneliness ( Hank moody ).

I would NOT do that stupid contest with a one itis, you're crazy. I would do that contest with a bisexual women over picking up chick together, and work as a team...

Now, you can just end this stupid contest by saying that it's kind of immature. You could pull the card that you aren't interested in any other women but her. I would do that face to face, and see how she react ( words + body language ).

Women test you all the time, they ask you to do things that they don't want you to do, to test your dominance, masculine energy. She might even be lying about fucking other dude, just to see how far she can dominate you and tell you to do things.

You need to stand up, have core values and say NO to that kind of shit.
Author:  BrianFL2 [ Sun Mar 06, 2011 5:49 pm ]
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"I can't seem to feel comfortable having sex with other women."

you say that, and you admit she is a oneitis.

This is very sick, not in a good way. You already know its bad, but its probably a lot worse than you think it is.

She isn't just fucking other guys, she is fucking with YOU, meaning your dignity and sanity. The longer you let this go on , the more damage it will do. When you are finally done, or she flatly refuses to see you and stops answering the phone, you will be in a state of anger and despair that you may have never experienced before. Seriously, this can mess with your sanity. Let me tell ya, its hard to get by without your sanity, hang on to that stuff. This could fuck up your WHOLE LIFE.

Lets get back to what "oneitis" really is. It is a subconscious fear/belief that you cannot get another woman. Her supposed "specialness" is a big illusion you dreamed up to cover that. Your ego would rather believe you are chasing that special girl, than to accept that you are loaded with fear and insecurity, and that you need to fix yourself.
Author:  BrotherSharp [ Tue Mar 08, 2011 11:18 pm ]
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I honestly don't see how this can end well. Also, please consider not only the emotions of yourself and your girlfriend, but also those you are using for your competition. Not saying that this is necessarily unhealthy, but there just seems to be a lot of room for people to get hurt if everybody isn't careful is all.
Author:  Hallpass [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 2:47 pm ]
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Seriously how do you want this to end? I think it is not going to work to be in an (open) relationship if you make it a competition to hook up with other people. Especially if it is your one-itis, this is just going to hurt you.

I think you should get your facts straight with her, and just tell her how you feel. It is obv of no use that you are getting hurt, and if you don't want that, than you should quit doing what you are doing now, because it only is going to hurt more if you continue.

Tell her you want to be with her and if she doesn't want the same thing, she doesn't share the same feelings for you and that should be a sign to just knock it off and go out to find another chick to bang, one that doesn't play with your feelings.
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 3:50 pm ]
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one that doesn't play with your feelings.
do those exist?
Author:  Hallpass [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 5:41 pm ]
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one that doesn't play with your feelings.
do those exist?
Okay I didnt say that correct. If you find a new girl who agrees to just have fun, then neither of them will get hurt since its purely desire. In this scenario the girl is just doing it for the desire, and he is just getting hurt bc he still loves her and does not want to hook up with anyone else. I am in a same sort of situation right now, and it really sucks to be in such a situation. So in my opinion, youre better of finding someone you dont have that much feelings for, but who can fullfill your desire, than sticking with a girl you love and go through that pain over and over again when you get to know she has hooked up with yet another guy.
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