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| Author: | Ap [ Mon Feb 07, 2011 3:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Downside to Pua |
Right... Since I’ve been doing PUA I’ve never seen any downsides to it until I got in a relationship. I never think I’m been myself and honestly I hate that I’m always worrying if I compliment her to much or not enough, If I’m satisfying her every need or I’m just trying too hard. I guess she only knows that but... I don’t want to stay away from the community because it’s helped me in so many ways you can’t imagine. It’s just every time I speak to a woman it’s like a bomb that goes off I start to notice all the things I wouldn’t! Like what women say, do, act even how they stand or play with their hair its great when I’m single but when I notice my GF doing it, It’s not so great. I thought it would be totally different if I was in a relationship but I notice everything and I’m careful with what I do and say. I really want to say how I feel I’m quite a romantic guy but I don’t have the balls to tell her or do because I don’t want to come off as needy and give her the upper hand . I was in a house party with her Friday and she took me to another room and said she loved me I froze I didn’t know if I should of said it back or not so I didn’t say anything. She was pretty upset to be honest :/ I don’t think I’m being very honest to myself or her. Also lately I’ve been getting quite jealous and needy which is totally AFC. I think it’s because I have too much time on my hands now that I don’t work etc... so any advice on this would be great. |
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| Author: | smooth99 [ Mon Feb 07, 2011 4:21 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Downside to Pua |
Quote: I was in a house party with her Friday and she took me to another room and said she loved me I froze I didn’t know if I should of said it back or not so I didn’t say anything. She was pretty upset to be honest :/ if she looks hot one day then tell her. and stop all the needy jealousy ball shit. it destroyed my last relationship and it suuuuuucks. |
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| Author: | Ap [ Mon Feb 07, 2011 5:02 pm ] |
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I don’t know how I feel yet though plus she was really drunk and I refuse to reply to this until she isn’t. But I don’t mean compliment as in saying love you I mean just the little things there’s been quite a few posts about when to compliment her etc... There are so many different opinions on this I don’t know what to do. As for been needy I’m not usually like this but she’s really popular girl I do trust her though just get a little jealous at times because allot of these guys are better looking. |
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| Author: | VinceV [ Mon Feb 07, 2011 5:58 pm ] |
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AP, I feel your pain... I have been in this game for the last 5 years. I can find, meet and attract any women I want but it has destryed my capability of having a relationship with someone. I was just in a 1 year relationship. It ended today for good. I think... That is why this is the first time I pop into this forum. I hurt her so many times. Whenever we went out I used my LTR as a pivot. I never slept with any of the other girls or kissed them but to me a relationship which is supposed to be a beautiful thing was abused... I am man enough to say to you that I cried like a baby today. For the first time I really figured out how much I do love her and if I can go back 5 years and unlearn everything I have, I would not have lost her. I didn't even game this girl when we met. I was just myself. But hey... 2.5 billion fish in the see. I am bound to meet another. The was not a oneitis. Was not infactuated but really did love her... |
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| Author: | Ap [ Mon Feb 07, 2011 6:12 pm ] |
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I understand before I got with the girl I’m seeing now I was with my Ex for nearly 2 years. It broke me in ways only people like you can imagine. I also cried when she broke up with me now I’m doing great but (off topic) after she broke up with me I slept with many women and I didn’t enjoy one of them it felt empty a couple of months later I met the girl I’m with now and I’m very happy apart from the topic I just wrote I can honestly say I’ve had more fun with her in 2 months then I did with my Ex in 2 years so there are plenty more amazing women out there. And now after trying to get my ex for so long back she’s seen that I’ve moved on and she phones me allot crying saying she misses me and wants me back Ironic ehy. Back to topic I truly understand I’m always on guard notice all the stuff I didn’t many years back. Now wondering when I should say or do things not to put her off me or make me feel needy. I do feel I’m looking into this too much but it’s just the way I am and always been I make everything out worse than they actually are and until I either find out a solution or work way around things I cannot be happy. |
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| Author: | C.Davis [ Tue Oct 21, 2014 5:37 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Downside to Pua |
You need to understand the difference between game and true value. Game= Some DHV story that you made up or stole. True value=Being a millionaire. Having great friends. Having options. Being close to your family. Being fun and real with your emotions. Game should be a pathway to build your own life. It's not just pickup. |
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| Author: | jet_speed [ Wed Oct 22, 2014 6:12 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Downside to Pua |
I can relate to several of these posts. It is refreshing. I am in AP and VinceV position the past month, |
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| Author: | Gunfighter28 [ Sat Oct 25, 2014 7:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Downside to Pua |
you're totally overthinking this from a game point of view what you need to do pronto before you make a mistake and turn her off for good is read Corey Wayne's book how to be a 3% man. Once youvread it read it 15 more times apply it and succeed with women. Also read up on Eddie Fews material my 2 personal favorites and the 2 most helpful for me. |
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