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Author:  _Jax_ [ Sun Jan 16, 2011 9:54 pm ]
Post subject:  I took a very interesting bet with my girlfriend..
My girl and I were talking not to long ago and somehow we ended up on the subject of love. We both talked about it nonchalantly, we realized that we knew the other knows what love feels like and have had it before.

The gears changed when she brought up how she doesn't love me and she wants me to know. I told I wouldnt expect her to start loving me after a few weeks of dating and that im fine with that.

We soon talked about how love doesnt have to take a long time to create and that someone can fall in love the same night they meet someone.



Long story story short, my girl has bet me that I cant make her fall in love by the end of the week. I had to take her up on it.
Now, we all know that attracting a girl in a week is not a problem whatsoever.

But getting a girl to fall in love? Thats something else.


My Question: How to make a girl fall in love in a week?

My Sticking Point: I normally affiliate love with being a nice wussy guy. That is very not me. How can I work around this?


ADVICE! I need it.
Author:  Little Panda [ Sun Jan 16, 2011 10:10 pm ]
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What kind of a stupid bet is this? Shit . . . Whatever pleases you I suppose.

If you want the moral way of doing this, let me explain something you're probably already aware of: Love between two people should mean - a deep intimate connection, where both partners appreciate each other deeply for who they are.

So . . .

What I would suggest doing is that for the coming week; you sit down with her in comfortable and rather romantic locations, such as:

- Your own house. Light some candles, order/cook some food, watch a movie both of you enjoy. Make everything as romantic as possible.

- Any other location with privacy and which can fulfill the points mentioned ^above.

and end your night with deep conversations containing lots of personal topics. Stuff about YOU, your childhood, your philosophies of life etc. Then it's her turn to do the talking and she's gotta talk to you about practically everything you talked about.

The point of this is to make an extremely deep connection with each other, to the point you almost feel like brother and sister.

Then you make love.
Author:  jennyjuan [ Mon Jan 17, 2011 2:34 am ]
Post subject:  beyond imagination
Oh, guys, I'm a girl too. so stand on a girl side, it's impossible, and I think this is a stupid bet, I think, you'd better use your actually active to move her.
Author:  Ausnat [ Mon Jan 17, 2011 6:43 am ]
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go on a holiday overseas for a week don't tell her. then no contact phone email see if that changes her feelings

by the way you are a moron for making that bet or even discussing the subject with such detail. you dont have to prove shit to her and she is testing you. like i said no contact for a week that is your best bet
Author:  The_Boss_ [ Mon Jan 17, 2011 3:53 pm ]
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im sorry but this is sad.

if you took it seriously that you wrote it up on here you need help. the only answer is be yourself for a week. And no she wont fall in love with you that quick or shes needy.

i suggest u backtrack a bit and if you want tell her:

"i was actually gonna think up all these things that you would love this week, but then i thought, if you did fall in love it wouldnt be for me. so im gonna just be myself for a week and if you dont fall in love then it doesnt bother me either way coz im being honest to the relationship. take it or leave it. :)
Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Mon Jan 17, 2011 4:00 pm ]
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Give her like 3-4 full-body vaginal orgasms with fingers and penetration, then disappear for a couple of days, and then come round unannounced with a little present and take her somewhere unique and fun for a great date.

However, the fact that she's laid down this bet is cause for concern. How dominant are you being in the relationship if she's saying "see if you can make me love you"? If a girl said that to me I'd be like "love isn't something I try and MAKE people have for me. If it happens naturally over time, then great. I'd prefer us to just keep having fun together and if it happens, it happens, rather than us trying to force things."
Author:  cedius [ Tue Jan 18, 2011 2:47 am ]
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She put up the hoop and you jumped through it...this has no relevance to a relationship nor will it lead to one.

I don't mean to be harsh but you shot yourself in the head with this one...honestly, you are going to make her fall in love with you in a week? If the premise to a relationship was based on a bet, then you are off to a lousy start.

Trust me, you are most likely the laughing stock within her social circle of girlfriends.
Author:  Ayumi [ Tue Jan 18, 2011 3:32 pm ]
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She put up the hoop and you jumped through it...this has no relevance to a relationship nor will it lead to one.

I don't mean to be harsh but you shot yourself in the head with this one...honestly, you are going to make her fall in love with you in a week? If the premise to a relationship was based on a bet, then you are off to a lousy start.

Trust me, you are most likely the laughing stock within her social circle of girlfriends.
I hate to say this, but I agree with cedius... She is most likely playing you for laughs. Love isn't something you can force -- it either happens or it doesn't. Sometimes it can take a long time to cultivate that feeling, other times it happens faster that you realize and by the time you do, you're so far down the rabbit hole there's no going back.

I wish you the best. And I hope you find yourself a lucky lady that's worthy of your love -- whether it's this girl or another.
Author:  SiNfUl [ Tue Jan 18, 2011 5:38 pm ]
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my girl has bet me that I cant make her fall in love by the end of the week.

This is just another example of how girls always manage to take control.

My response: I bet you can't give me mind blowing sex for an entire week.
Author:  _Jax_ [ Wed Jan 19, 2011 12:02 am ]
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Ahhhhh shit.
I knew Id get some negative responses but Jesus Christ. I mostly knew you would all be upset because most people here hate the L-word. :I


By reading all of your responses I picked up that what I did was not the smartest thing to do, infact it was probably the dumbest thing ive pulled off in a long time.

I do really like this girl and plan on keeping her around. We have been together for awhile, so its not like I agreed to this with some girl I just got to know. That would be dumb.
Im not all to good with shit tests and this is a clear example. This opened my eyes that I have stopped being so much of a challenge and I must turn that around.

My plan of action with this now is to decline the bet and lets things progress more naturally.


Thanks for the help everyone. Even if it was a little....Unforgiving. :oops:
Author:  cedius [ Wed Jan 19, 2011 3:27 am ]
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Thanks for the help everyone. Even if it was a little....Unforgiving.
You take criticism well...Thats great, I mean that. Most would cry and run off to never be seen again.

Understand this though...and most newbies dont...when you ask a question...be open to what the response is. You may not like it but know that it's just an opinion that we are giving you from mostly experience and you can very well take it or leave it...advice like this I have been given and since I felt I knew what was best...I didn't take it...I wish I had...would have saved me alot of heart and headache but that's me and my situation.

Learn from this board, learn from your experiences and always be open to someone's opinion...it just may change your perspective and eventually, you will find yourself wanting to share your views...it's why we are here!

Good Luck Bro.
Author:  SiNfUl [ Wed Jan 19, 2011 3:14 pm ]
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Thanks for the help everyone. Even if it was a little....Unforgiving

lol, tough love Jax. Good luck!
Author:  Ayumi [ Wed Jan 19, 2011 4:19 pm ]
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Thanks for the help everyone. Even if it was a little....Unforgiving. :oops:
Awww... Sorry for my bluntness. I read your thread and really felt for you and wish you the best. You seem like a super sweet guy and I hope it works out for you. :)

I actually happen to think most of the regular posters here are really nice. I wouldn't ignore any of you at a bar/club. 8)
Author:  Chief [ Wed Jan 19, 2011 5:34 pm ]
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Now, we all know that attracting a girl in a week is not a problem whatsoever.
Right.
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But getting a girl to fall in love? Thats something else.
Actually, not really...
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Ahhhhh shit.
I knew Id get some negative responses but Jesus Christ. I mostly knew you would all be upset because most people here hate the L-word. :I


By reading all of your responses I picked up that what I did was not the smartest thing to do, infact it was probably the dumbest thing ive pulled off in a long time.

I do really like this girl and plan on keeping her around. We have been together for awhile, so its not like I agreed to this with some girl I just got to know. That would be dumb.
Im not all to good with shit tests and this is a clear example. This opened my eyes that I have stopped being so much of a challenge and I must turn that around.

My plan of action with this now is to decline the bet and lets things progress more naturally.


Thanks for the help everyone. Even if it was a little....Unforgiving. :oops:
Looks like I'm too late

I was going to go in the opposite direction everyone else was going in and tell you how to make her fall in love with you lol

But, hey, what does a PUA know of LTRs :lol: What am I even doing on this board?
Author:  bvanevery [ Sun Jan 23, 2011 8:28 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I took a very interesting bet with my girlfriend..
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The gears changed when she brought up how she doesn't love me and she wants me to know. I told I wouldnt expect her to start loving me after a few weeks of dating and that im fine with that.
Hey, newsflash: you're not in a relationship. You've merely been fucking someone for a few weeks. Why are you calling her "your girlfriend" in the subject line?
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Long story story short, my girl has bet me that I cant make her fall in love by the end of the week. I had to take her up on it.
So who fucking gives a shit? Nothing is at stake here, you are not in a relationship. By the end of the week you'll say "I failed" at this stupid bet and it doesn't mean shit, you're still fucking her. Keep fucking her and work on your dominance. You didn't "have to" do anything. Go to a different subforum, you're in the wrong one.

That said... it's not clear to me which forum is for guys who use PUA skills to try to have relationships with women that may be utterly inappropriate for relationships. But... maybe she's not actually relationship poison and you're the needy one here. Do you know what a relationship is? It's not "wanting someone real bad." She may have figured this out and taken steps to cool your jets. If she's normal and you're clinging, you're going to have to learn how to not be clinging if you actually want to have a relationship with normal people.
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