PUA Forum :: Can't start a relationship...give up?

Background:
- We have been seeing each other for 3 months
- She kept coming up with excuses (She's not ready for commitment,she doesn't like me enough to develop a relationship, confused because of exams)
- I decided to ignore her
- She started to text me and then we decided to be friends

Recently:
- she came to visit me from another city twice
- we had oral sex twice
- she keeps telling me about other guys trying to piss me off
- I feel like she's playing on more than one guy at the same time (not too sure tho) cause i told her that i know everything she's doing, and shes like "you wish but i ll go with ok if it makes you happy)
- Planning to party on new years eve together with my friends
- She's flirts a lot
- she lurks every girl that writes on my fb wall
- i told her that i like her, and she said that she likes me but i don't feel that she treats me like any of her ex's
- Haven't been starting the conversation during the last 2 days, and she always does!

Question:
Should i give up?! How should i treat her? and how can i know if she's playing on more than one guy at the same time (keep in mind that she's partying with me on new years)? How can i handle her flirting with other people at parties?

Author:	Jay dog [ Thu Dec 30, 2010 7:54 am ]
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Background: - We have been seeing each other for 3 months - She kept coming up with excuses (She's not ready for commitment,she doesn't like me enough to develop a relationship, confused because of exams) - I decided to ignore her - She started to text me and then we decided to be friends Recently: - she came to visit me from another city twice - we had oral sex twice - she keeps telling me about other guys trying to piss me off - I feel like she's playing on more than one guy at the same time (not too sure tho) cause i told her that i know everything she's doing, and shes like "you wish but i ll go with ok if it makes you happy) - Planning to party on new years eve together with my friends - She's flirts a lot - she lurks every girl that writes on my fb wall - i told her that i like her, and she said that she likes me but i don't feel that she treats me like any of her ex's - Haven't been starting the conversation during the last 2 days, and she always does! Question: Should i give up?! How should i treat her? and how can i know if she's playing on more than one guy at the same time (keep in mind that she's partying with me on new years)? How can i handle her flirting with other people at parties?

Author:	poet1234 [ Thu Dec 30, 2010 3:05 pm ]
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Quote: She kept coming up with excuses Quote: she keeps telling me about other guys trying to piss me off Quote: she lurks every girl that writes on my fb wall Quote: i don't feel that she treats me like any of her ex's Quote: How can i handle her flirting with other people at parties? Sounds like the perfect girlfriend.

Author:	Carmo [ Thu Dec 30, 2010 4:14 pm ]
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yea, she sounds delightful. If you hang out on new years eve i would flirt with as many girls as possible that night which if done right will probbably get you the bang. Then you have hand, but otherwise i would cut her out, there are way too many other better girls to spend your time focusing on this bad apple.

Author:	Jay dog [ Thu Dec 30, 2010 7:17 pm ]
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Alright thanks a lot guys : )

Author:	Jay dog [ Fri Dec 31, 2010 6:53 am ]
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Yup i got that. Tomorrow i'm gonna see her before we hit a new years party, she flirts a lot when she's drunk...And she ll probably see her friends tomorrow, should i just take her hand and be like "k we gotta catch up with my friends" and walk away with her? Also should i have a serious talk regarding our relationship before we party? i don't wanna be fuck buddies because i know that when she's done from me, she ll just throw me off.

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Author:	AGDubz [ Sat Jan 01, 2011 4:16 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Can't start a relationship...give up?
Quote: Background: - We have been seeing each other for 3 months - She kept coming up with excuses (She's not ready for commitment,she doesn't like me enough to develop a relationship, confused because of exams) - I decided to ignore her - She started to text me and then we decided to be friends Recently: - she came to visit me from another city twice - we had oral sex twice - she keeps telling me about other guys trying to piss me off - I feel like she's playing on more than one guy at the same time (not too sure tho) cause i told her that i know everything she's doing, and shes like "you wish but i ll go with ok if it makes you happy) - Planning to party on new years eve together with my friends - She's flirts a lot - she lurks every girl that writes on my fb wall - i told her that i like her, and she said that she likes me but i don't feel that she treats me like any of her ex's - Haven't been starting the conversation during the last 2 days, and she always does! Question: Should i give up?! How should i treat her? and how can i know if she's playing on more than one guy at the same time (keep in mind that she's partying with me on new years)? How can i handle her flirting with other people at parties? As others have said, she seems like she's a pretty horrible prospect of a girlfriend. The thing is, you're looking for some sort of magic pill or cure to make her obedient to you. You can be alpha 'till the cows come home; a hoe's a hoe and no routine in the world is gonna stop her from continuing this behavior.

Author:	Mind Hacker [ Sat Jan 01, 2011 4:42 am ]
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Dude! I had a girl exactly like this and I wanted to make her my girlfriend. Yeah, sometimes we do insane stuff!! I'm telling you... wake up! She's not girlfriend material. You just created a girl she isn't inside your head. She'll keep doing this stuff, not getting committed and keep you hanging around. Find other better girls and forget this one! PS: This girl I talked about still called me to hang out on new year party! Yes, they are persistent in trolling/mind fucking you.

Author:	brary [ Sat Jan 01, 2011 5:00 am ]
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you're getting blowjobs who cares?

Author:	Jay dog [ Sat Jan 01, 2011 9:19 pm ]
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I agree with all you guys, thanks a lot

Author:	Jay dog [ Sun Jan 02, 2011 5:38 am ]
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well actually today she told me that she wants to be just friends. I don't know why, but i don't know what to do...I don't know how to get over it, any ideas how to get over her?

Author:	Carmo [ Mon Jan 03, 2011 3:21 pm ]
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This has been discussed over and over from gftown to working out and doing more things that interest you. In my experience when you really liked a girl the only thing was time. That and understanding that she wasn't right for you

Author:	Marshy [ Mon Jan 03, 2011 3:53 pm ]
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funny enough i went through the same thing,until 3 days ago,i actually dated a girl almost exactly like yours. 1.you really can't tell if shes cheating without prove but from my experience when you start to feel shes beening unfaithful she 9/10 she is,however always remember that 1/10 chance that shes not. 2.shes a flirt,meaning she loves attention and can easily get it from another guy.If you were going to date her then you have to know that you gotta kiss your social life away or spend the night out at a party worrying what shes doing. To tell the truth no relationship with a party girl is worth it,one way or another they lose interest,so give up shes just wasting your time. Marshy

Author:	Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Mon Jan 03, 2011 11:59 pm ]
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The simple easy answer is, if she's not interested in what you're looking for, and she doesn't treat you with respect, then you shouldn't be pursuing her and trying to get her into a romantic relationship with her. The slightly more difficult answer is to look at the whole context of the relationship and see if you've been acting in the correct dominant way or not. I would guess that you were too committal about your feelings for her and didn't make her work for you at all initially. She knew exactly where you stood and that she "had" you, so no matter what she does, she can get away with it and you'll still chase her. Your choice in this case is again to drop her, at least for a while, and see if and how she tries to re-engage with you.

Author:	Jay dog [ Tue Jan 04, 2011 12:37 am ]
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Thanks everyone, and yup i haven't texted her for 2 days...Still jealous if a guy writes on her fb wall, but i gotta move on

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Author:	leomico [ Wed Jan 05, 2011 2:26 pm ]
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If you are not already bonded in a relationship way and she is playing the weird game, then date other girls. The thing is that once you do that, she will become less important for you AND on the other hand SHE will be chasing you (if not, dump her completely outta your life) Don't put too much weight on that girl. I know, its hard when you thought you found someone who is "special", but its only because YOU decided to put her in that place! Thats also a good thing, if she is worth it - when it comes to the two of you!