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| Author: | ERida [ Wed Dec 29, 2010 8:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Help with New Years and former gf |
Background Hi everyone, I'll try to keep this short. My former gf and I both started working together at the same time when we got together. We have since broken up but we still see each other every day. We have gotten together for special occasions and managed to slip kisses here and there but that's it. It was an amicable break up and both of us still have feelings for each other. Situation Last week we said good bye after work and wished each other a good New Year (NY) because I have vacation this week. When I was wishing her a good NY she stated she had nothing planned but spending it with her roommate. I saw this as an opportunity to ask her out but I think I probably framed it wrong. I plainly asked her if she wanted to do something to which she responded with a very hesitant no because of her roommate. I should have asked her in a more PUA way. I kept it open and asked her if she changed her mind to call me. We then hugged each other, she hugged me hard and held on to me for a long time. I kissed her on her cheek and told her in her ear that I stilled missed her, to which she replied "you too." I might have made a mistake by telling her this but I thought that by doing so, it would want to make her spend NY's together. Question So here's where I need some advice. Should I call her on Thur and invite her out in a PUA way or should I just let it go. I don't think she will call me. So if I don't call her I plan to tell her on Monday that since she didn't call me I went to my friends house where she was having a party. I would really appreciate some advice.[/b] |
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| Author: | ERida [ Thu Dec 30, 2010 5:49 am ] |
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No advice guys? To be honest I feel like doing nothing and just letting it go. Just because I feel like I've tried so many times to make it work between us that I feel I shouldn't even bother anymore. What drives me is that I know she still has feelings for me just as I do. The other side of me is saying, do it. It's New Year's. One last shot, one last time. If it doesn't work, then close the book on this and move on. I did go through the whole hurt phase and oneitis but I'm getting over that. I decided it wasn't worth feeling like that and cut that crap. Last week when we hugged (it had been a while since we had physical contact) some of those feelings started to creep in but I didn't let it because I know that just drives you crazy! So my dilemma is, if I ask her out in a non-needy PUA way and she says no (which is the possible outcome) at least I'll know I ended the year giving it one last shot. If I don't ask her (she prob will not call me) and we will neither be together much less talk to each other on New Year's night. Either way, whether I call her or not I don't plan on trying anymore this new year. Which is why I want to call her but since I know the possible outcome, that makes me not want to. |
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| Author: | poet1234 [ Thu Dec 30, 2010 10:33 pm ] |
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Ask her in a "pua way" ?why can't you ask her in a normal way ?I don't get it If you've been in a LTR with this girl,you see her daily,why hide under a pua persona now?Don't you think she will realize ? I bet that's the reason you broke up in the first place.(she could have done the same thing and that may have pushed you towards this behaviour,however that's not an excuse) Tell her you miss her and that you wanna meet up.The answer you gonna get is the FINAL answer.It's either YES or NO.Anything beyond that are just games. |
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| Author: | ERida [ Fri Dec 31, 2010 5:29 am ] |
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@Hobbit, I promise, I won't ask her again. Last shot, last chance. @Poet, I did just that. I asked her in a normal way that her and I should do something on New Year's. What you call normal is what I call plain. By me telling her I missed her, I'm thinking that might have sounded needy and AFCish. Who knows, it might just all be in my head. She might not even thought that my invitation was plain but that it was normal (but I don't want normal, I want better). Or that me telling her I missed her needy, because she feels the same way. Thanks fellas, appreciate your guy's take on this. |
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| Author: | STIJNvr [ Mon Jan 03, 2011 9:28 am ] |
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Send a text to her with an invitation for the party as if you send it to one of your friends. Then tell her you mistyped and it was intended for a friend but she cud come aswell if she liked |
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