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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 6:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | What it means when she says,"Do what you wanna do"? |
Short & simple. I know it depends on the context & the girl. But generally,what does it means when your gf say that. Many times I've had disagreements with my gf,I'd get fed up and say,"Do you want us to break up and end this BS"!? She would never say,"Yea,lets break up". But she always says,"Do what you wanna do". If I take that literal,it means I can lay all the girls I want and still be with her(lmao)! But I doubt she means that. |
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| Author: | madals [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 6:52 pm ] |
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"do what you want to do" = "do what I want you to do or I will bitch about you not doing what I want you to do to you, my friends and then you again." The down side is if you give in to her completely she will lose interest in you because you become just another guy doing what she says. If you do what you want to do you have to handle the bitching (which will lead to more bitching and eventually a break up unless you handle it damn perfectly). The key thing in a relationship is you don't want to get into a situation where you have a power struggle such as: Girl: I want x Guy: I want y YOU WANT TO COMPROMISE TO FIND SOMETHING YOU BOTH WANT Girl: I want x Guy: I want y, what do you think of z though? I like that too. Girl: Yeah, I like Z as well. |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 7:39 pm ] |
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Lol,thanks Madals. I notice the innate contradiction & catch 22 in this case. If I take it to mean I can cheat,and I do go and screw around,and she finds out,he can throw it in my face,bitch about it,then break up(because I cheated),eventhough she told me to do what I wanna do(lol). If I dont do anything about it,he would feel as though she has me by the balls. So what a guy to do(lol)? What I usually do in this case is to play it down the middle: Ignore her for about 2-3 days,then go back to her saying something along the lines of,"Let's have peace". She would then accuse me of cheating while ignoring her for 2-3 days. I guess it's a no win situation for the guy in this case(lol). My LTR's been a major power struggle,with me compromising most of the times to maintain peace. |
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| Author: | madals [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 8:11 pm ] |
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Personally, if you want to see other women then you shouldn't be in a LTR. If you want a relationship but want to see other women, you get into a non exclusive relationship. If you did not make this clear when you started with your GF then you only have 3 choices: 1) Realise you are in a EXCLUSIVE ltr and that means you DONT see other women 2) Realise you want to see other women more than you want to be with your gf and break up 3) Tell your GF you love her but want to see other women (calmly and seriously). She might be up for an open relationship. However, this could be something she isn't ok with and you will break up. |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 8:29 pm ] |
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@Madals-I do want to maintain the exclusive LTR. I still game and sarge,but I dont push for f-closes unless Im in a rebellious mood. Im more into social mastery than looking for f-closes. Im aint of this post wasnt to justify cheating. But to undertand why would a gf say to her bf to "do what he wants to do". Then if he does cheat,she crucifies him. |
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| Author: | madals [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 9:02 pm ] |
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I am not talking about cheating so much as how your relationship isn't working. You are telling you GF "i want to be in an exclusive LTR" but then you go out and sarge and while you might not push for a f-close you do if your "in a rebellious mood". Guess what, she picks up on this and therefore will think your cheating on her and will get pissy with you. You can't have your cake and eat it. |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 9:37 pm ] |
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I get you Madals. She some how picks up on the vibes. Im not ready to give up on sarging & learning;Im only twenty-eight. I guess the next step for me is to say it to her. She does know of PU from what I've told her,so Im some-what open. I'd like to convey to her that I will interact with others;it's just what I do(meet new ppl). |
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| Author: | madals [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 9:48 pm ] |
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can you think of a way to involve her in it? |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 10:06 pm ] |
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You know what Madals,great idea. IDK why I never thought of involving her. Im not sure she'd be cool with me having multi-LTR's;plus I dont want multi-LTR's. I just want her to come to grips with me interacting with other women. Elaborate on envolving her Madals. What you mean exactly? |
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| Author: | madals [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 10:18 pm ] |
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Would she be up for a 3sum? Have you tried picking her up, imagine you just met her and then you explain exactly what you notice and what your doing? If she likes that tell her you will show her what its like on other women, get her to try and spot what you do etc. |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 11:14 pm ] |
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Great idea Madals. I vaguely brought up a 3 some but instead of 2 girls,2 guys. Some how,I went through a quick phase(months ago)where I actually fantasized about my MILF gf being laid by nother guy(and I). I shared the fantasy with her,but she dismissed it. She didnt seem offended,just shunned the idea jokingly. But Im digging your idea a lot about involving her in stuff. |
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| Author: | Mr_Amazing [ Thu Dec 23, 2010 2:14 am ] |
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From my experience "do what you wanna do" means "You hurt my feelings. Now I`m gonna act like I don`t care in order to guilt you into doing the opposite of what you intended". |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Thu Dec 23, 2010 2:20 am ] |
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@Mr Amazing-Great observation;You hit it on the head. Thanks man. |
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| Author: | Mr_Amazing [ Thu Dec 23, 2010 7:46 am ] |
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Quote: Great idea Madals. In theory it sounds like a great idea, but in order for it to work your milf has to already be into that kind of stuff. So` it kinda has to be her fantasy too. Otherwise she will interpret all the sudden freakyness as a diss.
I vaguely brought up a 3 some but instead of 2 girls,2 guys. Some how,I went through a quick phase(months ago)where I actually fantasized about my MILF gf being laid by nother guy(and I). I shared the fantasy with her,but she dismissed it. She didnt seem offended,just shunned the idea jokingly. But Im digging your idea a lot about involving her in stuff. |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Thu Dec 23, 2010 10:02 am ] |
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@Mr.Amazing-I get that,that's why I never tried encouraging the 3-some fantasy on her. I definitely dont want a case where she thinks I see her as cheap. But I am of the view that women are very gullible and their frames are weak,so for me to communicate to her that it's natural for ppl(me)to flirt with the opposit sex,I dont think I'd need an army to help negotiate that(lol). |
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