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| Author: | Cowboy_09 [ Thu Dec 16, 2010 4:15 am ] |
| Post subject: | Getting a LTR into a friends with benefits. |
A girl broke up with me about 6 months ago. its been pretty much no contact although we were going to meet up for sex, but it got a bit hazy as she sent me an i love you text and then someone told her i cheated on her. Generally , when you come out of a LTR and want to keep them attracted to you , and open to future sex, what is the best thing to do? I have a feeling its best to have NO contact with them until you have no more feelings, then try and spark the sexual attraction again. I have a female friend who is the ultimate mack. She literally had 7 ex bfs at her birthday, all still in love with her. She breaks up with one, goes back to another one. She always breaks up with them and keeps them as friends after the break up. They are always still in love with her and hang around, and will get back with her at any point , no matter what she does. She is hot though, i guess this is different with women! |
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| Author: | Surielx [ Thu Dec 16, 2010 10:16 am ] |
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Salut! Yeah, it's different. They want to stay friends with her because they want to have sex with her, that's why. I believe it has to be pre-planned from your side. Meet a girl, have sex with her, hang out a couple more times with no sex and after that I would take her to the cinema (yes!) and dinner at which I say that: "Look, I want to be honest with you. I have a serious plan for the future.(...). I have no doubts, no girl will stay faithful for a year with no direct contact with her boyfriend. I don't know what you were up to, but I just want you not to dream of us this childish way "happy ever after". I think you are special, deep inside there is this warm feeling I haven't had for years and I think we are a special couple, (her advantages). If you want to date someone - fell free, now you have the image of what you can count on from my side and I believe you wouldn't let that special connection between us disappears like that. Just have to say it." or something similiar. Or the day after sex you say "LJBF", you are on power. I like both ways. Salut! Surielx. |
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| Author: | Mig [ Fri Dec 17, 2010 1:35 pm ] |
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I was just going to ask the same question. My GF and I broke up about a week ago but it was mutual and not because of a lack of interest in the other person. I "put my toys down gently so I may be able to play with them again." I'm pretty sure she'd be down for FWB but I have to approach the right way and am not sure of that way. We've hung out since the breakup once but I didn't know what to do yet. |
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| Author: | Surielx [ Tue Dec 21, 2010 7:19 am ] |
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Salut! Hey Mig, keep us informed about that, I like to hang out with one of my exs but - I admit - no experience in that subject. Salut! Surielx |
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| Author: | Cowboy_09 [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 4:13 am ] |
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Quote: I was just going to ask the same question. My GF and I broke up about a week ago but it was mutual and not because of a lack of interest in the other person. I "put my toys down gently so I may be able to play with them again."
If you still have feelings for her dude then you need to go no contact,I'm pretty sure she'd be down for FWB but I have to approach the right way and am not sure of that way. We've hung out since the breakup once but I didn't know what to do yet. If you accept friendship after the break up, especially with no sex, then you lose all attraction to her Leave her along for 3-6 months then revisit Im currently about to meet up with a girl i was with for a long time. She broke up with me. She even thinks i cheated on her, which i didnt But because i have had pretty much minimal contact i know there is still attraction there and i can enjoy a sexual relationship with her again |
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| Author: | Mig [ Wed Dec 22, 2010 1:38 pm ] |
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Hey guys - I can't say I have "relationship" feelings for her still, but I don't want her to be worse off because of me. Basically, I've been trying to sexualize our conversations since we broke up, though I froze her out for the first week. She's always the one contacting me and wanting to hang out. She has been very agreeable to conversations that are sexual... I guess either way I have to make it happen now or wait a few months. |
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| Author: | Surielx [ Thu Dec 23, 2010 8:42 am ] |
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Salut! Quote: She's always the one contacting me and wanting to hang out. She has been very agreeable to conversations that are sexual...
So where is the problem? Be alpha and leave the "friends with benefits" subject for the breakfast.Salut! Surielx. |
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| Author: | visualizesuccess [ Sun Jan 02, 2011 10:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | it sounds |
like you were thinking too much. She was already open to the idea without spelling it out it seems. enjoy |
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