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Author:  Andrewsmooth [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 3:03 pm ]
Post subject:  Photos of a guy! Help!
Well, I was killing time on my girlfriend pc and when i was watching her photos i saw an album entirely dedicated to a guy, I know for a fact she never had anything with him, but she had lots of photos of him (alone or with friends), she created that album before we were dating and I also discover she created a false facebook proabbly to steal those photos I know this was before we were dating but what the hell she should have the cortesy to delete the photos when we starting dating i think its a massive lack of respect to me.

How should I handle this? Should I be worried? Im really mad right now but im not sure if i should have the talk with her or not or just ignore because if i tell her will show her a weakness or some shit.
Author:  Hakuna [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 3:44 pm ]
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Never display your jealousy or insecurities.

Next time your on her PC with her, open the photos and laugh at her and then be like "haha, i didn't know you were this type of girl." It accomplishes both goals:

(a) shows her disapproval and disqualification
(b) shows that you are an Alpha Male who isn't phased by anything

Remember, you need to simultaneously show disapproval AND confidence, (i e; never lose your composure)

You could also just not care. I mean honestly, having photos of another guy before you guys were dating isn't a big deal. Whenever you go through shit tests like these, let them remind you that you need to avoid getting Oneitis.
Author:  Apocalyptica [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 3:58 pm ]
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Imagine you had photos on YOUR pc of a (hot) girl you met some time before, but you are now with another.

Would it matter?

It matters ONLY when you get everything from the girl you are NOW with.

The same applies to her.
Author:  Andrewsmooth [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 7:27 pm ]
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the problem is if was the other way around she would explode. and make me feel guilty and all that shit.
Author:  Matahashi [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 9:43 pm ]
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k im just throwing another point of view out there because this is me so i can kind of see why this happend. she could be like me, it was before you guys were together so she didnt think anything of it, ive got over almost 200 different pictures (naughty pictures and normal ones) that i just wont delete for a few reasons, one being that you might need those photos in the future you never know, one of the girls i have pictures of started flirting w me while i had a different gf and i really didnt want her around so i used the pictures as leverage. she was intelligent and left me alone because she didnt want those pictures everywhere. another reason could just be that they are memories. I've got a box in my room that is decorated w everything my first gf ever gave me. does it seem a little odd? well yeah, but memories are important and i spent 5 years with her so i learned a lot in those five years and it would be nice to come back and look at later in life.

so pretty much what im saying is dont look at it in a bad way. maybe her and that guy had something at somepoint? who cares as long as it isnt now. if you havent already consulted her about it try finding a way to bring it up to ask( i dont know a lot of details so i cant really give you an example). you said she isnt doing anything with him so dont stress yourself over it, she might just be like me and want to keep the pictures for memories.
Author:  thelenzel [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 11:40 pm ]
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I would just ask her who he is and why she has them ... if I had pictures of girls on my computer it would be wrong, I mean, I know you have past lovers and all that, but still why keep around their pictures... Its just not ok, in my opinion.. I wouldn't approve of that, and I would tell her. Memories can be in your head, you don't need to have a whole album of pictures of a guy or a girl if you want to remember. Im sure if she saw pictures of a girl on your computer she would get mad.
Author:  Andrewsmooth [ Sat Dec 11, 2010 4:19 am ]
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I did what hakuna told me , and she lied told me it wasnt for her it was for her friend she lied right in my face. that make me suspicious she could have told me yeah i had a crush on him while back. but no she denied. that made me angry think she has a crush or whatever but dont think she ever talked to him. And she also got mad because she told her I invaded her privacy well she got defensive its not like that photos where hidden well we hang on the phone im going for the no contact.

I m tottaly good with photos of her ex, its normal memories when they were dating doesnt make me jealosy and shit. but an entire album created of stolen photos on facebook of a guy she probably doesnt talk that much geez is she 12 or something and its recent.

Really bothers because when im seeing a photo of girl on facebook random of friends she goes overboard saying that i dont respect her and shit
Author:  AGDubz [ Sun Dec 19, 2010 2:48 pm ]
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^She was probably really embarrassed.
Author:  Bimm3r [ Sun Dec 19, 2010 3:02 pm ]
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^She was probably really embarrassed.
I agree.. How was her body language?? Remember, the words may decieve, but the eyes and body will always tell the truth.. Learn to read your GF.

If it was me, i would read on my girlfriend that she was just embarrassed and perhaps she thinks i will get mad a yell..

Then just say "come on baby, just tell me truth, i wont be mad if you had a crush on him before me.."

If she then says "yeah i had, but its long time ago... im sorry"

Then just say

"Its ok hun, just tell me the truth next time.."


Of couse this is an example, now its too late hehe, but learn how to read her.. It could be that she was just lying..

Personally, i would be a bit creeped out if my GF had 200 pics of a guy.. But yeah, its up to you.. In time you will know your girl better..

Remember that the most important thing in a relationship is:

Honesty, tell her you went and saw the pictures, and u got mad or whatever.
Humility & patience, dont get mad and yell at her, try to understand her, try to better her.
And these two things, she gotta learn too.. It will come in time.. Dont get mad if she lied, try to talk with her about it.. :).. In a calm way, and done hide anger and go all day and say to yourself "That bitch how could she.. bla bla"
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