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Author:  trackjunkie [ Fri Nov 19, 2010 12:41 pm ]
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I was an afc, got no girls, girls thought I was creepy.

Learned to be a PUA, girls loved me, I resented them because I had to be someone who I wasn't. This went on for 3 years.

1 year ago, I decided I didn't have time to deal with women's games and bullshit

Then I thought it would be fun to go out again and see if I could get a girl being myself at a bar, and I hated the scene, and no girls were interested in me.

1 month ago, I was online and found a girl on an escort site, she came over and seemed really happy to see me, I thought I was a sex addict, but I wasn't. I did have sex with her for a few minutes, didn't cum, and told her I wanted to get to know her.

She ended up spending the night, and moved in the next day. Then disappeared the next day with all her stuff with me. Came back got it all, and moved in somewhere else. We spent a lot of time together the next week and went on vacation together. She paid me back the original money I had paid to get her to come over, and never asked me for a dime. She even quit what she was doing.

I thought things were going great until she ignored me for an entire week, she told me she didn't want to hurt me. We talked about it. And she's spent the night again.

I thought things were going great, but then she wouldn't even look me in the eyes, and was dealing with the same sketchy people. At this point I just told her how I felt. I know I did all I could, I even shed a quiet a few tears. She looked me in the eyes again. Her and I have had to suppress our emotions since we were kids, neither of us were allowed to cry or have feelings. She melted on my lap tonight.

Being yourself and getting the girl is far more rewarding than being someone else and getting the girl.

Although being yourself, not getting the girl and being vulnerable can be a pretty painful feeling.

Have fun out there guys, I wouldn't be who I am today if it wasn't for this PUA site.
Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Fri Nov 19, 2010 2:10 pm ]
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I'm happy you found a girl you like.

However, I'm troubled by this idea that you need to be "someone else" in order to get women if you're currently not succeeding. I'm sorry you felt like you had to lie or pretend in order to get women. I would imagine doing so would make you feel unhappy.

Of course, I went through doing routine based stuff about my jealous girlfriend who didn't exist, but I think a lot of us start out like that.

However, the "techniques" we discuss are just ways of talking and acting that help you convey certain aspects of your personality, to get your foot in the door and get the girl to be interested and invest in you. Those aspects that you highlight about yourself are REALLY YOU, and once you've gotten her to invest and are in a relationship, that's YOU she calls to talk to and YOU she comes to see and YOU she fucks.

In conclusion, "be your best self."
Author:  trackjunkie [ Fri Nov 19, 2010 11:26 pm ]
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I'm glad for you but worried.
why is that>?
Author:  kasabi [ Sat Nov 20, 2010 6:40 am ]
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I'm glad for you but worried.
why is that>?
I'm worried you didn't achieve the internal growth to have a successful, sustainable relationship.
Hobbit, ^this might be a goal for you and those who tune in to Oprah but who knows why any of us are here as individuals? How would you even define a "successful relationship"? Ask old guys about their achievements and you might hear, 'parenthood', 'careers', 'public service', etc . . . Although some common themes exist, everybody's here(life) for different reasons. Sometimes, the relationship itself isn't a goal but a means to even more important things.
Author:  trackjunkie [ Fri Nov 26, 2010 1:15 pm ]
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I was delusional and on a heroin binge for the last month, been sober now for 7 days and wow.

I really have no excuse, she's gone.

The only thing is I told so many people about her and now what. Speaks volume of my character.
Author:  kasabi [ Sat Nov 27, 2010 7:09 pm ]
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1. This girl is a transitional riff raff. Regardless of your goals, she is meant to stick around with a guy for a few weeks at best. This is the reality she creates for herself. (There is no way in hell she's ever experienced a long term relationship.)

2. Regardless of what you think/say your goals may be, you DO NOT behave as a guy who desires long term relationships. Anything long term requires some consistency. You don't have any. And because you don't have any "consistency", you starve for it in the form of a relationship.

3. Anybody who meets you will figure out #2, thus anybody who chooses to have any sort of relationship with you are those who live off of short term encounters.

This might sound completely strange to you now but consider managing some consistency with little things first. Eat BREAKFAST EVERYDAY at a specific time. Can you do this? ANYBODY CAN do this and many do. Do not belittle this little exercise as I bet you will find this difficult to do and might justify your non-compliance with, "It's just fucking breakfast!" - To you, this is much more than just breakfast. You'll want to add other 'consistencies' to your schedule as you progress.

And I'm sure others have told you this before, GO FIND A SUPPORT group for your drug habit. If you cannot manage this part of your life, it'll be difficult for you to experience progress in other areas of your life.

This is a "support group for pick up". Stick around and share/learn pointers but it will do very little for other aspects of your life.
Author:  dasani [ Fri Dec 03, 2010 3:57 pm ]
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I define successful as achieving what Trackjunkie wants out of the relationship. What I meant by my comment is a lot of the people who make these similar type posts end up having lots of drama and such a few months after their post saying this. While some people seem to enjoy the stress/drama, most seem to view it as a drain to all parts of their life -- regardless if the relationship isn't the goal.

Successful and sustainable doesn't mean finding the one. I meant it as a relationship that will be below average in drama and stress until something/someone happens and the relationship terminates.
My experiences are similar in that I thought my inner game was sufficient, but I learned that it was far from it. I believe that sometimes these situations or stress/drama situations have to happen in order for some people to realize that their inner game isn't as good as they perceive and that there's much more to learn. It's a kind of necessary evil?
Author:  Saro [ Fri Dec 03, 2010 8:21 pm ]
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Whats the point in living life if your not going to be yourself. The idea is to improve yourself, not change yourself entirely
Author:  pointguard56 [ Wed Dec 08, 2010 2:28 pm ]
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id say you should always be yourself, people can sometimes see through the bull, even if they cant at first the true you will come out eventually and who knows if they like the "true you"
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