in my opinion. its better to wait.... i mean if i was in your shoes getting impatient and spilling it out the wrong time might be a big boooboooo. better be safe than sorry since its goin to be a serious thing.
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| Author: | -enjoi- [ Thu Nov 11, 2010 7:18 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Calling her your gf |
Hi guys, Ok so here's what's up. I've been seeing a couple girls and I'm feeling it more with the one than the other. I know typically when a girl starts calling me her boyfriend prematurely... well I get relationship anxiety and usually end the relationship. The girl i'm seeing more seriously than the other has the same kind of commitment-o-phobia as myself, which works out since she's not a stage5 clinger. I guess the help I need in this area is: When is the right time to call her my girlfriend? I know it's not right now since I don't feel it yet, but in the future, to avoid any kind of running away on anyone's part. To give you the run-down, K-closed on the first night out, F-closed the second. She holds my hand a lot and touches me a lot. Advice? |
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| Author: | Carmo [ Thu Nov 11, 2010 8:14 pm ] |
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The girl usually boraches that subject first. 4 dates seems awfully pre-mature to even consider being a couple. If you like her though and actually want to be her bf i would just wait until she brings it up.......they always do. |
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| Author: | zappo [ Fri Nov 12, 2010 12:00 am ] |
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Im in the same situation , however ive been dating this girl for a month and a half now . I just tell everyone on the forum shes my gf coz its easier to do so than explain the relation that were exclusive to each other but not yet commited as we do bf gf stuff all the time . I nearly accidentally called her my gf and i have identified us as a couple , or seeing eachother by mistake . and well she just gave me weird shocked eyes haha . Im just gonna do as the guy above said , just wait it out . If your happy as you are . then why risk fxcking it up ? I know Im heading down the right track because we have talked about doing stuff a few months in the future together , Maybe you should to . either way im interested in what others have to say. |
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| Author: | Rex Pierce [ Fri Nov 12, 2010 5:12 pm ] |
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i'm on the same boat. we've been going out for two weeks. at first we were just talking and hanging out a lot at school (so other people wouldn't know what's going on between us) but then we stareted holding hands and kissing. one day she tells me : "people are gonna think we are a couple" and i replied with do you mind. she say no. yesterday the whole school saw us making out and it was pretty funny. but do i wait till she brings up the subject? |
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| Author: | zpncc [ Fri Nov 12, 2010 5:34 pm ] |
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in my opinion. its better to wait.... i mean if i was in your shoes getting impatient and spilling it out the wrong time might be a big boooboooo. better be safe than sorry since its goin to be a serious thing.
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| Author: | sheybutter [ Sat Nov 13, 2010 7:46 am ] |
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In 99% of these situations, you (the guy) don't bring up the subject. Girls almost always will bring up the "bf/gf" topic. Take it from there when she asks. |
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| Author: | ariana [ Sat Nov 13, 2010 11:41 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Calling her your gf |
well first is there any need for anyone to actually use the term bf or gf ever at all? you two can just keep seeing/dating/f**king each other just because you like to, i dont think you need to label anything or anybody - perhaps this girl will feel the same way? second, if there is any need, as for when is the 'right time', surely the answer has to be 'when it feels right' but...if it gets to christmas (this one's only 41 days away) or her birthday, and you actually WANT to buy a girl a gift and card that says 'to my girlfriend' because it makes you happy to do that, then its probably the right time |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Sat Nov 13, 2010 3:41 pm ] |
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I've noticed a trend after reading it from some top-dating coaches;it's always the girl to initiate the relationship phase. Guys,I think we should have some say here(lol). Never let a woman steer you into a (pre-mature)relationship;it wont work,eventhough damn near ever LTR is dictated by the girl. |
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| Author: | maria_ [ Sat Nov 13, 2010 5:18 pm ] |
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I don't know about other girls but I never bring up the bf/gf topic. If it is not the guy that hints on it after we had sex I take it as lack of interest from his part and I move on. |
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| Author: | enrique [ Sun Nov 14, 2010 1:37 am ] |
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I'm in a similar situation. Gonna let her bring it up |
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| Author: | sheybutter [ Mon Nov 22, 2010 12:54 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Calling her your gf |
Quote: well first is there any need for anyone to actually use the term bf or gf ever at all? you two can just keep seeing/dating/f**king each other just because you like to, i dont think you need to label anything or anybody - perhaps this girl will feel the same way?
For me personally, my friends with benefits usually catch feelings, while I'm just there for the sex.One girl wanted more, and I had to let it go because I didn't feel the same way as she did. |
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| Author: | aidenfuckingbaker [ Tue Nov 23, 2010 4:18 am ] |
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Quote: in my opinion. its better to wait.... i mean if i was in your shoes getting impatient and spilling it out the wrong time might be a big boooboooo. better be safe than sorry since its goin to be a serious thing.
Hell yeah. Asking her out too quick is AFC. Learn from my mistakes bro. Use your intuition and non-selfish thinking
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| Author: | Mind Hacker [ Tue Nov 23, 2010 7:42 pm ] |
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I should've found this thread before. But what if she says she likes you but run away from labeling the relationship? Female player? |
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| Author: | ryhi [ Tue Nov 23, 2010 10:02 pm ] |
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i'd have to agree with everyone else |
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| Author: | zappo [ Tue Nov 30, 2010 8:18 pm ] |
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[quote="zappo"]. Im just gonna do as the guy above said , just wait it out . quote] Ignore what i just said there , its bullshit , I brought up the conversation , I stated i usually wait for the girl to bring this up . her response I never bring it up Either way were together now
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