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| Author: | wrapper [ Sat Oct 02, 2010 8:33 pm ] |
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i'm in college, and i now have a girlfriend, and we go out to eat once a week or so. at first, i made sure we split the bill, but after we had sex, i decided to pay for it as a signal that this is a reward for her good behavior. so now that we're in a relationship and will be shopping and eating out (as well as having sex) fairly often, should i pay all the time? most of the time? should i insist we split the bill? |
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| Author: | maria_ [ Sat Oct 02, 2010 9:23 pm ] |
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You pay for yours, she pays for hers. You don't have to stick to that though all the time. 95% you do it this way and a 5% you offer something small. ( nothing expensive) Being with someone that is stingy is annoying. Being with someone that pays for you all the time makes you lose respect for him. You have to keep it balanced. |
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| Author: | Bimm3r [ Sun Oct 03, 2010 2:04 am ] |
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i disagree.. if you go shopping, and she wants some clothes or shoes whatever, you shouldnt even think about paying.. But when you go out to dinner, pay.. If she's is a good girl, she will tell you "come on, let me pay also".. Then you say, "pay me back with kisses" or "okay, the ice cream is on you then" something like that.. just dont make everything a rule.. if you wanna pay, pay, if you dont, dont.. |
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| Author: | twisted66 [ Sun Oct 03, 2010 3:59 pm ] |
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Definitely don't pay for any shopping. And as far as restaurants and food goes pay every now and then and on special occasions obviously. Not paying for her when you take her out on a birthday is just bad, but she can afford her own part of a normal meal |
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| Author: | Mr_Amazing [ Sun Oct 03, 2010 4:41 pm ] |
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if you guys were cool with splitting the bill, i say continue doing that...contrary to what you might think, most women don`t mind contributing to the bill. they actually lose respect for the guy who insists on paying for everything all the time... |
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| Author: | nightandday [ Sat Oct 09, 2010 11:34 pm ] |
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only pay when you intend to take her out and treat her because shes been a good girl, almost a reward. but when its just out and about, spilt the bill, or even take it in turns, but never argue over money unless shes insists you pay everytime, cause its the "gentleman" thing to do. |
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| Author: | NeedsMoreFlow [ Sun Oct 10, 2010 2:50 am ] |
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With the women that I have dated for more than a few months, I usually pay for most of it and have then pay for something small like a round of drinks or dessert. |
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| Author: | Chief [ Mon Oct 11, 2010 2:56 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: who pays? |
Quote: but after we had sex, i decided to pay for it as a signal that this is a reward for her good behavior.
Don't reward intrinsically motivated behavior with external bribes. It may trigger the overjustification effect and can cause her to enjoy sex less.You can learn more about that effect here: http://chiefpua.blogspot.com/2008/04/so ... ickup.html It's an article I wrote about this effect in relation to pickup in 2008. And remember: she's your girlfriend, not a prostitute you hired. |
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