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Author:  Ethan Hunt [ Tue Sep 21, 2010 9:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Girlfriend Losing Interest Or Playing Hard To Get?
Me and my girlfriend haven't been together that long (just a couple of weeks). For the past two or three days she has really seemed to lose interest in me. At the start of the relationship she kept telling me how I was too good for her, and that she didn't think she could ever be with a guy like me (from lots of DHVing). She would text/call constantly and try to set up dates and stuff like that. But now for some reason it has gone the other way.

I suspect the reason may be the environment in which we hang out. We go to the same school but don't have any classes together, so we hang out on every break we have every single day, and we have been going to the movies for the past two weekends. I think this nonchalant routine is a big problem. There is no spice anymore, we do the same things every single day. Except today she usually meets me by my last period class, but she didn't even come. My other theory is she may be playing hard to get?

Even on the phone she doesn't try to get me to compliment her like she used to, and it seems she is running out of things to say. Most of the time she is talking to people on FB or watching TV while we are talking.

One more possible explanation is her very low self esteem. She had virtually no self esteem because everyone thought she was a whore until we started dating. I took it upon myself as a good boyfriend to show her she is not a whore, and she is special, and I explained to her that as long as she was a good girlfriend, I didn't care what she had done, she is still special to me. This could have been a mistake because now she thinks I am wrapped around her finger possibly...

So is her attraction for me lost? If so why, and how do I get it back?
Author:  twisted66 [ Tue Sep 21, 2010 10:15 pm ]
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You overexausted the relationship; hanging out everyday will be bad for any relationship. Second of all you are panicking over her not wanting to see you once which is revealing the insecurities you have of yourself. Depending on how old you are you should give each other room for friends and other activities instead of seeing each other all the time.
Author:  maria_ [ Wed Sep 22, 2010 12:09 pm ]
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I agree that you are too much time together.

I don't think that she believes all of these you are talking about.

Time some time out for yourself.
Author:  poet1234 [ Wed Sep 22, 2010 12:30 pm ]
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At the start of the relationship she kept telling me how I was too good for her
Did you believe it ?
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I suspect the reason may be the environment in which we hang out
Do you believe what you just wrote ?
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and we have been going to the movies for the past two weekends
This isn't related to the subject,but quit the movie stuff(unless it's at your place) in such 2 weeks "relationships".
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There is no spice anymore, we do the same things every single day
There are 10.000 things to do,really.Try something new,and try to be someone fresh,better every day.Your inner self can be trapped in a routine as well,think about that.
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My other theory is she may be playing hard to get?
Look,you can have as many theories you want,but just make sure you don't do the same thing as her.Why do I say that ?
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She would text/call constantly
So don't just lay back and wait for her,do you really think she will accept having the least power in the relationship forever ?
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Even on the phone she doesn't try to get me to compliment her like she used to
Like i said before,you can compliment her without her telling you.You don't have to be like "i love you soo much baby" just say something simple "your hair looks good today/nice dress"
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Most of the time she is talking to people on FB or watching TV while we are talking.
You can/should talk about this
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I took it upon myself as a good boyfriend to show her she is not a whore
Don't go thinking you're some kind of hero, even assuming you are right,she will not think the same as you(i hope you understand this).
Author:  biggus [ Wed Sep 22, 2010 12:52 pm ]
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The thing that jumped out at me and my rather inept view of everything, is that everyone thinks that she is a whore.

Why is that hmm?

and

What have you done to magically reform her?

depending on those answers are will dictate how your relationship pans out, those points coupled with the spending too much time together suggests it may be coming to an end, sorry to say... just remember thats only MY opinion.
Author:  Ethan Hunt [ Fri Sep 24, 2010 8:28 pm ]
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Well the day I made this post we actually talked about breaking up, but we decided to give it another week. After that things have been going really smoothly. We are getting along much better and we have changed up our hang out times and spots. So thanks for the help guys.

Ethan
Author:  Little Panda [ Fri Sep 24, 2010 8:43 pm ]
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She may have turned the tables, making you the clingy one. She's watching TV, or chatting on FB while you're talking to her on the phone.

That's disrespectful for one. And you didn't react to that at all. This gives me the feeling you're not reacting to lots of things she's doing.

Result = She starts taking you for granted.
Author:  Mr_Amazing [ Sat Sep 25, 2010 5:09 am ]
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what jumped out for me was the part where she said you were too good for her. whenever girls give you the whole "i dont deserve you" line, especially in a new relationship, it is a sign that you were exhibiting a lot of nice guy behavior...and she is going to make you pay for it by disrespecting you in some way. when people get special SPAM when they didnt deserve it, subconsciously they will do things to negatively correct the special SPAM
Author:  Mr_Amazing [ Sat Sep 25, 2010 5:14 am ]
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what jumped out for me was the part where she said you were too good for her. whenever girls give you the whole "i dont deserve you" line, especially in a new relationship, it is a sign that you were exhibiting a lot of nice guy behavior...and she is going to make you pay for it by disrespecting you in some way. when people get special SPAM when they didnt deserve it, subconsciously they will do things to negatively correct the special SPAM. so, i think you need to spend a little less time around her and when you are around her stop being so acccommodating.
Author:  Bmitchell1876 [ Fri Oct 01, 2010 11:52 am ]
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Sorry but I'm gonna drop a truth grenade...

You can't make a ho a house wife..

Your in nice guy status and your boring her... She's used to fuckin, not watching tv... Bang or one good time and see if it changes anything...

Anybody else agree??
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