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| Author: | Luxuria [ Tue Aug 10, 2010 11:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | I need URGENT help |
Hey, so I've been seeing this girl for around 2 months now, and it's going so so well. The thing is, she's going to university (while I'm taking a gap year) come late September (around 5 weeks from now), so when we got together we agreed we'd stop what we were doing before we parted ways. Anyway, she went to a party recently and got talking to some mates of hers about the rest of their summer plans. She then apparently came to some sort of realisation and now she seems to think we've gotten in too deep and should start to detatch ourselves (it's actually a lot more complicated, but I suppose it doesn't need to be gotten into). I have really really fallen for this girl, and I want to spend as much time as we can together in the next 5 weeks, but she doesn't meet me on this one. Any suggestions on how I can get my way? Any help would mean a great deal to me, thank you. |
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| Author: | poet1234 [ Wed Aug 11, 2010 7:32 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I need URGENT help |
Quote: Any suggestions on how I can get my way?
Relationship is not about always getting your way.People post on this forum asking how to get her to do this thing,how to fclose her,how to turn this thing around for them.The best thing to do(contrary to the popular belief) is what she said,not to go against her.Yes,actually start "detaching" yourself.That shows you respect her decision about this relationship,also you might spark attraction by being congruent to what she said and make her regret it(don't go expecting any results however).
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| Author: | Lips_and_Hips [ Thu Aug 12, 2010 1:47 am ] |
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I can understand where she is coming from. She is trying to make it easier for both of you, because if you continue to see each other for the next 5 weeks, even deeper feelings will develop and it will make it so much harder to leave each other than it would if you were to leave each other now. Just respect her wishes and she might contact you becasue she might not be strong enough to be in the same area as you and not see her. My ex and I decided to stop seeing each other before I went overseas but neither of us could deal with knowing each other was in the same city, so we ended up being together until I left. You said that you had an agreeement that you would stop the relationship before you left each other. I know it's hard because you didn't expect to fall for each other so hard but she is just trying to preserve her feelings and try and get over you like she knows she will have to. I know it's hard buddy, but you have to be strong. |
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| Author: | Andronikos [ Thu Aug 12, 2010 6:26 pm ] |
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You gotta see what she means by "detaching herself." If she still really likes you and is purposely distancing herself as a way to get used to your absence when both of you part ways, then that's not so bad. On the other hand, if she's doing so because talking to her mates about your relationship with her has changed her views and feelings for you, then that could be a problem. What I suggest you do is continue to play your game the way you have. Whatever you do or say, don't assert that you guys have to see each other as much as possible- that kind of behavior produces needy individuals and you're better than that. For this time, acknowledge that she would like her distance and wish her well. Eventually, in due time, if you execute properly, she'll be naturally upset that you guys don't spend enough time with each other, and then you'll be able to adjust accordingly. If after some time, she acts as if the "detachment" doesn't bother her, then you'll know where your problem lies. |
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