I’ve been there Nemo and it can be challenging, hard to accept?, but that word best describe LDRs. Bear in mind that the word is challenging, not impossible. LDR’s takes away the ability to see each other freely, as well as the choice of being intimate when desired, not to mention the major trust issues.
Agree on a time to end the distance
You should first agree on an end goal with your Gf -- a specific time, “we've gone home to our separate states for a few months”- when is the separation is going to end? Will you be back at school together? Otherwise, you may end up stringing along the status quo indefinitely, breeding a particularly robust strain of frustration.
Schedule contact time
The quality and quantity of verbal communication with your woman
will need to increase substantially when you start your LDR. Be prepared for this increase in verbal game. You might want to switch to a new mobile phone plan ( Cell phone) with a network that offers a good deal like unlimited talk time to a nominated user. Talk time availability is important, find out when the best times are to call her and let her know when is the best time to reach you.
Make time as if you were meeting up in person, take notes of important info and schedule using a calendar. If you have to miss a date let her know before hand (prevention is the best remedy). Bridges are especially easy to burn from so far away. Try closing the gap with video chat, such as SPAM.com
Schedule visits
Visits, like a weekend together is vitally important at least once every six weeks. SPAM hasn’t finished developing it’s touch and smell chat plug in yet. Smell is the strongest sense tied to memory, you’ll want to keep up physical relations during long-distance relationships. A trip to visit shows you care, no matter how far away she is. When you visit try to find some activity to do so you’re not just visiting and hanging out at the shopping centre like an uncle.
Raise your trust level
Trust is a major requisite to continue your relationship from a distance. Without trust and honesty, the relationship is in for danger, just as it would have been the 6 months leading to this LDR- even though you are put in this position by external factors you still must decide on accepting the challenge of a LDR, you both must accept the fact that you will have to have the trust and faith that your partner will not be seeing anyone else as promised. Paranoia and accusations will only grow doubts between you and none of those feelings will help the relationship survive successfully.
Keeping each other informed of the friendships from your circle and the events that taking place in your personal life is a great way to keep your partner a part of your life. Stories will begin to revolve around people you’ve never heard of and she’ll begin to take on certain characteristics you won’t recognize. Your role will change slightly as well. It’s not an attack against you, so try not to show too much jealousy.
LONG-DISTANCE LOVIN'
When it comes to long-distance relationships the name of the game is prioritising what’s important to the both of you. If it’s family or a relationship that you find occupying the top spot, great, but you’ll have to sacrifice your other interests a little bit. If you are both career-oriented people and can put your relationship on the back burner for a while, then a long-distance relationship may be for you. It’s all about weighing the ups and downs associated with what you want from your life
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