I don't usually ask for advice, but I need some clear perspective. I've been committed to this girl for 6 weeks. I'm really connected to her, love her, whatever. She had a one way ticket out of town and I knew this going into our relationship. Last week she was only planning on leaving for a few weeks. This week I notice she's distant and I call her out on it and she tells me the next day we have to break up because she's going to be out of town for three MONTHS (she changes her mind a lot on this, she might not come back at all, I have a feeling). I agree because we've only been dating for a month and no way I can behave for three months (or however long) without her at this point, which I told her.

So here's the part I'm losing sleep over. She's leaving in two weeks and says she's going to be too busy to see me. I encouraged her to make the time so we can at least have fun before she leaves. I'm playing it off like it's no big thing, but part of me wants to just fight this, press her into making an hour for me so I can tell her in person how I feel. I can give her my best shot and it might be enough to make her decide to come back early again; might tip the scales. I might as well throw it out there because she might end up not coming back anyway. On the other hand, I feel like playing it cool, making new dates, and stopping the bleeding is the wise choice (which I'm already doing).

This is a relationship, I'm not asking how to game her. Thoughts? What would you guys do? Stay the course or spill my guts? Thanks, you guys are helping already.

I'm not trying to make her stay or have a long distance relationship, I just wanted to give her incentive to come back. She's leaving for a wedding and to spend time with friends. I talked to her face to face Tuesday and I decided we should see eachother til she leaves, we'll take a break, and pick up if she comes back, no questions asked about the months she's gone.

So I felt satisfied with that. But now I feel like a chump. She showed me this crappy phone she's using now and said she was going to change to another company to get a new phone and would text me from her new number. I tried calling her in the evening yesterday and it went straight to voicemail. As of today, I still haven't heard from her and I'm thinking she might have just made up the problem with her phone to avoid me because when she tried breaking up, I said I wanted to meet with her and made this little arrangement.

But that seems insecure, if she wanted to avoid me, she could have just made excuses not to meet me Tuesday and could've changed her number without telling me. Probably they're just transferring her number to a new service, which causes an interruption. I don't know, I made a Facebook account and sent her a message there. Either way, I think I need to leave it the fuck alone at this point, I'm being really clingy because she's only in town for a limited time. I should probably act like she already left, no?

Case... reopened... I make myself sick.

She texted me some fluff earlier today and I just outright asked her if she freaked out because I told her I loved her last time I saw her. Apparently she started avoiding me in the first place because I said something offhand that ended with "because I love you" and this apparently triggered her daddy abandonment issues and now she's terrified of me. I think she's telling the truth because I doubt she would've remembered it unless it meant something to her.

She said she should be free tonight and admitted she's just been making BS excuses not to see me this last week. I see a likely flake in my near future. I'm starting to get the impression she might be an actual psycho and might just be totally dicking with me. One thing is for sure though, DO NOT FUCKING TELL THE GIRL YOU LOVE HER FIRST! Keep it to yourself! Lesson learned.

On the plus side, my ego has been restored. I knew there was no way a girl could lose interest in me when I go all out.

I don't usually ask for advice, but I need some clear perspective. I've been committed to this girl for 6 weeks. I'm really connected to her, love her, whatever. She had a one way ticket out of town and I knew this going into our relationship. Last week she was only planning on leaving for a few weeks. This week I notice she's distant and I call her out on it and she tells me the next day we have to break up because she's going to be out of town for three MONTHS (she changes her mind a lot on this, she might not come back at all, I have a feeling). I agree because we've only been dating for a month and no way I can behave for three months (or however long) without her at this point, which I told her.

So here's the part I'm losing sleep over. She's leaving in two weeks and says she's going to be too busy to see me. I encouraged her to make the time so we can at least have fun before she leaves. I'm playing it off like it's no big thing, but part of me wants to just fight this, press her into making an hour for me so I can tell her in person how I feel. I can give her my best shot and it might be enough to make her decide to come back early again; might tip the scales. I might as well throw it out there because she might end up not coming back anyway. On the other hand, I feel like playing it cool, making new dates, and stopping the bleeding is the wise choice (which I'm already doing).

This is a relationship, I'm not asking how to game her. Thoughts? What would you guys do? Stay the course or spill my guts? Thanks, you guys are helping already.

That's a bad idea. She went somewhere cold. I like the sun. This is old news, though, I'm already moving on. If she ends up coming back, I'd consider picking up where we left off, depending where I'm at in August. Quote away.