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| Author: | thelenzel [ Mon May 10, 2010 11:39 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How busy is too busy ...? |
I've heard, and read, over and over, that something that is attractive to girls, is the fact that they're not your life, but rather a part of your life, in other words: being busy for her. Now... I see my girlfriend everyday at school, and sometimes we go out on weekdays ... But after I get out of work, because I work ... and we go out on weekends, we've been together for a month, and there's only been 1 weekend we haven't gone out. But we sometimes go to the movies when we get out of school, I'm taking her to breakfast tommorow since we go out early. The thing is basically, I have the weekends free for her, of course, I don't see her all weekend, just one day, usually saturday. But I have them free... So, how busy is too busy ...? |
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| Author: | hosta [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 8:48 pm ] |
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Well I am guessing you are at the beginning stages of your relationship. My suggestion to you is to gradually reduce the amount of time that you see her, but do it in a way that wont hurt her. Theres no denying if you continue seeing eachother every single day that you guys will get bored of eachother and begin fighting. Make sure she knows that you have a lot of positive things going on in your life and that she is expendable. This creates value for yourself as she will see you more suitable than other guys. Have some time for yourself but make sure its clear to her that although you trust her undoubtedly and completely, that if she makes the mistake of losing your trust that you will make her pay and she will lose you. Remember my friend, YOU are the prize, not her. ciao |
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| Author: | Lorenzo321 [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 9:35 pm ] |
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I completely agree with hosta on this. I could not put it any better. I would like to add that you do not necessarily have to do something when you are "busy." She just has to think that you are busy and cant be with her. I think after you have developed the relationship enough that she is yours, then you can put her aside and she will truly miss you. It is so important to create an SPAM where you are missed because then you can clearly notice how much value you actually have in the relationship. . . |
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| Author: | hosta [ Mon Jun 07, 2010 9:50 pm ] |
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Quote: I completely agree with hosta on this. I could not put it any better. I would like to add that you do not necessarily have to do something when you are "busy." She just has to think that you are busy and cant be with her. I think after you have developed the relationship enough that she is yours, then you can put her aside and she will truly miss you.
Exactly, It doesn't matter if your freaking brad pitt, If you allow your value to drop, and she knows that shes got you by your tail, instinctively out of nature she will use that leveredge and see what she is able to get away with.
It is so important to create an SPAM where you are missed because then you can clearly notice how much value you actually have in the relationship. . . |
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| Author: | General Lamb [ Wed Jun 09, 2010 12:56 pm ] |
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Great advice here already, all I'm going to add is that it might be worth taking up a new hobby, such as football or martial arts. That way it'll be easier to be "busy" as you really do have something else to do, and it'll give you something else to talk about when you do see her. |
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| Author: | Lorenzo321 [ Thu Jun 10, 2010 9:58 pm ] |
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For real, so true! I am big on not being taken advantage of. It is so interesting that Host said that even brad pitt could be taken as a fool if he allowed himself to be. It is all about how much value she preceives that you have. Once she notices that she cannot have you all the time, she will instinctively value that amount of time that you actually give her. I love doing this because there is less opportunity that bullsh*t occurs because time is valuable with you. Think about it, if you could only have her for 5 hours one day a week-> u would definately not want to fight about little things; you would want to show love to her to show her how much affection you have for her just in case she forgot since you have not seen her in a while.... |
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| Author: | hosta [ Sat Jun 12, 2010 4:46 am ] |
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Quote: For real, so true! I am big on not being taken advantage of. It is so interesting that Host said that even brad pitt could be taken as a fool if he allowed himself to be. It is all about how much value she preceives that you have. Once she notices that she cannot have you all the time, she will instinctively value that amount of time that you actually give her.
Exactly... you get the point.
I love doing this because there is less opportunity that bullsh*t occurs because time is valuable with you. Think about it, if you could only have her for 5 hours one day a week-> u would definately not want to fight about little things; you would want to show love to her to show her how much affection you have for her just in case she forgot since you have not seen her in a while.... |
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| Author: | minsok [ Sat Jun 12, 2010 8:30 am ] |
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Wrong! Wrong! Wrong! If you're only seeing the girl on weekends, that sounds like a good balance. Have you never heard of girls that cheat and then scream, "Well you were never around!" after they get found out? You are IN A FUCKING RELATIONSHIP. The rules of game don't apply anymore. One more time. DON'T GAME YOUR GIRLFRIEND. If you have to avoid your girlfriend to maintain your value, maybe you're not a very quality guy. The more she's with you, the more she should see little nuances in your personality and value you. Just because advice sounds good, doesn't mean that it is. If you start making BS reasons to spend less time with her and not satisfying her emotional needs and comfort, how do you think she's going to spend her extra time away from you? Pining for you while lying in bed? |
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